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Seekrit

12-03-2006, 10:02

Yes, me at the height of maturity.
I'm so cranky at the moment. Chris and I were going to spend the weekend together. First one in ages.
So yesterday he said we'll go up the coast to fetch the work van was was broken down, called around and realised he needed a bigger car to tow it with, rather than with the other work van. A friend has a 4WD, we enlisted his help. I was still going to go up with them just for.. I dunno.. seeing my husband (who works from morning - 8, 9, 10, later at night).
Just as we're about to go, Chris says "Did you just want to stay here?" as in with his friend's wife. And it's not like I could say "no." because she was sitting right there and that would be rude.

So we ended up being there until they came home at 6, then they made frequent shop trips, and we didn't end up leaving until about 11.30pm or later, most of the time was me with friend's wife, him with friend.

Today we're going to the footy in the afternoon. Yay! 2 hours with him! The morning we were meant to spend together doing other stuff.. like stuff I want to do.
What's he doing? he's sleeping. Apparently we'll go out at 11. So for the last 4 hours, nearing 5, I've had to watch him frikken sleeping. We'll 'go out' at about 12 by the time he gets his Bum into Gear, and then straight to the footy where we'll just be cheering and sitting side-by-side, cheering and what not, but it's just not the full weekend that I had planned and looked forward to.

After the game he has to go out and do a job for someone :rolleyes: then he'll come home and spend the rest of the night on the computer - which I will too only because I have nothing else to do.

Gah. I'm just so cranky because I feel like I'm always watching him sleep. Last weekend he was out all weekend, weekend before he was out at a friend's house, next weekend he has friends coming over for a "LAN" which is when my house gets filled by people from friday - sunday who play computer games against eachother.

Whinge Whinge Whinge. I feel like throwing a toddler like tantrum.

Thanks for letting me get that off my chest.

Niki

12-03-2006, 10:10

i no wat u mean about watching them sleep, i feel like strangling him wen he does that

drewid

12-03-2006, 10:14

Oh you poor love. :hugs: I totally understand where you're coming from. My hubby can be a bit of a workaholic and he definitely sleeps FAR more than is necessary. It can be very frustrating (especially when you're the one left looking after the baby). He is also one of those guys who is always happy to give a hand to anyone who needs it, and does so at the drop of a hat...often without thought for how it affects 'our' previous plans.

Sometimes they just don't get the concept of spending quality time together...and having to continually ask for it makes it seems like less of a pleasure :rolleyes:

:hugs: to you...men can be a trial. But hey...they do have some upsides, otherwise we wouldn't bother with 'em eh... :cool:

Seekrit

12-03-2006, 10:20

Nicole.. is your husband my husband? or are they long lost brothers?

He is also one of those guys who is always happy to give a hand to anyone who needs it, and does so at the drop of a hat...often without thought for how it affects 'our' previous plans.
That just rings SOOOO true for him too.

Baby Girl

12-03-2006, 11:05

*Country Bumpkin*

12-03-2006, 11:40

Hmmmm TOTTALY understand where your coming from!!!!

My ex used to do this- wed be going somewhere and Id wake him up (he was an alcohlic) and hed say in a minute, in a minute this would go on for HOURS!!!! It would drive me absolutley BANNANAS to the point where Id be screaming at him to get the **** out of the bloody bed.....you can imagine how this worked- he would stay there longer!!!!

I sware sometimes I could have STARANGLED him with my bare hands (not in a violent way of course:rolleyes: )

You have every right to rant and be upset....but maybe you could try what schmell said...... ummmm pehaps make it VERY clear to him ehat you want on the weeekends and when you spend time with him!!!

:hugs: :kiss:

mumwith6

12-03-2006, 11:49

MrsMiggins

12-03-2006, 11:50

I hear you!! :hugs:

My DH works interstate frequently & then when he's not away, he works weekends & casually during the week. The very few opportunities we get to have any "quality time" together, he is SLEEPING!!! (I swear he needs more sleep than our baby!) or playing Xbox/watching sport on tv.

And then to top it off, he is always just ducking out for a minute (in DH time, that is the rough equivalent to 2-3 hours) to the TAB (he owns greyhounds & not all the races are shown on the domestic version of SKY Channel)

They don't get it sometimes, do they?!

I have though, found a great way to stop him sleeping in every morning!! Once DD is awake & fed, I go plonk her down on top of him & say "Right, I'm off to have a shower! You play with Daddy!" This works a treat, cos he can't get cranky at her! ;)

Seekrit

13-03-2006, 05:18

Just a thought, please don't get grumpy at me but...

Did you tell him you wanted to spend the weekend with him? Men aren't mind readers!! He might not have understood the value of your time with him if you didn't spell it out letter by letter :rolleyes: MEN!!
Oh he knew, we had it planned, he even called up during the week when he arranged other things to ask me if it was okay and which day were we spending together.

We spent a few hours together in the end. :p Then more hours with Puk's Puppy :laughing:

He's all forgiven now, and I think he had a shower so he doesn't stink quite so much. :)

KiLLaKaZ

13-03-2006, 06:50

lol. reminds me of my ex! he slept ALL the time that i had free, so we never really got to do much together!! he also would help anyone in need at the drop of a hat (except me - but that's probably because pride got in the way of me ever asking! ;))

& he'd also do things like suggest (in front of them) that i stay with his mum/ sister while he went somewhere... grr!

Ana Gram

13-03-2006, 11:51

Or you could just make yourself unavailable when he wants to do something.