alone..need support

[pynk]

hi all, im 31 and i just found out i am 6 weeks preg.

I have 5 kids from my marriage that broke down in dec 06. My bf and i have just broken up and wants nothing to do with the baby.

I really want to have this baby but i have no family or friends to call on.(i have a son with autism so dont get out much)

My concern is where to i go to find support and help? I will need someone who will be able to help with my other kids if i have compliations like last time and also while i am labour.

Im also very worried about finances as i am only making ends meet now and concerned how i will afford everything a new baby needs.

Any help is appreciated

Thanks

[Nomsie]

:hugs: Hi, I don't really know how to help you, I just wanted to give you plenty of these :hugs: :hugs:

Stay positive! You will work it out, I'm sure. :hugs:

[OopsieDaisy]

Have you had a look in bubhub for the arear you like in, there may be a group there you could join for some support? :hugs:

[Kayangel]

I dont have any advice for you i just want to give u lots of hugs :hugs::hugs::hugs: and say that im hope everything works out for you, just remember everything happens for a reason god must have sent u this blessing for a reason. :)

[tobmac]

HI firstly congrat ( its meant to be):hugs:

Second ring life line and see what they have available you may be able to access some organisations through them, also depending if the child with autism is at school you may be able to talk to the special ed teacher (depending of the severity of the autism) and get some respite care through an organization hey even if its for a couple of hours or for when you are in hospital, also depending how old your other kids are you might be able to speak to a couple of the mums at school and say your predicement with no help and they may be able to step in and look after the kids whilst you are in hospital.......even ask the hospital for referrals to different places and see if they can help you aswell.Centerlink also has counsellours that can refer youon aswell. But normally if your ring lifeline or the salvos they will be able to give you a heap of numbers on where you can go for extra help...................depending where you are (dont know where you are) but some of the local churches help out with food we have some around here...................goodluck if you are in brisbane i can give you some ph numbers as my sil works for lifeline as a pshyc.

[Ethereal]

I am so sorry that you're all alone at such a time.:hugs: You need to enlist an army of helpers.
Your local council may be able to offer some help at least with household duties etc..... also they may have baby sitters etc....which you should be entitled to if you are experiencing hardship.
Definately ask centrelink to ask about physical support. Also try the local hospital which should be able to help you with info.

Goodluck

[mum2littleman]

sorry to hear you are no longer with your partner.
we have a great section - single parents- you should come have a chat all the single parents are very nice and offten find others in the same situation.:wave:

[KiahsMum]

If you don't mind letting us know where abouts are you? Maybe some bubhubbers in your area will have good contacts to pass on to you? You are a strong woman to have five children you love under difficult circumstances. That inner strength will help see you through even in the times when it feels too much, just look inside yourself and remember how strong you are and all you have already beaten to be where you are. When you need a shoulder or just a friend bubhub is here :) I would recommend lifeline and the salvation army also as they have good reputations for helping single parents in need. Perhaps there is an autism assoc. in your state that can give you referrals and advice in relation to your son and getting care for him as you need it during your pregnancy and labour. Feel free to PM me if you like, no not in your sort of situation but sometimes just having someone to chat to makes the load lighter

[pynk]

thankyou all so much. I am in deception bay. Only been here a year so dont know many ppl. My support network is all back in noosa where i came from. I will ring lifeline first thing monday and will start looking into respite for my autistic one. I feel much more positive having all these suggestions. Thanks again

[Hilja]

hey..Welcome to Bubhub.

Stay Positive and Strong.:hugs::hugs::hugs:



Hilja

[toni796]

I don't have any advice as such for you but wanted to give :hugs:. I'm sure everything will work out in the end and you get all the help you need. I'm sure that some of the BH mums could even help you out if you desperatly need help or need a break from things......They are all wonderful like that and I wish I was closer to meet up wit alot of them.

[Lastcenturymum]

Hi. I have thinking a lot about your post since I first read it.

You find yourself in a very tough situation and I think you have a lot of thinking to do about it and your future and especially your kids future.

I think its wise to find out what support is available to you from ALL avenues. Having worked in the 'chairty/social services' area I have seen both sides of it and while a lot of services are seen to be available, that isn't always the case depending on a lot of factors such as location, availability and length of time required. So doing your homework is a good idea.

You will not only need practical help, but a lot of emotional support as well.

All the best as you work through it all