Teen mums (under 18) was your first bub planned?

[34me]

Just curious. By planned I mean did you and the father discuss and plan for a baby at a very young age? more so than 'if it happens it happens' or 'didnt think I would fall pregnant' etc. Please no negative comments, just wondering:)

[34me]

my first pregnancy was planned, though I admit not very well thought out(I had no idea what pregnancy and babies were all about) at 17

[Jeclipse]

Wasn't planned, and it was my decision alone to keep Heath, the dad wanted to me to have an abortion but I did what I thought would be the right decision for me and my baby.

Wouldn't change that decision even if I had to go back and choose again.

[34me]

Oh I get so angry when guys 'expect' girls to have abortions!

[SmileyBJ]

Well Im 18 now... but we had both spoke about having children, baby names, situations and the lot from a very early stage before my 18th...

It was not however planned... we went through a stage of if it happens we know what were going to do.... but at the time I did fall we had absolutely no intentions and was quite a shock...

Still wouldn't change it for the world though..

[♥Heaven Sent♥]

Yep me and df planned both our bubs and wouldn't change it for the world i was 17 when i fell pregnant with dd and 18 when i fell pregnant with ds.We are ttc #3 now.

I love my family and would be lost without them.

[34me]

Thats great heavensent, goodluck with your trying for number 3 :D

[♥Heaven Sent♥]

Thanks hun :)

[Kayangel]

I planned a baby at 17 with my now ex :rolleyes: we talked about it agreed and started trying! I found out a week before my 18th i was pregnant.

I knew i wanted to be a mummy from a very early age.

[Freya]

He was (nievely) planned, well we weren't actively trying to concieve but we weren't being careful and had agreed if I fell then we would keep baby.. We had been together for nearly 3 years, were engaged to be married april this year, living together... With what I know now, I wouldn't encourage a young person to TTC but if it was an accident then I would encourage them to take up the responsibility.

I get really upset when I do hear of people I know trying before they are in a commited realationship that is longer then a few months, because quite often the partner will leave and that is heartbraking for the child.:(

Even after a very commited realationship my ex took off while I was pregnant because he was scared and if someone had of told me he would do that I would have laughed in their faces, so would he! Because we fought so hard to stay together despite our families wishes.

I got totally off track then....:o Had to add, while my situation is not ideal I do not regret it for a second and wouldn't change a thing. Having my son has made me a much better person.

[DivinelySophistimicated]

She was not planned but here we are, shes 3 and a half and wouldnt change itf or the world!!

[Mamalicious]

No, DS wasn't planned, I was on the pill. Neither of us were happy when we found out either, if I knew I could cope with the aftermath of an abortion then I probably would have had one.


The new baby is planned though, obviously LOL.

[Mum&bubs]

No, Summer was not planned at all. I was 16 and having a baby was the last thing on my mind, she was just a beautiful surprise! One which I would never and have never regretted!

Taliyah was planned though, lol.

[Ashleigh<3]

I'm not under 18 anymore but I was at the start of my relationship with my DF. I got pregnant about five months after my 18th birthday, we made a big OOPS! We did discuss the fact that we could get pregnant and I made it clear that if I did get pregnant, I would be keeping the baby because I didn't believe in abortion. He told me that he would never want me to get an abortion and he would be happy if we ever did have a baby.
BUT even though we discussed it, we decided marriage first, maybe when we're 30 we'll have a baby.

We were always out seeing live bands and hanging with friends, the last thing we wanted was to be parents. lol

Then it just happened.
So we figured it was meant to be and we accepted our beautiful little accident and I gave birth when I was 19.
She is so precious and she means the world to us. We have never regretted her, we regretted our ignorance but obviously it got us here.
We're happy.

We tend to say that, we love her so much that we can't bare going through another pregnancy, raising of another child. She is a tough toddler but so worth it. My DF and I would be happy if we never had anymore kids but maybe in ten years time we may feel differently.

I know it's normal for many young parents to have kids and kick start their career at the same time but I'd much rather get this little darling under control, then when we're ready to have her in daycare, I can get my career kick started.
I want to really dedicate myself to something other then parenting. Don't get me wrong I love being a Mum and nothing will ever change that, But I do want something more in life. Opportunities to go far in life don't just disappear once you have a baby which is why I will actively try my hardest to succeed.

[LivinOnAPrayer]

I was 18 when I fell pregnant with our DD Alex, now 17months. She wasn't planned, not for that moment in time anyway. We'd discussed kids and we were already engaged and living on our own. Then the test and a text book pregnancy later and we met our daughter Alexandra. She has since had alot of medical issues (some life threatening, some not so serious) and I really think she was given to us to make us grow up mighty fast.

Shes so beautiful, and everyday we count our blessings that we still have her in our lives. DH and I are now married and thinking of TTC #2.

[butimacheerleader]

No, neither of my babies were planned. I had DD1 at 17 and DD2 at 20.

[MumOf4Monsters]

yes dh and i planned all of our kids.
I fell pregnant with my first ds when i was 16.

We spoke about having kids right from the start and were both over the moon when i fell pregnant!

We then got married when i was 17 and the rest is history:cloud9:

I would'nt change a thing!

[Teley]

Well......mine wasn't planned, but we weren't using protection so we were pretty dumb:hair:.
Let's just say, the pulling out method didn't really work because the pulling out bit of the method didn't happen...
And actually, I'm glad it didn't, I love my son to bits!

[iamLilysmummy]

I ALWAYS spoke to the father (now my x) about having a baby.. not once did he say he didnt want a baby.. so 9 months into out realationship i found out i was pregnant,!! it hit him hard!! i new i wanted to keep her, i always wanted a baby,, i was 17 wen i found out (18 a week later).. he was 17 aswelll,, we were so excited,, well i thought he was anyway..but when he told his mum everything turned upside down,, we broke up when i was 4 months,, he chose his friends and his education over his baby.. his mum brainwashed him to beleive the baby wasnt his,, and yer,, told me he never wanted a baby!!! lmao.. and now,, lily is 6 months old!! and looks just like daddy.. the father has nothing to do with her!! he wants a dna test,, which im getting done wednesday!! lol bcoz he thinks shes not his,, i can bet a trillion million billion dollars she is!! so yer

i regeret nothing!! im jus thankful i had a baby with someone i loved!! not to someone i didnt!! ::):)

[sandy_1902]

Well......mine wasn't planned, but we weren't using protection so we were pretty dumb:hair:.
Let's just say, the pulling out method didn't really work because the pulling out bit of the method didn't happen...
And actually, I'm glad it didn't, I love my son to bits!

Lol yeah sounds the same as my and my DP lol.

stupid teenagers doing stupid things resulting in the most wonderful handsome adventure heart warming thing that will ever happen to us (unless we have more lol)

[Teley]

[quote=sandy_1902;2258294]Lol yeah sounds the same as my and my DP lol.(quote) ....im new have no clue how to do the quote thingys lol.

Was just wondering, did your boy's dad stick around or did he blame you for it? Because mine blamed me for manipulating:ecomcity: him into it and planning everything....lol. Was just wondering lol.

[Spolly88]

totally not planned...was in a long-term relationship for 2 and a half years, talked about kids and marriage with him but we broke up...i had some fun for a few months then met dp in a pub a month after i turned 18. needless to say i didn't really have high expectations but after a few months we were living together.

after being a couple for 6 months i found out i was pregnant...he originally wanted me to have an abortion but left it essentially up to me. i told him i was keeping the baby...he came around to the idea pretty quickly. he bought us a house in october and he's more excited than i am now i think :) he buys "nothing but the best" for his little man (read: huggies nappies even though aldi is cheaper...:laughing:), and keeps telling me all the things we're going to do with our son.

we've been together about 14 months now and while i'm not as naive to think everything will pan out perfectly yet, i am pretty sure we're gonna be okay...if not, i'm confident i have enough support from my family and friends to make it alone.

no regrets here :)

[didlesdines]

I had 2 teenage pregnancies, one at 16 and the next at 18, both not planned, but much loved anyways. It was hard at first and I have lost loads of friends but I love my life (well except for school holidays!) We have just had our 6th wedding anniversary. It got easier but what I hate is when you get "Are they the same father?" I was very fortunate to have some very supportive family members around (key word some) We are in a good place now.

[Ashie]

I'm 18 next week and I'm 22 weeks pregnant and this pregnancy was not planned i told the father of the baby before i fell pregnant, if i fall pregnant that there was no way i was getting an abbortion, and he agreed with that. But when i told him i was pregnant the first thing he said to me was u should get an abortion, your not ready and neither am i we r too young, and then he went really crazy and started to threaten to kill me, and I left him straight away and I will never go back to him no matter wat after that.
I cant wait untill she is born and I can spend heaps of time with her...

[lil miss]

my partner and I had only been together for a few weeks when we started talking about kids. he was told he was very unlikely to ever father kids, so we were discussing other options. We tried for about 6 months, and nothing happened, so we just said if it happens it happens (both secretly hoping it would). With in a month, i was pregnant. I gave birth to our daughter exactly 1 week before my 19th birthday. We are trying to have another one now (our dd is 7 months), but our families still think the pregnancy was not planned.

[JJAZ]

HI,
I am new to this.

I was 16 when i feel pregnet, and YES it was planned, my then boyfriend and i discussed it for awhile and realised we wanted to have a baby. we wanted to be young parents!!! We are now married and Adella is 2 Years 3 months.... and we are ttc # 2.... I had a dreadful pregnancy and birthing experiance... but wouldnt change My girl for the world!!!

:cloud9:

[ChloesMumma]

I fell pregnant at 17.7months. And yes it was planned. My partner and I were already engaged and we both wanted a baby before we got married. It took a little while to finally get pregnant as when i was fertile, he was usually on the mines. But finally it happened and we were soo stoked, just wish that he was around for more of the pregnancy than he has been, he has missed so much.Counting down the weeks until we get to meet our little girl (Chloe).:bee:

[isabellasmummy]

was 18 when i had bella, she was planed but not many know that, like i'm going to tell my mother that.

had had 3 misscarrages before i was 15, 2 were of those were planned, the 1st one wasn't. (bad night out with (now EX) BF at age 12) so i have always had that feeling of wanting to be a mum, now i am i'm going to change it for anything.
did yr 12 and compelted the HSC in the same yr as having bella, the best thing out...

i love it so much, don't care what others think. teen mums rock!!!:yelclap:

[joshysmummy]

:yelclap:
You girls are amazing! i read every post. . . I just think it is so wonderful & selfless to bring such a precious gift into this world, and to do so (planned or not) while u are young!
I consider myself a young mum being 21, i was 18 when i first got pregnant - i miscarried - it wasnt planned, but i was over the moon.
With josh, he wasnt planned either but like you have all said, you wouldnt change it!
Well done to evryone!
Being a young mum rocks!

[kyiethree]

my first child was difinitely not planned i was 14 when i discovered i was pregnant i kept him though his father hasnt really been a part of his life but i did however find someone when he was 11months old and he still calls him dad to this day i went on to have my second at 18 we planned him we broke up after 7 years but to my ex that is his son not the other man who left me pregnant

[~CupCakes~]

with DS i found when i was 6 MONTHS PREG! so that was a huge shock i was 18 turning 19 a shock but the best blessing me and DH could have asked for! then we planned our next two dd1 i was 21, DD2 i was 23, we wanted to have our babies with fairly close age gaps not too far apart! we love our three J monsters to bits :D

[nicole88]

i was 16 when i fell pregnant and it def wasnt planned. I was always dead set on going thru with the pregnancy my partner thought we shoudl have an abortion but i won, and were still together with our 2 yold! :)

[FluffyBunny]

Unfortunately only my last baby was planned.
I'd like to say that my first 3 were but they were all 'oopsies' :laughing:
I fell pregnant with my now 11 year old DH when I was 18 and had her just after I turned 19.
I considered myself a 'young Mum' back then as there were only a handful of younger girls in our small town who had babies.
DD2 was born a month before I turned 21 and then DS was born 13 months later when I had just turned 22. So by the age of 22 I had 3 of my children.
Fast forward 7 years later and here I am now with DD3 (4 1/2 months) who was very much planned by hubby and I.

[Emi]

i was 18 when i fell preg...turned 19 a week after i found out... my dd wasnt at all planned.. id been with my dp for 6 months when i found... wasnt expecting it.. but shouldnt have been surprised...
at first my dp wanted me to abort.. i flat out refused.. i could never do it... he said it was my body and my choice and that no matter what i chose he would stick by me...t
thiungs were hard to begin with... i was in my first year of tafe and my dp was in yr 11... he dropped out just before we found out i was pg... and when we did he got a full time job and an apprenticship... weve been together for 15 months now and are very happy... our little girl is 5 weeks old and my dp just adores her!!!

i def wouldnt change nething!!! except maybe the fact thatwe cant afford to live together!! lol...

i alway7s loved kids and always wanted to be a mum... never thought id 19... but im loving every minute of it!!!