need some advice

[erinjacob]

my dad has been fifo for about 10 years now 4 weeks on 4 weeks of. when he gets home he makes his own rules he changes everything that mum has been doing or done an tells every one what to do. i have 2 sis at home 16 an 13 the 16 has a new bf that stays some times in the spare room an dad got home yesterday an said hes not aloud to stay, he only stays because he lives along way away and dosnt drive. but any way him an mum have been fighting alot mum says he needs to fit in an not change things is that true what do ur partners do. then when he away mum dosnt call him, he calls my sis who tells him whats going on so when he got home an mum got him from air port he got in the car an didnt say hi ir talk to her, so now we have to put up with the fighting till he goes in 4 weeks. it happens every time he home what can i say to them it not good for my kids what do ur partners do when they get home and do u involve them when there away.

[KJEmum]

Hey Erin,
A little late but with my DH in the Navy, I think the DH coming home needs to try and slot in cos it's quite disruptive when things change as soon as dad comes back.

A mum has to deal with routines and keeping the peace and so on.

TBH your dad found his precious princess with a bf who stays over .. it's hard to accept. His little girl is growing up. As long as all house rules are in place for the bf/gf thing he shouldn't have a prob but it's hard for men to accept really. My DH wouldn't be any different and I know my dad would have hit the roof also.

Your dad has to compromise and be aware that life when he's away is different and works for your mum and should be appreciative of how she raises her children dadless at times.

That being said, I wish my DH was like that lol .. discipline with the kids .. I tend to clash with. He voices the 'right your having everything confiscated' rather than a bit at a time to still be in control and have the upper hand.