What's wrong with a bit of the ol' rumpy pumpy?

[GloomCookie]

I'm new to these forums, and new to even really thinking about pregnancy (I never paid attention in health :laughing: ) but I'm just curious about what happened to the ol' rumpy pumpy?

Everyone seems to be talking about charts for this and that and using thermometers of some sort to predict when best to get pregnant, what happened to chance? Has anyone on these forums just left it up to chance? How long did it take in trying to get pregnant? Isn't it a whole lot more fun? :p

[Seekrit]

Some people have been waiting and trying so long that "chance" isn't always an option.

Lots of people go "Chance" for their first few months, I did, worked for me - but it doesn't work for all.
And some don't do "rumpy pumpy" all the time.

[MumsieMel]

The reason lots of people on here use these tools to predict ovaluation is cause they have TROUBLE TTC!

I think your post is a bit rude and upsetting to some of the people on here TTC! :eek:

Step back and think how it would feel to contiually try and get know where, but these tools help women to work out what is going on with their bodies and hopefully concieve!

Trust im sure if any women on this forum had a choice they would love to just fall pg at the drop of a hat, after leaving it to chance :rolleyes:

Please be a little more careful with how you word your thoughts! :banghead:

[draught]

As Mel said - for a lot of us we tried just letting nature takes its course but when nothing happens you start looking to maximize your chances by being in tune with your body and when the optimum time is. Here's hoping that you won't need to go that route, and that if you do, you understand why people on here are looking for support not judgement.

[nut]

What Mumsiemel said!:thumbsup:

I am genuinely happy for you that TTC has so far been a stress free and fun thing. I think it is fair to say that most of us who are TTC would absolutely love never to have monitored our CM or peed on an OPK. But, life isn't always perfect, and a fully fertile couple can expect to wait 6-12 months to concieve on average.

I commend people who not only deliberately and thoughtfully decide to have kids, but who empower themselves enough to get to know their body and its fertility signs.

[ButterflyKisses]

I hope when you do start to have children you are one of the lucky ones that can fall easily.

Believe me if I had my choice I would of preferred to of fallen pregnant using the old rumpy pumpy method instead of having an IVF specialist, lab assistant, nurse gorking at my private bits with my poor DH looking on. People who can conceive naturally are soooo very lucky but I also consider us IVF people very lucky as well because I saw my egg, I saw my DS when he was an embryo before implantation and to me it is a miracle that anyone can fall pregnant because the embryo at that stage is that small that it cannot be seen by the naked eye.

I know you didn't intentionally comment in the negative but TTC is hard for a lot of couples and no amount of rumpy pumpy will produce a child for them. That's why we have ovulation kits for people trying to see when is the best time for them to TTC, IVF, egg/sperm donors, adoption etc for those unlucky ones that cannot do it naturally.

I wish you all the best when it is your time to TTC.

[GloomCookie]

Originally posted by MumsieMel
I think your post is a bit rude and upsetting to some of the people on here TTC!

Step back and think how it would feel to contiually try and get know where, but these tools help women to work out what is going on with their bodies and hopefully concieve!

I can't see how what I said could have been rude or upsetting. I asked a very simple question, mainly because after looking through the forums no one seemed to comment on it, and as this is my first attempt at TTC, I wanted more info.

I was not meaning to be rude or anything, I was honestly curious. I have never heard of any of the methods that have been mentioned.

Quite frankly I found what you posted "rude and upsetting". All I did was ask a few questions and I got attacked for it. It is not insensitive, it is a question regarding a method of conception that obviously isn't discussed regularly.


Other than that gripe, thanks to all who gave me info and I welcome more input.

[MumsieMel]

It is not insensitive, it is a question regarding a method of conception that obviously isn't discussed regularly.



Obviously it is discussed often enough for you to have noticed! :rolleyes:

Anyhow i think you could have worded it better, obviously im not the only one who thought it was rude and insensitive. :thumbsdown:

[Seekrit]

I think it was more the perceived tone of the post. To me it came across as tho' you were being deliberately insensitive to those who weren't just taking chance.

[lukaelmo]

I have been on the hub for about 6 months now, and during that time I have read some of the TTC threads and seen how hard some couples need to work at having a baby. And time and time again others fall pregnant without even trying. The TTC lasses are always there to congratulate the newly expectant mothers, full of grace and happiness for others achieving what they want so much for themselves.

