Lost My Father

[natdee78]

I lost my Dad Sept 04, 3 months after i married. We had brought the wedding forward by 3 months, when we found out my Dad's miligant brain tumour had come back already (we knew it would but didn't think it would be so quick) If i hadn't had brought it forward he would have passed away a week before i married. :(

My Dad wanted to be a Nonno (Italian for Grandfather) cos he was the last in his family not to be a Grandparent. I wish i could have made his wish while he was alive.

Now i hope i can keep my dad's memories alive with my Daughter, i hope he is looking down on her.

I Miss you everyday Dad. Love you!:(

Now saying all of this my mother, has had a breakdown and is in nursing home (she is only 57) since my Dad passed on.

Now i feel like i have no parents.:(

[Nomsie]

:hugs: I'm sure your dad is watching over you every day and is very proud of you, and loves his granddaughter dearly!

That is such a heartbreaking thing to happen to your mother, and the rest of your family for that matter, and I hope she finds the support she needs in the nursing home. My thoughts are with you and your family. :hugs:

[javalava]

I hope it helps for you to talk about it. We are always here to listen. I feel for you and your family. I hope your mum will improve with time. How sad for you hunny. :hugs::hugs:

[purplefairy]

Oh honey, I really feel for you. :hugs::hugs:
I have been in a similar situation, 3 weeks before being married I found out I was pregs and it would be my mums first grand child, a week later she found out she had breast cancer that bad she would be having her breast removed and all limphatic systems.
My mum was my rock, my world a great councel, friend The best Mum. She was a big part of my life, we shared a lot together.
My mum had her breast removed whist i was on my honeymoon.:( I felt so bad for not being there but she insisted I go and wouldnt take no for an answer:(
She was the best Grandma ever, she stuggled wanted to live, never gave up and then it went into her bones, very quickly. Within 6 weeks of finding it in her bones it had spread everywhere, to her liver etc and she passed away.
It happened so quickly my head is still spinning from it. This happened in March o6 2 weeks before my daughter turned one.
I know where your coming from when you say you feel you have no parents, My Dad went straight overseas, came back, went weird, got us to get rid and deal with my mums stuff before we were ready to do so, put the house on the market, blamed me for my mothers death, started gambling, internet dating and it gets better.
He then met a lady within a month moved in with her bought a house sold his and changed his will to leave everything to her!!!!!!!!
This is really bad because both my sister and I sign documents when she first passed handing over money and estate she had left to us and our claim on it as they still owed money on the house and we wanted him to be happy healthy and secure. This man is my step father who after my mother passing I found out he abused my sister as well!!!
Honey its hard. No one is ever going to replace your parents and coming to terms with that is really hard.
Sorry to ramble on with my stuff it all just :barf:out everwhere but you are not alone, and if you ever want to share your feelings or vent or whatever just PM and I will be there. Im a good listener.
Your poor mum. It is hard for the other partner when you see her next give her a hug from Purple fairy:hugs:

[natdee78]

Thanks girls. Dad's been gone 3 1/3 years and it seems like yesterday!

Sometimes i feel like i can't go on, cos i have no-one except my hubby and daughter.

I am getting my mum to move closer to me in a brand new aged care, so i can help her more, so hopefully in the very near future she will improve and enjoy her life and ours.

[forbetoel]

How sad for you. :hugs: I am sure your dad is looking down on you. Sometimes life is just so unfair. :(

[Hokey Pokey]

Oh I am so sorry :(
:hugs:

[Allegra]

I lost my Dad suddenly 2 years ago and I still cry most days. One of the last conversations I had with was how important family is and that I should start thinking about having children. I told Dad that I will start working on that so he can play with a new grandchild before he gets much older. Two weeks later he was dead.

My Mum wasn't coping for a long while (she got addicted to sleeping tablets and was drinking heavily). Now days she is a lot better. Everyone deals with grief differently and by showing her how much you care and that she is still needed and wanted, she might start to recover. Dont be too hard on her or yourself.

[Queen]

:hugs:How sad:(Just know your Dad is with you everyday:angel:

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[Kikyee]

I too have lost my father.
He passed away in March last year from a brain tumor, only 6 weeks after he had first symptoms (the doctors first thought it to be a mild stroke). I was pregnant at the time and was due 3 weeks after he died. Loosing my dad was the hardest thing I have ever gone through, Especially when I know that he was so looking forward to becoming a grandfather (he was the most excited out of my whole family at the news and had been asking for a grandchild for a few years). It still breaks my heart that he missed out on meeting his grandson by only 1 month.

I like to think that our fathers are looking down and smiling as they watch over our children.

I really hope that things improve with your Mum :hugs:. I know how hard it was for my mum, and my parents had been divorced for nearly 5 years and hardly spoke.

My thoughts are with you and I hope things get better soon.

[twinmum73]

I have also lost my darling dad, he died very suddenly nearly 6 years ago. The most hurtful part was that DH and I had been TTC for nearly 2 years before that, and I never got the chance to tell him that I was going to make him a pa again. Sure enough, IVF worked first go, and I was pregnant about 6-7 weeks after his death.
My only salvation in that was that dad was back with mum, she had died about 2.5 years before he did, and I know he missed her desperately.
So I do actually know what it is like to have no parents at all, and I would not wish it on anyone. I had lost them both before I was 30, and still had so much to share with them both. I also look at my DS & DD and feel sad and angry that they missed out on knowing one set of grandparents, who were awesome in that particular role!!!
I just know that they are together again, smiling down on me and my little family, and giving me lots of strength. Sorry for the :ecomcity: but it feels good that I can let it out with others who have also been through the pain, and know how much it hurts.
Lots of :hugs: to all of us who have lost a parent....or two.

[SixtiesChild]

I feel your pain. It's such an awful loss.
I lost my dad in horrible circumstances when I was 8mth preg with his 1st grandchild.
I was a 'daddy's girl' as many of us were.
Something I found comforting was talking to people that knew him.
:hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:
To all the women that have lost their dads!!!