Is this depression?

[liesl]

A bit about me is that I am 12 weeks pregnant with no.2 and although it was a surprise and i wasn't thrilled about being pregnant (too soon to DD 18 months for me), I am now OK about being pregnant. I still wish this was a year later than it happened, but I believe things in life are meant to be for a reason and this child has been sent because it's the right time.

I have been feeling quite down the past few weeks. No motivation, feeling sad at lots of things, getting teary at the little helpful things DD does for me. Stupid things really. I had morning sickness for about 6 weeks which made me not enjoy being pregnant, but I think it has passed now (fingers crossed). I have no family nearby (in another state) and as I have only lived in Perth for a couple of years no good friends I feel I can share things with. I guess I am feeling isolated, missing my mum and her advice, missing that my parents can't see my kids growing up, missing the nurturing I would get from my family.

DH is a great guy and is really trying his hardest to understand how I feel, but he doesn't get it. I think he is starting to feel I am being lazy (maybe that's just me feeling it though as I am normally quite motivated). He cooks dinner every night and although he doesn't really clean the house, he is doing the basics to keep things ticking over.

I suppose I just want to know if other pregnant women are feeling this way and if it's normal to be so down at this stage. I don't remember feeling this way with DD, but we had so many visitors from overseas we were pretty distracted.

I want to be excited about being pregnant, having a fabulous daughter and husband and generally having a pretty good life, but things are just getting me down and I feel everywhere I turn something else just makes me feel sad.

I keep thinking tomorrow is a new day and I will feel better, but even making plans to meet with other mums isn't helping.

Liesl

[justmum]

Hi Liesl, :hugs::hugs::hugs: sorry no one has responded to you yet.

I have no idea if you are depressed. I suggest if you are feeling this way that it would be worth going to see someone. Do you have a child health nurse? They can administer a test that will at least give you an indication and you can take it further.

Then next step is to go to your GP and then further to a psychologist or psychiatrist of required. Or you can go straight to your GP.

IMO it is completely normal to have feelings like this when you are pregnant but, because of your DD, I would go and see someone ASAP to get help if you do need it.

I hope that you feel better soon. :hugs::hugs::hugs:

[TwoBlue]

Hi there

Firstly :hugs: Pregnancy is hard when its your first child and its oober hard when you have a toddler to deal with also !

I would definately see your Gp and talk to them, just to be sure but to me it just sounds like a hormonal/tired/lonely sort of thing...

Talk to your Gp though, it cant hurt
:hugs:

[mother2]

dear liesl,
When I fell pregnant with ds, dd was only 5mnths old, so I went through a bit of a sad stage too. However yours sounds worse that what mine was, If I were you I would talk to my gp at next visit, or make one. It could be something as simple as hormones going haywire, every pregnancy is different. With dd I was happy all the time ( even during the morning sickness), but with ds I was sad to begin with, think it was mainly cause I was freaking at having two kids so close together, then I went through a stage where it was easy to annoy shall we say me. Of course dh was happy when ds came along, cause my mood swings left the same day.

[liesl]

Thanks everyone for your advice. A few days have passed and I am feeling better as I am really making an effort to get out and about with DD and socialise with other mums.

I have also found out one of the girls I see who has a DD 2 months older then mine is also pregnant, so makes it easier to talk about how I'm feeling having someone understand what I am going through.

I will keep in mind going to see my GP though if I continue to feel down, but at the moment I am putting it down to hormones and feeling tired. Hopefully I can get a few good nights sleep to help me feel recharged again.

Liesl