I am sure if it were all as easy as a bit of rumpy pumpy, then that's exactly all the TTCers would be doing :laughing: .

[rynosmum]

I guess the best way to explain it is when you don't fall pregnant easily, it really can take over and cause a lot of stress. You wonder if you will ever become pregnant and hold that beautiful baby, everyone seems to ask you when you'll have kids, you start to feel like a failure to yourself and your DH (which of course is not true). That is probably why your post received the feedback it did. What you ask however is a completely reasonable question.

We resorted to Rumpy-Pumpy and conceived within 1 month for our first (that we lost :crying: ). It then took 5-6 months to fall pregnant with our beautiful boy.

I didn't know anything about charting and came home to say to Hubby - I read about ovulation on the internet and it's too late, you were away this month for my most fertile time. It was the first time in about 4 months that I had relaxed...and guess what ? the next I knew I had a positive result (of course DH still asks who I must have visited that month whilst he was away :thumbsdown: naughty DH).

I know you meant no harm by your post but it can be a sensitive topic.:hugs:

[WeThree]

Hi Gloom Cookie, I think you will find that all the woman here who are charting and looking into or using IVF etc are doing so because they were trying to fall pregnant the 'old fashioned way' and unfortunately for whatever reason it just wasnt happening for them, the reason why it looks like it is discussed alot here is because woman in a situation where they are ttc look to others in similiar situations for advice and support, I guess there is not much mentioned about the 'ol rumpy pumpy' because well, i think no one generally needs advice on how to do that, we all have it pretty much sorted;)

[GloomCookie]

Thanks coopsntilly for the info, however I never asked about a how to guide :p

My apologies for any percieved insensitivity, it wasn't implied or intended. I said that in my last post. Can we just chalk it up to being a "newbie" on these boards and get back to the topic? :D

All I wanted to know, and what no-one has actually replied to, are the main questions in my first post...

1: Has anyone on these forums tried to concieve naturally or just left it up to chance?
2: If so, how long did it take?

If this thread is in the wrong forum, please tell me, however I was under the impression that these forums were for all methods of conception, not just IVF etc.

[rynosmum]

All I wanted to know, and what no-one has actually replied to, are the main questions in my first post...

1: Has anyone on these forums tried to concieve naturally or just left it up to chance?
2: If so, how long did it take?


I did reply to this - see my post above.:D

[giggles]

I came off contraception after 12 years without a break and was lucky enough to fall pregnant after my first cycle.

We began trying with the notion that it could take a while, and I thought that particularly because I had been on contraception so long my body would take a while to get back inot the "normal" swing.


Godd luck for when you do TTC :)

[giggles]

I wonder if the title of your thread was changed, you might get some more answers to your questions? Just a thought :o

Maybe something like "Conception - How long for you?"

[Kells]

Gloom Cookie...lets start again and welcome to bubhub!!:D

In answer to your questions, I fell pg with my first as a surprise, the second took 2 months, the third took about 3 (but not seriously trying - I had no idea about good days and bad days, or Oing or temps or anything) - I m/c that one in Jan and have been trying since.

I have not yet resorted to OPK's and temp charting etc, but I understand the frustration that leads people to that point. I have conceived quite quickly really, and it is driving me insane waiting to see if I am pg this time, and I commend and highly respect those who try for months, years even. I dont think I could ever do it - I would be a mental case in no time!!:eek:

Good luck to you and your TTC journey..

[GloomCookie]

rynosmum: sorry, must have missed that one. Thanks very much for answering my questions. :D


justcooked: how lucky for you! When I came off the pill my body went haywire for at least a year. Now everything's starting to get back to normal so hopefully we'll be lucky too!

I tried to change the title, but it didn't seem to do anything to the actual thread title on the forum index page. :( Any ideas?


Kells: Congrats on your three children! The first must have been a very nice surprise. :)

I still really have no idea about good days and bad days and all the other abbreviations that are popping up. Like I've said, I'm still very new to everything to do with it (I've only been on the forums for 2 days!). I have an immense amount of respect for everyone that is going through the IVF and other ways of conceiving, but I'm just learning about them as well as everything else.

[GloomCookie]

This thread title has caused too much grief, please see my better worded thread here (http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=14783).