Wifestyles? Dr Phil today...

[SweetSerenity]

Anyone watch Wifestyles on Dr Phil today???

I was DISGUSTED with the husband! How dare he expect a "Stepford" wife out of her???

It makes me sick when i hear men expecting their wives get all the house work done, look after the children, do the rest of the chores and make sure you have dinner on the table when he gets home all while you look glamorous and sexy.....How is that possible???

Did anyone else watch this today???

I just couldn't believe him!!!:banghead:

[ThomasMum]

Anyone watch Wifestyles on Dr Phil today???

I was DISGUSTED with the husband! How dare he expect a "Stepford" wife out of her???

It makes me sick when i hear men expecting their wives get all the house work done, look after the children, do the rest of the chores and make sure you have dinner on the table when he gets home all while you look glamorous and sexy.....How is that possible???

Did anyone else watch this today???

I just couldn't believe him!!!:banghead:

No I haven't, to be honest I dont watch Dr Phill. Thanks to Saturday Night Live who had ruined the image of Dr Phil for me lol

I'd rather be single than to have a husband who treats me like that! :thumbsdown:

[babycrazy]

Have you noticed Dr Phil - is a complete EGO-MANIAC?
His wife Robyn (who never leaves his side) often announces when infront of the audience "I believe I was put on this earth to be Phil's wife and the boys mother" - Like Hello - have you noticed "the boys" are now in their 20's. Get a life woman.
Plus she has had more plastic surgery that that weird catwoman person.
His eldest son Jay (whom I am not sure as yet has any qualifications) rewrites Dr Phils books from "teen perpectives" LOL LOL - he even does a big "literature review" LOL but of course DR PHIL has to be on the cover too so someone will by it.
DR PHIL wouldnt last 5 minutes in Australia - Americans are so stupid, no offence to any Americans out there - I mean as a complete nation, not individually. LOL

Did you know Robyn even gets up at 5 am to run on the treadmill and keep herself trim for Phil - and so as not to disturb "family time" during the normal 9-5.

I mean - gimme a break - Phils a millionaire - like they dont have paid help????? She would melt if she got too close to the tumble drier.

Sorry - I know it doesnt answer your question etc but just had to vent out my Dr Phil annoyance.

[ThomasMum]

LOL babycrazy. I'm sure you are not alone. Don't forget his son Jay McGraw has a renovation TV show---just because :laughing:

Carry on...

[Pixie]

Yep I watched it. I am sure that guy isn't alone in what he "thinks a wife should be"

I love the little girl who said "when I grow, I don't want to be a wife" :laughing:

[shed]

I think Jay does have some qualifications. He went to college.

Anyway, what I wanted to say is that I didn't see it but our house is not run like that at all.

DP's mother was saying something about me cooking dinner or something (wasn't really listening) after the baby is born, something about some recipe being quick and easy or something and I am like "I'm not cooking as well as looking after the baby all day" and DP goes "THANK you Mum, thank you!" to finally have someone to suggest that I would cook. As if. He was only joking though.

We just laughed at the far-fetchedness of it.

I am also not doing his washing. I am doing my own and the baby's. I am not even going to offer to do his in case it becomes a habit. He is fine with this, says he prefers to do his own anyway, like he has been doing for 20 years already.

My job is looking after bubby. I am a career woman starting a new career of being my son's mother. If DP wants a 1950's housewife he went to the wrong pub the night we met :laughing:

[rynosmum]

It makes me sick when i hear men expecting their wives get all the house work done, look after the children, do the rest of the chores and make sure you have dinner on the table when he gets home all while you look glamorous and sexy.....How is that possible???

Maybe I'm asking for trouble here or maybe I was just brought up differently.

I believe that partners should share chores to a degree - without a doubt. But I also expect (from myself) that I will always try to look good for my husband - it's part of the investment that I make into our relationship. Even days lounging around the house, I wear light makeup. That said, I expect him to look after himself too and at least wear a clean T-Shirt:laughing:

I like to cook so am more than happy to cook special meals whenever possible and I feel really proud if he comes home and dinner is ready, DS happily playing, house tidy etc.

