does anyone else already know??

[supermumof3]

do any june mums already know they will be having a c section? my dr is currently pushing me to have one and im a little overwhelmed by the negative comments everyone feels entitled to make, and scared outa my pants about all the scary statistics people seem to be able to rattle off.

[Valla]

Hi Supermumof2, why is your dr pushing for c/s? my ob is saying I'll have c/s too, I had c/s with first child and the recovery wasn't a good experience, thats why I thought going private would be good this time. I am really dissapointed that I won't get the chance to VBAC. I am thinking of changing to public hosp as I hope they will let me try VBAC!

[mumofsamuel]

Sorry supermumof2, can help much there but don't listen to any negative comments nor let someone "talk you into" doing anything. Listen to the advice of your OB but decide for yourself as you don't want to regret any decisions because someone else made you do it.

I am a first time mum and have also been told (some) statistics show that since I have had a LLETZ procedure a couple of years ago (pre cancerous cells removed from my cervix) I may have a premature baby. My OB also mentioned there are studies that show the opposite of this. So take it as it comes and do what YOU feel like as it's YOUR moment! Take care.

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

I can only tell you that I have had 2 c sections - one emergency after 30 plus hours of labour and other complications, Due to it being rushed the after effects were not good and I did not have a good experience.
- Number 2 was a planned c section - and this went very well, I was pleased with the outcome- I enjoyed the experience and found it far less stressful and painful then the labour from my first. This was just my experience - however I know alot of women who have had c sections and have had good experiences.

I feel that we are lucky to be living in the western world where medical intervention is an option, as in third world countries the death rate for women and babies during birth is quite high. If the risks of having a c section double that of a vaginal birth, it is still quite low - and would include emergency c sections as well.

So any way- do what you feel is right. Can I ask why the Dr is pushing for a c section?

[supermumof3]

thanks guys
valla my dr is pushing me mostly due to previous complications they r expecting the same comp. again. i have discussed this longer recovery with dr as a few people have suggested that to me, and dr says it would only be 1 or 2 days longer and that most people who have a bad recovery from c section is due to being an emergency c section. did u have an emergency c section? also i spent several months recovery from birth of dd and i have wondered if when people say c section recovery is longer they r presuming i will have a normal recovery from birth? i too have heard people say its not taking the easier option but if they havent had a bad birth experience how would they know? sorry im not directing this at u just thinking out loud and looking for support

[jaxcoop]

do any june mums already know they will be having a c section? my dr is currently pushing me to have one and im a little overwhelmed by the negative comments everyone feels entitled to make, and scared outa my pants about all the scary statistics people seem to be able to rattle off.

hey there, How come your OB is pushing for a c/s?:) Just curious

There are a lot of negative comments are there and people throw a lot of statitics out but a lot of it is valid. If there is no good reason to have a c/s and your OB is pushing you then i would find another OB. I had a c/s with my 2nd and i found it too be a pleasant exprience and i will be having another one for my next.

If you are not comfortable having one then don't let him push you into. Do a bit of research for yourself and don't take the word of forum statistics. Everyone is different.

Good luck :flowerz:


Ok sorry i just seen your new post !

Depending on what the complications are you can have a VB if that's what you want. But if you are really wanting a CS then that's then thats your choice. All i can recommend is that you do lots and lots of research, look at the risks for both you and bub and read heaps of CS birth stories.

Don't go into blindsighted. There is higher risk having a CS compared to a VB. If you need any help finding links i would be happy to pass some on if you are interested

[BeautifulBoys]

