Is this wrong? Honest opinions appreaciated!

[workin'mumof2]

My ds is nearly 15months old. :eek: and well hes not the best a sleep times. ESPECIALLY night time.

Its very easy if i get him to sleep on the bed with me but being 28weeks pregnant id rather him not get used to that. So its the cot. Only thing is he wants me in the room with him and sucking on a bottle of water. (ive tried a sippy cup he gets real upset and i dont like it) He will take about 15min during the day to get to sleep on his water and me in the room and at night well lets just say the best is 20mins worst 1hour :(

Is this wrong that i have to use this technique for so long? and i cant see a prob with the new bub coming along as i can breast feed in the same room and be with my ds at the same time.

I know some papers or whatever say its wrong to get them to sleep on a bottle of milk but people do and well i dont see why not. But im getting him to sleep on water and it works. (for now) is it the attachment that there talking about in these reports or just they dont like bottles in general?
Will this ruin his teeth coz of the sucking motion?
He gave up his dummy at 9months old so im not giving that back lol.

If u need to know anytihng else im happy to add. but i think thats all. thank you for your honesty.

[tobmac]

i have a 16mth old dd2 and she goes to bed with a bottle of water and that settles her everynight especially at 2am, i cant see how the sucking motion would reck their teeth as it would be the same as a dummy (you would think) and my ds1 who is nearly 3 goes to bed with a sipper cup of water i think it is a security thing more than anything. The teets of the bottles are soft so there shouldnt be damage and hey im a beleiver in if it works for you do it stuff what everyone else thinks.............have fun sleeptimes arent always easy

[miss b]

I had a hard time settling DD1 at night also. I spoke to my HCN and she told me the most important thing is not to remove them from the cot, and if you must remove them (dd would make herself throw up so she could get out:barf:!!!!), keep them in the room. Show them that you are incharge not them. We used self soothing and found that eventually she learnt that she wasn't getting up. Most nights she goes to bed without a show, we get the occasional, but other wise she is really good now.

good luck with it all...hope this helps

[workin'mumof2]

*breaths a sigh of relief* :laughing:
Im so glad im not alone i thought i was the only one still trying to settle there todler/baby at nearly 15months lol.

tobmac - no sleep times suck lol and i think they know that too but i keep my calm.

miss b - dont worry the only thing i allow him to do is stand then he usually burps or spits up but i never get him out of the room or cot i take off the clothing he makes a mess on and put a new one in while he stays in there. He eventually gets the idea im not giving up so he does lol. It just takes a while.

Oh and the annoying thing is after i try and take it out as his eyes are closing u know what the cheeky guy does. shakes his head in the no fashion and tries to wake him self up or smashes his legs up and down and makes noises :mad:

[*Chels*]

I'm sorry,but leaving a baby to scream and try to leave the cot,to the point they are throwing up is wrong!!!:(

[Meemo]

Hey hun....

When DD was 2 she started 'carrying on' when we put her to bed. I tried the whole 'super nanny' thing. ie, sitting in the room, avoiding eye contact, resettling with out 'talking', and gradually moving further out of the room every night...... It didn't work for long!

My DD is 4 1/2 yrs old, and I still settle her to bed and sit with her til she goes to sleep some nights...
Although she doesn't 'require' it as such, I like to do it when I'm home. She also goes to sleep in my bed, then I move her when she's asleep.
When I'm at work she goes in her own bed, so I know she can. It's more for my comfort than hers!!!

As for the 'bottle in bed' issue, the reason they advise against it is because the 'milk' pools in the mouth and can be damaging to their teeth and gums, not so much the 'sucking' motion....
I learnt this when studying childcare, and knowing that it 'could' cause some 'minor' problems, I still did it.
DD has been to the dentist and has asolutely no problems with her teeth. She went to bed with a bottle between 1 and 2 1/2 years of age.


You do what works for you hun...
If you're happy with your routine, and so is your little man then keep it that way!
I'm sure its just a 'phase' that he will grow out of!!

Hope some of that made sense!!! :D

Good Luck.... :)

[miss b]

I'm sorry,but leaving a baby to scream and try to leave the cot,to the point they are throwing up is wrong!!!:(


It wasn't leaving her to cry that made her vomit..she would make herself throw up as a form of retaliation. She would do it when she didn't get her own way. Thank goodness it is something that she has grown out of!!!

[cheekypossum]

Definately not the only one.

Our DD is 17 months old and is still getting Breastfed or rocked to sleep.

I would love for her to go down on her own, but there is no way that we can let her cry.......all just too much work for us :D



As long as it works for you both, keep on doing it :thumbsup:

[nuddle]

just to clarify, the only thing that ruins their teeth is if you give them juice or milk in the bottle, as that will sit on the teeth all night, and the saliva flow at night is very low, so it doesnt get washed away, so no, water is fine.

As for is it wrong, you are the only person to answer that, if you are happy to do this with him, and think that when bubs comes it wont be a problem, then you have your answer, that there is nothing wrong with him going to sleep that way. IF it bothers you, and will cause stress when bubs is there, then I would say you should try and get him to sleep without you.

good luck

[cheekypossum]

It wasn't leaving her to cry that made her vomit..she would make herself throw up as a form of retaliation. She would do it when she didn't get her own way. Thank goodness it is something that she has grown out of!!!


ohhh, what a cheeky little monkey you have on your hands :D

[Meemo]

just to clarify, the only thing that ruins their teeth is if you give them juice or milk in the bottle, as that will sit on the teeth all night, and the saliva flow at night is very low, so it doesnt get washed away, so no, water is fine.



:yelclap: nuddle....

You worded it so much better than I did!!!

[workin'mumof2]

You do what works for you hun...
If you're happy with your routine, and so is your little man then keep it that way!
I'm sure its just a 'phase' that he will grow out of!!


:fingerscrossed: hope so ive seen a few fazes of my ds and he has passed them in his own time. this one of me actually not rocking him is good because i cant do that when the baby comes can i :no:

I dont mind being in the same room and i think he likes it as well. or else he wouldnt go to sleep...

[nuddle]

:yelclap: nuddle....

You worded it so much better than I did!!!lol, occupational hazard...

[workin'mumof2]

just to clarify, the only thing that ruins their teeth is if you give them juice or milk in the bottle, as that will sit on the teeth all night, and the saliva flow at night is very low, so it doesnt get washed away, so no, water is fine.

As for is it wrong, you are the only person to answer that, if you are happy to do this with him, and think that when bubs comes it wont be a problem, then you have your answer, that there is nothing wrong with him going to sleep that way. IF it bothers you, and will cause stress when bubs is there, then I would say you should try and get him to sleep without you.

good luck

ah thanks i thought so just wasnt sure about it.

i dont think it would cause me stress while breastfeeding the baby when she comes along but i will see how things improve i mean by then who knows he "might" go to sleep on his own :D (wishful thinking) hubby supports everything i do aswell so he gets ds to sleep the same way which is great how it works for both of us. :yes:

[nuddle]

oh heck, just noticed you have 12 weeks to go, a lot can change by then, plus if hubby can get him to sleep as well, you got no worries...