Then again, I work (from home) full time so also love it when I come home from meetings and he has everything ready to BBQ. Of course, sometimes we're both exhausted and we might get a pizza but I'm starting to actually prefer to make my own.

If there's something we both don't like doing (Ironing etc), then we get someone else to do it - in this case, my MIL.

I don't follow Dr Phil at all but this is just how I was brought up. I don't put his clothes out, cook every meal, pick up everything for him (like my mother still does for my father) but so far as keeping the house clean and dinner on the table.....I guess I don't see the issue there.

He doesn't know how lucky he is !:eek:

[rainbowbeetle]

i only tuned in on the end of that couple.

and yes i loved the little girl who said she was never going to be a wife.

for me, although not a wife, but a girlfriend of 3 years today, living pretty much together for the last 12ish months, i think its about finding a balance.

i only work 2 days a week, so i cook most of the time, and do the washing, and the cleaning, cause my partner works 5 and a half days a week.

that said, if i was tired and wanted him to cook, or wash up, he would.

if i put on makeup during the day, its cause i want to, not so i look good for my guy. and he knows things are special when i do my makeup the way he likes it, when we go out.

its amazing how different everyones perspectives can be.

[Bewitched]

:laughing: LOL babcrazy, i nearly wet my pants laughing reading your perspective!! Especially the melt-near-the-drier analysis. I agree, no offence to any individuals out there but the americans on these talk shows just make me want to :barf:
You are so right babycrazy about Dr Phil not lasting even 5 minutes in Australia - but do you know why?? Because us Aussies have some damn dignity that's why - no way in hell would you find us up there sharing our sexual problem swith the whole country - eeeewww! That stuff is private between your partner and yourself...okay fine, if you've had a bit too much to drink you might share some info with you're best friend..:laughing:

Ironically, i LOVE the movie The Stepford Wives (with Nicole Kidman), but only because i think Matthew Broderick is a sweetie and the gay guy Roger is an absolute crack up! But yeah - i don't want to be a stepford wife at any cost thanks!

[wattle]

I didn't see the show but with attitudes like that........ BLAME THEIR MOTHERS!

[SassyDiva]

When you are in a relationship and have children you are part of a team and both have to contribute in order for things to run smoothly.

My husband and I have 2 boys, 3yo and 6mnth old. We have our own business so hubby works until approx 6.30pm and I manage the bookwork side of things - but I see my most important role as mother and love being at home pottering around..

I think each person should contribute to the running of the household - but don't mind doing the everyday cooking / cleaning, cause I know my man works hard and deserves to relax, as do I in the evening when our darling boys are in bed.

So long as your not taken for granted - i think do what u can for each other. Saying that their is nothing I hate more than arogrance, and it repulses me when a woman is dominated by a man.

[SweetSerenity]

Maybe I'm asking for trouble here or maybe I was just brought up differently.

I believe that partners should share chores to a degree - without a doubt. But I also expect (from myself) that I will always try to look good for my husband - it's part of the investment that I make into our relationship. Even days lounging around the house, I wear light makeup. That said, I expect him to look after himself too and at least wear a clean T-Shirt:laughing:


I agree, but this guy was asking his wife to greet him at the door wearing a french maids outfit??? I mean come on...theres looking good, and then looking wrong!
He also wanted her to wash his car and mow the lawn in sexy outfits....sounds more like a fantasty then a wifes duties!
Im a make up artist so im the first to say i put make up on everyday and look my best, but this poor lady had three kids to run around after and it's just not her personality to look "glamorous" all day!

I do all the chores around the house (inside) and brett looks after outside. I work 3 - 5 days a week depending aswell as juggling home life, and im happy with the way things are.

I just don't agree with men who think they should tell a women how to do her job (as this man was doing).

[rynosmum]

I agree, but this guy was asking his wife to greet him at the door wearing a french maids outfit??? I mean come on...theres looking good, and then looking wrong!He also wanted her to wash his car and mow the lawn in sexy outfits....sounds more like a fantasty then a wifes duties!