Hey all

Im planning a VBAC!!!!!Last time I was diag with pre-eclamspia @ 37weeks, I was induced..got to 10cm, but DS head was stuck-deflexed & transverse so I had a emerg Caesarean, it was very traumatic had blood transfusion after c-section).. a week after he was born I had two major hemorrhages(one at home!!!!),a result from a torn artery during the c-section(we didn't know this happened) i was rushed to theatre twice where an embolisation was performed its where they blocked the artery completley.. so my uterus was saved(very lucky girl) i spent 2 days in ICU & it took months of recovery.. basically my DH was told I " may not make it" .... :(very lucky to be able to have more children.. mind due after that i wasn't too keen...
But I did!!!!!!! im here... ready & stronger than ever before, I have been told by many OB's that i would need a repeat Caesarean, But spoke to the head OB at KEMH(perth)
& she went thru with me everything that happened & what my chances are of having a vbac(natural birth) she said its'"risk vs success" it was my decision to make.
I have done so much research & feel this is best for me, we now live in Hobart, im going under the public system & they have been very supportive(so far........) actually I haven't given them any chances to talk me into a c-section, Im doing regular reflexology & starting yoga in the next coming wks..
Im now a birth attendant(doula)...
Sorry for the long post but I want you too know it is YOUR decision not your husbands,friends or OB's.. you can try find a private ob who supports vbacs? they are far few & in between.. You will get more support by going public.
Something to think about.:ecomcity:

[Valla]

Supermumof2: I totally understand what you are saying, believe me I feel the same way.

I am extremely sorry, I just re-read my earlier post and see where it may have come across negative. Sorry I really didn't intend it that way at all, I didn't explain myself very well. So apologies again if I offended you or anyone! It would be the last thing I would want!

You are right, I did have an emergency c/s! I actually hadn't really thought about those women who have had a bad birth experience or a long hard recovery! I am glad you reminded me of that side..!

I guess this is such an individual decision, I have to admit I am very confused and scared myself. At first I was happy to have planned c/s in June but then started reading up on VB, which lead to my first post being 'self centred' and insensitive (so sorry), but I am now totally confused and sressed with trying to make a decision.

I totally feel everyone should do whats right for them & I totally support that!! Completely!! I just haven't figured out whats right for me yet :)

All the best with your pregnancy!!

Jaxcoop: I would appreciate any links you could pass on!

[supermumof3]

valla your first post wasnt negative or self centred at all and i was nt offended in anyway. i hope u werent by mine either. i too am super confused and trying to get my head around what will be best for my baby so sorry if i came off as overly defensive lol. im kinda finding it hard to discuss my options with other people as a lot of mums r very against c sections.

[4B2L]

I have had 4 c/s, and all went well, and I enjoyed every birth.

If your doctor has told you that for medical reasons a c/s will be safer, then as long as you trust his advice, you should listen. Don't worry about anyone else.

[supermumof3]

hmm good point 4boys

[Valla]

4boys2love: that is the most fantastic post, thank you!!

Supermumof2: I was not offended at all, just really didn't want to offend anyone myself! :)

It is so good to know that I am not the only one in this position. Since reading this thread I have 'allowed' myself to be happy with a c/s again! I was putting alot of pressure/guilt on myself, feeling I had to try for VB. I must admit since chatting here, that pressure has lifted, so thank you everyone! I am still going to my doc on tues to discuss it all, so I can be at peace with my decision and get on with enjoying my pregnancy rather than stressing about the birth for the next 5 months!

Feel free to discuss or ask me any questions Supermumof2, good luck with your decision!

[supermumof3]

valla i think thats why my dr is being pushy just trying to get me to see that is ok to choose the c section, and that medically speaking it may be the better option. u do feel guilty dont u, i never realised how much guilt mums feel at this choice until i was in it. 4boys is so right i think, as i do trust my dr i just dont want to feel guilty.

[kas3]

I feel guilty even though I really WANT a c-section! (Especially because if I have one it will be for psychological rather than physical reasons.)

It sounds like you trust your doctor and feel ok about having a c-section. Try not to let what anybody else thinks interfere with you feeling positive about your pregnancy and the birth of your baby.

regards
kas

[supermumof3]

kas3 i too also have pyscological issues contributing to my dr advising it so i totally understand

[Milk_Monkey]

There are pros and cons to each and every method of birth, and all situations are different.

Ultimately, whatever happens, a succcessful birth is one where the mother and child are healthy at the end of it.

I hope you have lots of supportive people around you.

[Valla]

Supermumof2: just had to let you know that I saw my doc today and had the most wonderful chat. We went through everything and I understand alot more now. Without going into mega details, I do fully believe c/s is the right decision for me and my baby! I feel so relieved, happy and confident with this decision! Thank you for your posts which helped my thinking process!

Good luck