View Full Version : Should i get my son circumsised
Helo im in a bit of a pickle here wondering if i should still get my son cut, now when i rang about it he was 2 months as i had forgotton about it till then, (still had pregnancy brain, and still do now) and it was $270 and as i didnt have that kind of money at the time i thought id wait a month or two, and i no time was passing.
Anyway i rang when he was 5 months and it was $570 now i haavnt ranga gain but he is no 9.5 months and im afraid if i do it to him now that would be to painfull. is there any mums out there who have had ther son done this late, His daddy is done and his Half brother,(Toms son) isnt..
All of his cousins are done and they are all the same age (well between 3 and 1 close enough)....
Please i need some advice wat to do, should i or shouldnt i is it not a big a deal anymore or wat....Im not to fussed but would have liked to do it when he was born woops???
thanks for listenin mummy in need.....:fingerscrossed:
We did it and regretted it.:(
For me personally I wouldnt do it again if given the choice, it was a very traumatic experience which continued to haunt me for many many months.:crying:
I feel it is my sons body therefore it is his decision NOT mine. JMO:)
Good luck with what ever you decide.
oh and btw good luck with the thread:fingerscrossed:
I really hope that this thread stays positive and supportive...
my little DS wasn't circumsised... if you aren't fussed either way .. does it really need to be done??
-- if you wait a few more months at least the little tyke can have some anesthetic (I'm not sure what the minimum age is ... to lower the risk) .. so that he can be more comfortable with the procedure.
good luck - I hope you get some GOOD and POSITIVE SUPPORTIVE advice...
There is a whole section which may help you make up your mind.
Hope this helps :)
I always thought we would circumcise our son but once we looked into it, we decided against it. It's certainly not as common now as it once was.
I'd personally avoid it as I see it now as unecessary but that just my opinion.
Good luck with whatever you decide.:hugs:
I think you will find that the majority of people don't do it anymore (I think the figures are something like 90% don't.) There will be people on here who will justify their decision for doing it, but if you aren't too worried about whether he is done or not I would say don't - a lot of money and pain etc for something that doesn't need to be done.
Look into the other threads on circ & come to a decision that YOU feel comfortable with.
Its your choice to make about your son. Either way you go make a decision based on what you read & research.
I too hope this thread remains friendly.
p.s - I did have my son circumcised but thats not for everyone & i dont regret it.
awwwww :hugs: this may be the most positive thread about circusicision ever on bubhub!!!!! :smiliedance:
please DO read the other threads... there is LOTS of information out there... for both sides of the issue.. use the search function - there will be HEAPS of threads... some easy to read.. some quite confrontational.
Today the vast majority of Australian boys grow up happily with the bodies that nature gave them. Although circumcision was common from the 1920s to the 1960s, medical authorities have been discouraging and advising against the practice since the 1970s, and it is now pretty much a thing of the past. Most parents want their boys to be as happy and healthy as possible, and they know that leaving their penis to develop naturally is the best way to secure these outcomes.
My son is not circ btw. He's happy beautiful & healthy baby, and thats enough for us :thumbsup:
For further reading click on: Circumcision in Australia (http://www.circinfo.org/)
Wish you all the best! :)
If it's not a big deal to you now, and you are comfortable with it, then I wouldn't get it done. As a lot have been saying, lots of boys aren't done nowadays and this is becoming the norm.
Save up the money for it though, and go spend it on yourself!!!
its up to you completley I got my son done at 5 weeks old and i dont regret the decision at all. I watched him get it done and it really wasnt that bad. He only cried or a second and that had more to do with the fact he was hungry. As he was done so young im not sure if it would be different for your little guy. Maybe you could ask your doctor about the procedure etc...they do give them a local to stop a bit of the pain. Im neither for or against circumcision. I got my son done because i wanted to and i respect people who choose not too aswell. Im glad this is a positive thread. goodluck with your decsion - if you have any questions or whatever PM me. alot of little boys arent done these days - our doctor did research in our area and it was 60/40 (60% not done but i figured it was close enough to 50/50 and DF wanted him done).
Firstly I'd just like to thank everyone who has responded to this thread in such a supportive, non judgmental way. And yet everyone is still sharing their opinions and views while not having a go at decisions that ppl have made. Thanks a bunch :thumbsup: .