You mean you don't do that ? :laughing:

Honestly though, what was the wife's take on this ? :eek:

[Baby Girl]

I try my best to be a 'stepford' wife, well partner but that is my little secret ;)

My DP couldn't care less....

if the house is sparkling - he only makes it dull again

if dinner is on the table - he would rather cook, he's asian and the food I cook "is bland", suits me

if I look fantastic all day - he certainly doesn't (I think he always looks great) try to look gorgeous and doesn't expect me to, as long as i haveclothes on when people visit he is happy :laughing:

I always like the house to be clean and the girls to be clean and their clothes tidy. I like to feel good and dressing nicely, doing my hair etc helps.

DP likes it if he gets home from work and the girls are happy and I am not pulling my hair out :smiliedance:

[caitsmum]

I have to say that when I come home at 7.30 at night after a 10 hour shift, I REALLY appreciate a meal and the girls being bathed and ready for bed. I get up at 5.30am to get the girls ready before I have to leave at 6.30 am and I am so tired when I get home. It is a lot of give and take - the days that I am at home and hubby is at work I just remember how tired I am when I get home from work and how much I appreciate coming home to a house in order and just try and do the same for him.

I didn't watch Dr Phil but that husband - is he from this planet? I'm sorry but I can't get my head around that maid's outfit. That just tops it off. Natalie you said it - it is definately wrong.

[LittleBoysRock]

All I can say is I LUURRVVVEEE my DH!! I am so glad he is not a narrow minded so and so.

We are equals in this relationship and I wouldnt have it any other way. I didnt say Love honour and obey....

I said love, honour and cherish and that is just what I do. :smiliedance:

[SweetSerenity]

She just had a very low self esteem Rynosmum....everything she tried to do better wasn't good enough. He even RATED her meals, either an A B or C...how ridiculous is that??? He said that if its a thrown together meal such as spaghetti its a C class meal!:banghead: Men like this do my head in!!! Lol.

[reAllytee]

Have you noticed Dr Phil - is a complete EGO-MANIAC?
His wife Robyn (who never leaves his side) often announces when infront of the audience "I believe I was put on this earth to be Phil's wife and the boys mother" - Like Hello - have you noticed "the boys" are now in their 20's. Get a life woman.
Sorry but i didnt realise it was such a bad thing to love your kids & show it. I think its lovely to feel this way & actually find myself thinking this nowadays with my boy & have even said it
.


His eldest son Jay (whom I am not sure as yet has any qualifications) rewrites Dr Phils books from "teen perpectives" LOL LOL - he even does a big "literature review" LOL but of course DR PHIL has to be on the cover too so someone will by it.
Hate to break it to you but he is actually a lawyer :)
So he has a few qualifications.



DR PHIL wouldnt last 5 minutes in Australia - Americans are so stupid, no offence to any Americans out there - I mean as a complete nation, not individually. LOL
:laughing:
Of course he wouldnt but it isnt so bad that some of his advice is common sense & sometimes we arent all thinking straight & cant see the right path etc. Im often left shaking my head at the people he has on but thats not to say he isnt offering help to those who need it.



Did you know Robyn even gets up at 5 am to run on the treadmill and keep herself trim for Phil - and so as not to disturb "family time" during the normal 9-5.
I dont believe she does it for him but more herself which she has stated on previous shows ....
Im just wondering though if you hate him so much then why watch ? :confused:
You are able to control what you watch.

Sorry i dont mean to be rude & if you take offence to this then im sorry.

[pegasus]

I sort of think that shows like Dr Phil and the like would probably last if done in Australia...

Look at how many people watch it and how we've picked up our own versions of BB and TBL? Are we so different from the Americans? I watched a bit of the second series of TBL and now bits of the Australian one - my take is that the Australian one is *****ier and has people acting out more.

We may like to think we're different, but are we really? Okay - I admit it, I wouldn't go on one of these shows, as at the end of the day, no matter how much money I was paid, I'd still have to go back to living with people who know me there are still things I don't want to share with the rest of the world. Just like I don't share everything on this forum (I might still meet some more of you in real life one day!).

