am i over reacting?

[supa_star323]

I have been asking DS dad to sign a form for a passport for the past 6 months (we only split like 3 months ago) and he has refused. So I went in to ask him about it earlier. I tried to explain that our son would be missing out and it wasn't hurting me, and he said he doesn't care. So I asked if he cares about DS and he said no. Then I said I was not in front of DS and I was leaving and he took DS and tried to walk off. Then he started crying and gave me DS and told me to take him. I said we had to get home so DS could have his epilepsy medication and did he want to come. He said no. So we got in my car and started to drive off. First he kicked the car. Then he jumped on the bnott, then he ttried to hold onto the door handle. He yelled and screamed at me through the window (wound up and doors locked) and finally he let me go.
This is not an isolated incident and he used to really violent with me too. I am thinking I should go for full custody of DS and a few people have suggested this before anyway, but what do you all think? I seriously need some help cause this is all doing my head in and I think it may be some of the reason why DS seizures are getting worse too.
Do you think full custody is reasonable? And how do I go about it anyway?
Oh, I have an AVO on my ex for me, by the way.

Thanks for listening to me babbling and thanks for any advice anyone can give me.

[SweetSerenity]

I think full custody sounds like a good option, or even supervised visits.

What you just described is NOT a good situation for you or your son and it needs to be stopped now.

Definitely go see legal aid and tell them everything and see what they suggest.

I remember though when I went there, the lady informed me that there is no such thing as "full custody" anymore. It's more about who is the main carer etc.

Definitely go have a chat with them and get something done.

Also, if there is an AVO out against him, you really shouldn't be going to his place to ask him about the passport situation. It can make things worse.

Good luck hunny :hugs:

[supa_star323]

Also, if there is an AVO out against him, you really shouldn't be going to his place to ask him about the passport situation. It can make things worse.

Good luck hunny :hugs:




Oh, I didn't go to his house, he works at the local supermarket so I saw him there.

[Amberlea]

I dont have any advice, but touching on the AVO as well...
If you have contacted him - you have breached the agreement, unless you have stipulated in there that it is ok for you to contact him.
It doesnt matter whether you went to his work or his house - same deal.
It works both ways and if you now go to court for anything and he tells them that you contacted him - that is not going to look very good on your part.

I did the same thing when I had one on my ex, and the judge told me in plain terms that I was very stupid for doing so.

[SweetSerenity]

Oh I see....

Still, it's best to get others to do that for you as the AVO is there for a reason, to protect you and your little boy.

I hope legal aid can help you and get it sorted out quickly too :)

Nat xxx

[supa_star323]

By the conditions of the AVO we are allowed to have contact. He is allowed to come to my house, and vice versa. The conditions are;
He cannot assault, molest, harass, threaten or otherwise interfere with me or any person I have a domestic relationship with.
He cannot intimidate me...
He cannot stalk me...

I had thought we could get this sorted out fairly and reasonbaly and just wanted assurance that he couldn't physically hurt me again, but I see that isn't going to work now.
I did not include DS on the avo cause I never thought he would hurt his son, but I am ot so sure now.

I am not going to have any more contact with him, and am planning to ring legal aid on monday to discuss custody and everything.

[Chanelc]

You can apply the Attorney General office for an exemption to get a passport when the ex doesn't consent.
Report every incident to the police as they need it as evidence - especially if you are trying to apply for full custody although I don't know anyone that has achieved full custody even with a lunatic ex that threats woman
Goodluck

[Issey]

You can apply the Attorney General office for an exemption to get a passport when the ex doesn't consent.


yes that is true and also it will be granted if there isn't any real reason not to, you would have to supply ex copy of return tickets if requested so he knows you are coming back into the country.

:hugs: that is a very bad situation by the sounds of things with your ex :hugs: my friend is having the same dramas and it is very stressful. i hope things improve for you. :hugs:

[mum2littleman]

id be going for full cus - Good luck with it all