libido????

[baylees mummy]

or lack of it... any of you ladies know how to get your libido back? i have 0 since having DS. is horny goat weed really any good? anyone have any experiences on it? :confused:

[2sweetgirls]

:smiliedance:Great Thread baylees mummy,

I been thinking about this myself....

My poor DH has been getting a whole lot of NO action in the bed room.

ANYONE?????

[mischief79]

I have no advice, but I'd love hear what others think! I'm in the same situation as you at the moment, not interested at all. I found out I was pregnant in Jan last year, and then had DD in October..... in that time DH and I 'did it' 6 times..... 6 times in a whole year, I think that's a new record for a married couple under the age of 80

[2sweetgirls]

I have no advice, but I'd love hear what others think! I'm in the same situation as you at the moment, not interested at all. I found out I was pregnant in Jan last year, and then had DD in October..... in that time DH and I 'did it' 6 times..... 6 times in a whole year, I think that's a new record for a married couple under the age of 80

:laughing:ROFL.......

I think we might have done it 0 times in the 9 months.. I had my DD2 in August and its been about 10 times since then

[MumOf4Monsters]

I have no advice, but I'd love hear what others think! I'm in the same situation as you at the moment, not interested at all. I found out I was pregnant in Jan last year, and then had DD in October..... in that time DH and I 'did it' 6 times..... 6 times in a whole year, I think that's a new record for a married couple under the age of 80

You sound just like me! I'll share the record with you:p
I sometimes joke about our "lack of intimacy" but it really is a problem. I actually feel somewhat like a failure at times. I want to please my husband and have that intimacy with him, but i just can't "get in the mood" so to speak. Anyone got any advice???

[Ashleigh<3]

Exercises increases libido. :thumbsup:

[Mumma2Jack]

gee,im not alone!:laughing:

I have had no interest either for the past 7 months.I always blamed it on my un wanted C.section..
But im now thinking maybe its somthing else...maybe like.....KIDS!!!:laughing:

Ill keep an eye on this thread..
Im a b**ch though as i dont feel sorry for my DH at all...(thats another story in its self,c.sec blame again!!)

[MumOf4Monsters]

Exercises increases libido. :thumbsup:

Hmmm..what kind of exercise!?!?:p

[2sweetgirls]

I went running tonight and stacked it now i have another exscuse, MY KNEE HURTS.....

[*~alegna~*]

I went running tonight and stacked it now i have another exscuse, MY KNEE HURTS.....

:laughing::laughing: I LOVE YOU! hehe, something I would say.

I'll be keeping an eye on this thread for advise from all you hot mamas.:devil6:

[*babygirl*]

:laughing: to the record... i'd be more than willing to divide mine amoungst you all:laughing: mine is shot through the roof since the day i found out i was pregnant:yes: and now i dont have a partner to take it out on:p

but seriously... any form of excersise helps.. and the biggest boost is sex itself... the longer you go without the harder it is to reinitiate it... its basically use it or lose it! sex is the biggest libido booster. horny goat weed does help... there is a shop on the coast that sells 'damiana' (SP?) and it works wonders... works better if you can get your energy levels up before taking it.... i.e workout, jog, walk, housework etc.

a healthy diet and lots of water helps too...

hth

[Ashleigh<3]

Originally Posted by Ashleigh<3 http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/images/buttons/viewpost.gif (http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?p=2244772#post2244772)
Exercises increases libido. :thumbsup:
Hmmm..what kind of exercise!?!?:p


If we want to get all technical...hehe:p
Low/moderate exercise increases libido the best.
High/advanced exercise does lower your libido.

I find floor exercises to do the trick... No idea why though...:rolleyes::laughing::p

[2sweetgirls]

wow thanks baby girl:yelclap:

[DivinelySophistimicated]

I fell in love with my DP all over again last night...

[Nowhere]

I dont know how to increase your libido but i have heard that goat weed works, if not a alchohol might help on a special ocasions lol isnt that the only time maried people have sex birthdays and christmas and aniversary

What about geting your self some sexy knickers to make your self feel nice you might get more interested then, could spice it up a bit for your hubby with a lap dane lol (shane wouldlove it mika )

but if you really cant be bothered just stay on her until he fals asleep and if he wakes up you could always just agree and do it like a dead bug lol

[Lastcenturymum]

Get rid of the kids :laughing:

[2sweetgirls]

:laughing:amy dead bug.. love it, we use starfish:D

[Meemo]

but seriously... any form of excersise helps.. and the biggest boost is sex itself... the longer you go without the harder it is to reinitiate it... its basically use it or lose it! sex is the biggest libido booster. . .



