she's not even 1 and having tantrums

[musicalmummy]

is that normal to tantrum at this age?for example if she goes over near the bin we used to be able to say no and take her away and she'd quite happily play where we put her. but now...you say no and have to say it very firmly, i clap my hands once very loudly(i don't want to smack ) and she bungs it on big time, screams "mum mum mum"and cries. i ignore her and let her sulk.
dinner times are horrendous now. my girl who used to happily let me feed her wants to do it all herself, and get it everywhere!!! she wil let me spoon feed her if she can also pick food out of the bowl.
i am a fully qualified child care worker but it's so different when it's your own!!

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

It's quite normal don't worry. I would be getting some baby gates- if you don't allready adn try removing everything she can't have out of temptation. I believe that for a baby telling them not to touch something like that is like telling them not to breath - it is fascinating for them, and she isn't really old enough to understand why she can't have these things.

As for the feeding, If possible I would strip her down to her nappy and place her somewhere where she can amake a mess or get a big plastic mat underneath her chair, she will never learn if you don't let her. It will be messy for a long time but she will get the hang of it, and for when you are out i would buy those huge bibs with sleeves. Also if she feeds herself she will stop when she is full and she will be more likely to try new foods (I have read) Good luck I hope this helps.

[KapowSchazam]

Yep, it's all normal. Time to start on finger foods :D

Maybe try to distract her before taking her away from the bin for example? Get her attention onto something else first. Or use a word that she'll always respond to - 'outside' works for B, but that means that I HAVE to take her outside when she comes over. It works every time though :)

[Areca]

Perfectly normal.

Let her experiment with food. If you feed her puree's or something and are worried she won't get enough if she feeds herself give her a spoon and you have a spoon and you both feed her!

As far as touching bins etc....yep all normal. Although I don't agree with removing absolutely everything they aren't allowed to play with. I took away anything she could hurt herself with (breakables etc.) but other things I would just say no, and if she didn't listen I'd remove her from the situation. I wanted to teach her that sometimes you just can't touch. Not everywhere we go is baby proofed so that was why I did it that way. It meant a lot more work for me in the beginning but it worked to be great in the end.

I now have a 2 year old terror and the slightest thing sets her off into full tantrum mode but the words 'don't touch' she listens to without a drama thankfully and I am putting that down to the hard yards earlier on. Do what you feel is right for you though.