How do I get him to agree?

[AbbyJ]

I want to go for a third and hubby doesn't.

Hubby has flat out said no more kids, but talking this week he turned around and said he hasn't completely ruled out having another but he is pretty set on having only 2.

We have one of each so everyone keeps telling me to be happy with what I have, but it doesn't change how I feel.

I used to only want 2 also but now that I am here, I am continually thinking that this is my last baby and I am starting to get really clucky again (dd is only 6 mths).

He agreed that I didn't have to sell all of DDs stuff as soon as she grows out of them and that we would review things when she is 12 mths old, but then said that he was very unlikely to change his mind.

I don't want to badger him into it but I also don't want to resent him if we don't have another. One of us is going to lose.

Has anyone successfully talked their spouse into another child without there being any hurt feelings or resentments? Or, how do you come to terms with having your last baby ever?

Thanks,
Peta.

[Sanzinoz]

I know how you feel, I am in the same boat! I want #4 but DH says 3 is plenty. Your hubbys words are hauntingly familiar, as are your friends. I too am worried about future resentments - which ever decision is reached - and it is playing on my mind quite a lot lately. I havent given up all together, but I think I have "nagged" him enough for a while. Will try again once and for all at a later date.

I dont feel "finished" like people say, and I am having a hard time accepting that I will never have another baby. I am sorry I have no words of wisdom. Hopefully someone will have a few tips for both of us! Good luck.