My biggest thought when I see these shows (yes I do watch them when I'm able - Judge Judy, Dr Phil, - bring back Springer) is that I wonder what happens when these people go back home and see people they have been speaking about, or what happens when people they know find out more intimate details about their lives that they hadn't shared until they went on television.

[KiLLaKaZ]

i think my ex wanted me to be a stepford wife! :(

i was raised with my dad sharing the housework with us kids (mum was lazy & deligated to us as much as she could, she did do some, however.) ex was raised with a mum who did EVERYTHING for him - & still does!! we're living together now (separate rooms) & instead of cooking for himself here, he goes to his mum for breakfast, a packed lunch & dinner!! she was even doing his washing for him until recently (i've even done it & what dishes he's used for him a few times coz he leaves his mess around! :mad: )

sorry - just venting!!

[shinebrite]

I get the impression sometimes my dear dear dear husband wants me to b a "stepford wife" not all the make up and looking good but the washing, cooking cleaning, baby looking after and all that.

when we first moved in together i would work, clean, cook and then serve him dinner then have to wash up cause thats what his mum would do for him... even take his plate up, get him a cup of tea... but now after a hectic 4months of BAD morning sickness he has learnt to pretty much come home after working a full on labour day and have to clean and cook and look after a sick wife... which is good!

But when the baby comes Im pretty much expecting I will be doing everything around the house and obviously looking after a new born, he brings in the bread so I kinda dont see the problem. If he starts work at 5:30 in the morning and works til 6 I think he should come home to a nicley cleaned house, cooked meal and a baby he can play with... otherwise I think he would just get stessed out.

but saying all that Im sure he really wouldnt mind things being out of place, a no-makeuped wife kinda thing.....

.... I like Dr Phil sometimes... but I agree some "americans" too open on T.V

[SweetSerenity]

I tend to agree with Allyoo...whats so worng with having a loving family??? I know majority of families aren't as close as theirs, but why put it down! I know id much prefer to have a family thats has the same values as theirs compared to other families!

Regarding stepford wives...my hubby doesn't put any pressure on me whatsoever to have EVREYTHING done by the time he gets home, because i work aswell he understands that im juggling two jobs, which can be hard at times.
I definately don't expect him to do alot around the house as he has 5am starts and can finish at 5pm some days...so i do understand he's so tired when he gets home!

[reAllytee]

If my partner wanted a stepford wife then he wouldve traded me in ages ago LOL.
I live in my p.j's most days LOL.
He was in shock last weekend with Harry's blessing/ birthday party as i had on nice clothes had my hair done & make up on :eek:
It happens just very rarely now.
There have been times where he has gotten annoyed things havent been done or the likes but when it comes down to it he understands why.
Guess im lucky i have a keeper :D

[KatherineIV]

DS and I were sitting eating lunch when that particular episode of Dr Phil was on.... When that woman was on saying everything she does the first thing that came to mind was "She has to be on on drugs" I think this for two reasons 1) Who has that much energy with kids 2) who wants to make that their day to day existance.

I have to say I respect everybody for their lifestyle choices and beliefs / opinions... and I respect that woman for being able to do all that and to be HAPPY with it.

Unfortunately (although not a wife legally...but pretty much the same thing -Defacto) I am the WORSE person to be compared to that woman.. I HATE cooking... I HATE cleaning... I would rather have my toenails removed with scrissors than bake...

I am the ANTI Stepford wife... anything you could possibly imagine I am the complete opposite...

Don't get me wrong... The house is clean and I cook all meals etc.... but If we could afford a maid and a cook... I would be outta there. I was really career orientated before having my son... my perspective on this has changed... I would now rather spend time with him then putting a bit of blusher on before DP comes home!!

The way I look at it... my DP knew what he was getting in for... and he loves me just the way I am..

If that guy wants a Stepford wife... Hire out the movie... and leave his poor wife alone.... (who seemed to be doing a fantastic job by the way)

[SweetSerenity]

Lol...i know that lady seemed a bit brain washed didn't she?? lol
I would never want to be like that....thats just a bit too weird for me lol