changing the mid-whatever

[Pixie]

Honestly I feel bad saying this, the mid-husband they sent to me for my home-birth is well OK first off he lied about a few things in regards to a VBAC...and then as time went on I was actually wondering what gender he is:o I think male but with a name like Roberta it's hard to tell + they are extremely feminine I actually felt a little weird as he felt my belly and ask questions. So I rang the clinic last week to see if I could get someone else well he answered so I said "what time is my next appt" as I could hardly say I don't want you any more lol

So here I am again to anxious to ring in case he answers. I need to change him as he was misleading but sheshhh it's hard, I am soooooooo anxious!!!!

+ what do I say? I don't want him due to the fact he's a man..discrimination but that's all I can say oh and he misled me.:ecomcity::ecomcity::ecomcity:

[reAllytee]

Ok for starters stick to your guns & be strong .... You can do this !!!!

Stick with facts ie the fact that he/she lied to you about VBAC etc. So get all your info write out points incase you feel you may forget things etc. You can also say that you feel uncomfortable & leave it at that you dont have to say its because of gender you can just say its ecause you dont feel you click especially when he/she wasnt very supportive.

When i knew i was going in to see an Ob at the hospital & knew that everyone else had been against me i went in armed. I had a notepad with all the questions i needed to ask as well as all the info i needed to back me up in my need for a VB.

Have all your info hun & you will be fine :hugs:

[Pixie]

Well I had to ring as they are only open for an hour in the morning. I was greeted with no we can't do that we're a team...to bad.....you'll always get someone different. Ughh I am livid. I can't remember the last time I said Fcuk that many times lol ....bah I shall do it alone.......freebirth here I come :D

[reAllytee]

What a freaking load of bollocks ..... Aughhhh im sitting here fuming for you !!!!!

Dp thinks ive gone mad ... again :laughing:


WAAHHHHHHHHOOOOOOOOOOOO !!!!!!

You can do this hun !!!!!!

:smiliedance:

[reAllytee]

I am so living vicariously through all of the freebirthers & homebirthers atm.

I would sooooo love to be having another bub now ( can you believe that shift in thinking ! ) but i know mentally im not ready yet with the PND. I am just so desperate to give birth again for that exhilaration.

Im soooo excited for you hun you are now going to have the birth you want :goodvibes:

[kymmy]

Gosh that is a tough one. Maybe you need to be straight up and say you don't feel comfortable. ITs very important you feel comfortable with your carer esp in birth.

[kymmy]

...bah I shall do it alone.......freebirth here I come :D
Yeah that is how I feel! I rather freebirth.

[stellarella]

Can't you hire your own independant midwife? Are you going through a public midwifery program or something? IMO this is just like a hospital birth but the venue is different. You still have to 'settle' for less than you deserve.

My view on this whole homebirth thing is that if I am going to do it, I am going to do it properly. If I want to end up with care providers I have no say in then I may as well be in a hospital or birth centre.

It should be your way or the highway. :hugs:

[kymmy]

If I want to end up with care providers I have no say in then I may as well be in a hospital or birth centre.

It should be your way or the highway. :hugs:

:yes: