Touchy subject sorry

[clutz]

I will be undergoing a termenation soon and am curious what to expect after the procedure , and for how long , now i know its going to be hard emotionaly i am talking about health as such tired / ill/ bleeding.
Thanks

[34me]

ill pm you

[SorenLorensen]

im not sure how far along you are but would it be similar to having a d&c ?
if so, i had a d&c in march after a m/c.
i was put under general and when i woke up i felt no pain really, kinda just like i was having my period....umm...hard to explain, not the period pain but the pressure in that area you feel (does that even make scence)
i was in recovery for about an hour and a half, then i was able to go home. i was a little sleepy but more in a scence of "what is happening", you know the wow feeling you get after something has happened and your mind is just full..
i remember my throat being a little scratchy but not too bad (maybe buy yourself some lemonaid to have ready for you at home)
i bleed for about a week after but it was no more then my normal period (i have light periods)


not sure if that helps much but thats my experience with a d&c (and im not even sure if its the same), i guess everyone would be a little different but try not to worry to much.

good luck and i hope you get through it well :hugs:

[BB&D]

i haven't had one but i want to wish you luck and hope that everything goes well for you.

[javalava]

Of course people are going to reply. We support our members through all the ups and downs. And each decision one member makes is their own to make.

I have had many friends that have had terminations. From what i know if its done early there should be little to no complications. Apparently u cant resume intercourse for 2 weeks.

I think it would probably be best to google it... that way you might get some actual facts. Hope that helps a little. :hugs:

[caitcam]

:wave:hi there , i have sent you a PM

[vanillabean]

I don't have any experience with terminations, but just wanted to show you that we do care.

[34me]

I wouldnt google :no: its all anti abortion sites. When I was looking for pictures of what bub looks like at certain weeks gestation(for my website and avatar) even then a large % were anti abortion sites:thumbsdown:

[Love My Bub]

No back to the topic at hand. I had a termination about 5 years ago, for a few diffrent reasons. Now while Im not proud of it and I would never do it again I know I made the right decision at the time.

The hardest part of all was definatly the emotional effect it has had on me and to anyone who is considering having a termination I would strongly sugest councelling both before and after. While you may think you are fine- it can be years before you really start to feel the effects.

Pain wise I only had period type pain which a heat pack and lots of sleep helped. From memory the bleeding was quite heavy after the initial procedure but then was the same as a normal period and lasted about a week.

You will be extremly dopy when you come out so you will not be able to drive- plus you will need your partner or a friend there for support. I came home and slept for about 6hrs straight.

I really hope you find this information useful. If you have anymore questions please just ask :hugs:

[Gumby]

I think it would probably be best to google it... that way you might get some actual facts. Hope that helps a little. :hugs:
Google is the enemy. Dont google...

I am dont have any information for you sorry clutz. But I love ya and you will be ok :hugs:

[clutz]

Google is the enemy. Dont google...

I am dont have any information for you sorry clutz. But I love ya and you will be ok :hugs:


xx thanks
Google is not the thing to do trust me:crying:

[Rainbowbrite]

Ok I've removed & editted some posts here. Please keep it nice & supportive, no judgements.

Goodluck with whatever decision you make :hugs:

[Nomsie]

Hi hun :hugs: I hope you have found the help you were looking for in here.

I had one at 21, so not that long ago. Whilst it was the best decision at the time, I do regret it now somewhat, mainly because I have been TTC for almost a year now. But back then I knew I had no other choice.

My doc was hopeless, and didn't get me any sort of counselling. He basically asked what I wanted to do, and I said I couldn't keep it, I was thinking of terminating. Well, he sent me home, and a few days later I found he had booked me into the local hosp without even consulting me. I felt bound to the decision then. At a pre-op meeting, he basically said "Are you sure this is what you want to do? Because if you go through with it and then regret it, I don't want you to blame me, because other women have blamed me." I felt like hitting the insensitive b*****d.

Anyway, so DEMAND counselling, even if you think you will be ok.

The other issue I had was I wasn't given any antibiotics after I was discharged from hospital. So after a few days, I was complaining of a horrible cramping pain. I was up all night and nothing would make this pain go away. I ended up having a friend get me to the emergency department (as it was grand final day and nothing was open), where he said I had developed an infection. The doc gave me some horrible anti's and a prescription for panadeine forte... which basically knocked me out for a few days.

So make sure you get two things- counselling, and antibiotics, just to protect yourself. And if you need any help or support, don't forget you can call on us here. You can PM me if you wish. I am on holidays and am just about ALWAYS on here! :hugs:

My thoughts are with you.

[V8]

I have pm'ed you. :hugs:

[V8]

Hi hun :hugs: I hope you have found the help you were looking for in here.

I had one at 21, so not that long ago. Whilst it was the best decision at the time, I do regret it now somewhat, mainly because I have been TTC for almost a year now. But back then I knew I had no other choice.