Secondly, it is a bit theoretical for me (as we have girls), but if we had a boy, we would not have considered getting him routinely circ'd at all. DH isn't, and so neither of us would have thought it an important or beneficial thing to do.
Best of luck with your decision - you have to do what is right for your family.
It's a choice only you and your partner can make. Read all the material you can get your hands on, go through both pros and cons for each side and then decide what is best for your family.
Both our son's are circ'd and if (when we eventually get our third) next bub is a boy he will be done also.
Best of luck.
I agree that it is both a difficult and personal decision, but since you have asked for opinions, here's my 2 cents:
As your son's half-brother is not circumcised, I would not go ahead with it. I think if it was that important to you, perhaps you would not have procrastinated over it for this long.
My DS isn't, which was our personal choice. If he wants to do something as an adult, then that will be his decision. I don't know all the medical ins & outs or reasons, but my brother was circumcised in his 20's, so I know it can be done.
Good luck with your decision. :)
:yelclap: Hey ladies thnx heaps for all of your opinions and advice after alot of talkin and research we have decidet to get ashton done, now i no that it is what my partner wants cause when i told him it will be painfull he nilly fainted:crying: , but still said i think we should do it for ashton, as ashton already has a large strawberry neavus on his face and we dont want him to feel even more diff from his daddy, and cousins...
THanks again it was a ver positive thread, very proud of u all.....:smiliedance:
My nephew was done at 12mths and is fine and smart and doesn't remember a thing (he is nearly 6now) he was in intensive care untill 2wks and his mum forgot but got him done at 12mths and like I said he is fine. My little boy was done early which I don't recomend but his forskin was too tight and making it bleed because he couldn't pee properly so he was done at 5days. We were going to get him done anyway but just had too do it early poor little thing. He is fine and great now.
Where do you live because if you live in Brisbane I can tell you a Doctor that does it for $60 (the rest on Medicare). Don't worry he is good. I think he is just old fashioned.
Anyway I believe it is cleaner and healthier. Let us know what you decide.
Oh yeah both my nephew and my little man were in pain for an afternoon/evening and maybe uncomfortable the next day and then as long as you didn't bump it they were all good. It takes 5-7days to heal properly but they don't really notice it after two.
I have spoken to a lot of my male friends about this topic and the ones who aren't circ'd are happy that they were not and the ones who are would rather not have been.
There is a line in the movie 28 days where one of the characters gets asked to make a wish and he wishes for.....
"My foreskin back. Nobody asked me when they took it"
As for all the discussions we have had at our house about it (a lot lately as my best friend just had a little boy) this seems to be the general feeling about it!
Schmell - I have to disagree with you there about all men feeling the same about circ. Most of my b/f's over the years have never had any problems with it & i have spoken to my male friends who are circ'ed & they laugh at the idea they are unhappy as they dont care & are happy. Just as the guys i do know who arent done say yeah they are happy as they are although i have known a few who were pondering it later in life. My cousins dont care & nor does my partner they cant see what all the fuss is about.
But as ive said before i have to wait a few years to find out whether i have created an unhappy little boy but i seriously doubt that as i know with all the love & care he gets from both of us he will be secure in himself no matter what his body looks like.
Sorry thats off the topic i shall stay out of this thread now.
I think the decision has been made so there is no need to criticise ashtons mum.
Maybe this means the thread should be closed now that she has come to this decision ?
Before it's closed, I just wanted to say - glad you've come to a decision Ashton's mum.
That's the main thing - it's been said time and again - you should be bringing up your children as you feel will benefit them and as you now feel you've read your research etc and come to a decision that is informed, then as Ally says - it's probably the best time to close your thread.
The best parent is one who is confident in the care they provide for their children (and a supported parent is a confident parent) as they will help nurture a child with confidence.:smiliedance:
Don't get me wrong allyoo, I was just saying of the people I have spoken to most NOT ALL, would rather not have been. And by no means have I spoken to every male on the planet!!
I did not realise that ashton's mum had made a decision so I too will stay out of this thread now.
Now that Ashton's mum has made her decision, she probably doesn't need this thread anymore. Thank you all for providing your opinions calmly and clearly (in the most part - LOL). So nice to be closing a thread on this topic that hasn't become heated!!
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