The problem is actually getting the libido up enough to actually be able to INITIATE IT!!!

It took me FOUR years to get my libido back post DD...... I had no desire for 'funky time' in the bedroom...
I think my DP almost went crazy, and to be honest I wasn't really that fussed at the time! Sometimes I felt bad, but usually told him to see 'Mrs Palmer'.... SO, I guess I'm a bit of a b***h as well!!!! :D

I have absolutely no advice on how to get it back... I just waited until the urge, usually 'snuggling' helped though...
I ALWAYS told DP that the biggest turn on for me was coming home from work to a CLEAN house and happy children all tucked in NICE CLEAN bedrooms..... :laughing: ;)

[Ashleigh<3]

That Mrs. Palmer- She knows her stuffs! :p

[*babygirl*]

meemo...
i understand where you are coming from... so many people i know have this issue... and lots of long-term relationships fall into this rutt unfortunately... sometimes while you might not 'get in the mood' sometimes its a matter of TRYING to rebuild the mood... break the routine and start with a few kisses and touches before bed. walk past your DP and make a sexual gesture or touch him in a subtle sexual way... if he wants it im sure the subtle hints will have him making a few 'subtle' moves of his own lol.

slowly progress and start playing 'games' again and flirting.. it all helps! even with NO energy and NO libido a little harmless fun never hurt anyone. remember though that going from NOTHING to FULL ON is never easy and rarely works.. SEX itself isnt the spark you want back. remeber to make it fun. and subtle and inappropriate at times. its supposed to be enjoyable.. if u play games over a course of say two weeks and set yourself a mental date where u WANT to reach excitement... then work towards it!

also keep in mind you dont have to skip straight from your everyday chores straight into bed... if you keep the flirting going over a few days/weeks then you dont have to INITIATE anything... hopefully it will just lead you there (*well thats the plan lol... build up some sexual tension- the good kind- and then once u reach a certain point you wont be able to help yourselves *)

[Leeny]

I can beat the record in here :p... Our longest run was 18 months without :laughing: Its back up to over 7 months again.. I have no libido at all... DD's 2 1/2 now... I can only hope things get better, and Im sure so could he :laughing:

[2sweetgirls]

I think maybe with the exercising thing, you will feel much w=more attractive having a slimmer firmier body if you do.

Who wants to get their gear off in front of a mirror let alone in front of their husband who chose a much more attractive version of you... well in my case anyway :(

[Nowhere]

I think maybe with the exercising thing, you will feel much w=more attractive having a slimmer firmier body if you do.

Who wants to get their gear off in front of a mirror let alone in front of their husband who chose a much more attractive version of you... well in my case anyway :(

exactly couldnt agree more my husband has not got the goods he ordered lol but im working on it

[*babygirl*]

2sweetgirls:hugs:
i think we all know how you feel to some degree... things will never be the same after you go through pregnancy... it sucks they get to keep their bodies intact *unless they let themselves go:laughing:*

try not to think about it. i know its hard when its all YOU see... but if all else fails slip into something that distracts his eyes from you lumps and bumps and let him focus on that while you focus on him.
:hugs:

[floggadog]

Are any of you on the pill?
This was my number '1' Libido killer.
The 2nd - give yourselves a break. You hand out love & affection 24/7. & as much as those adoring baby smiles touch your heart they aren't equivilent to what you give out.
Being a loving adoring Mumma is exhausting. When it comes to squeezing a bit more love & affection for DH it's not surprising you've got nothing left to give.

So this is where you need to book yourself in, once a day or 3 days or week for an uninterupted bath with sensual oils to fill your senses. Music to take your mind off things, something luxurious or sexy to wear afterwards. You need to feel good, really good about yourself before you can feel like making love is more than a chore.

If you're worried about your body, use candles, moonlight or no lights at all.
Give your hubby your moisturiser & ask him to rub it into your back & legs. (worked for me the other night).
Even go to bed early, together & spend an hour talking about yourselves, not work or extended family or what you're going to do tommorrow, but just yourselves.Reminisce , talk about what you love about each other, talk like new lovers do.
This can give you the reconnection you need to want to make love.

My fav quote which comes from Billy Connelly of all people, but one I believe in is...

'Women need to be loved to make love,
Men need to make love to be loved'.

[WorkingClassMum]

I once dated an italian guy - I think his name was Libido?

Mrs Palmer - you've just got to hand it to her:laughing:


My bro#1 thinks that kids have an inate survival of the fitest type instinct. Rather than do the shark/reptile thing and eat their siblings - they just do their best to ensure there aint no more.

My kids have been away for nearly a week - and it took us nearly a week to feel like bumping uglies!