My doc was hopeless, and didn't get me any sort of counselling. He basically asked what I wanted to do, and I said I couldn't keep it, I was thinking of terminating. Well, he sent me home, and a few days later I found he had booked me into the local hosp without even consulting me. I felt bound to the decision then. At a pre-op meeting, he basically said "Are you sure this is what you want to do? Because if you go through with it and then regret it, I don't want you to blame me, because other women have blamed me." I felt like hitting the insensitive b*****d.

Anyway, so DEMAND counselling, even if you think you will be ok.

The other issue I had was I wasn't given any antibiotics after I was discharged from hospital. So after a few days, I was complaining of a horrible cramping pain. I was up all night and nothing would make this pain go away. I ended up having a friend get me to the emergency department (as it was grand final day and nothing was open), where he said I had developed an infection. The doc gave me some horrible anti's and a prescription for panadeine forte... which basically knocked me out for a few days.

So make sure you get two things- counselling, and antibiotics, just to protect yourself. And if you need any help or support, don't forget you can call on us here. You can PM me if you wish. I am on holidays and am just about ALWAYS on here! :hugs:

My thoughts are with you.

Nomsie i'm so sorry you had to go through that, how incompetent and insensitive of the doctor. :( :hugs: I really hope you get your :bfp: soon.

[Becs999]

Great post BronnyGrace :yelclap:

I have pm'd you clutz

[clutz]

A tough decision to make and I hope the following information helps, if you go to a private clinic your experience could well be as follows, i'm not sure how it works in hospitals as I went through a private clinic :hugs::hugs:

First of all if you do go to a private clinic, ask them if you can go in through the back door to avoid protestors, if you can' do this, then wear a baseball cap and your iPod, turn your music up and walk quickly with your head down because you don't want to see the protestors or hear what they have to say.

When you are safely inside the clinic, you'll be given a brochure which will go through what the procedure is and what to expect afterwards.

When you arrive they will take blood, with the blood taken they will take a pregnancy test and usually do an STD screen as well. You will also give them a urine sample which I assume is also to confirm pregnancy.

Then you will speak to a counsellor who will confirm that you are ready for the termination.

You'll then see the doctor, who will do an ultrasound to check to see that you are pregnant. I suggest looking away if you don't want to see the heartbeat or anything like that, I didn't look when I had mine and I'm glad I didn't, it's a memory I didn't need.

Then you'll go back to the waiting room, it will be full of women waiting to have a termination or to see the doctor after having previously had one. It can be kind of yuck, you might like to take your iPod or a book.

When it is your turn, they will lead you to a small room, in this room you will remove all your clothes and put an old fashioned pad on, you'll then put on the blue hospital gown.

A nurse will come and get you after this and you'll be taken into the surgery, you'll see doctors and nurses in surgical outfits, you'll get up onto the table, they will insert an IV and then you'll go to sleep and have your termination.

When you wake up, you will be in a recovery ward with other women, you'll notice other women making noises, and the nurse will check that you are okay. When you have fully woken up you'll get dressed and be taken to a different waiting room which is where you will meet the person who has taken you to the clinic - you will be given a cup of tea and a dry biscuit and then you will be able to go home.

You'll have to take antiobiotics for seven days after the termination.

You'll have to go back to the clinic after 2 weeks for a followup examination.

You should expect to bleed for up to 14days. You may experience period like pain after the termination, you may feel a little sore in your vagina as well - again, just like period pain.

You'll only be able to wear pads while you are bleeding.

Hope all this helps and good luck :hugs:

thank you that has answered so many questions

[Nomsie]

I think you said it all wonderfully BronnyGrace, especially the ultrasound part. I made the mistake of looking and seeing and hearing the heartbeat and everything.

The procedure in itself is actually the easy part. Just make sure you get the counselling. You will be fine, you have taken a very smart step here in asking about what to expect first. At least now you are not going into it blind. :hugs:

[javalava]

http://www.google.com.au/search?hl=en&q=abortion&meta=

See, when you google it it also comes up with clinic details. Which have info on post termination care etc. :)

[Love My Bub]

bronny grace- you wrote exactly what I wanted too!! I got half way through but found thinking about the whole experience rather painful so I stopped and just wrote what I had in my original post.

Well put!

[clutz]

Thank you all , i am at ease with the dicussion right now although i know i will be a mess getting out of the car and sitting there in the waiting room although im sure thats not uncommen

[clutz]

If you want to talk about it at all Clutz, we are all here for you - even if you just want to tell your story, sometimes it helps to talk things through so that you feel entirely comfortable with everything that is happening ... good luck and don't be afraid to come and ask questions or talk to us girls here on BubHub - It's a great supportive environment and many have been where you are now :hugs:

Thanks heaps