When did you stop rocking/patting bub to sleep?

[UmmInayah]

Hey!

My bub is 7 months. I rock her or feed her to sleep. I don't mind doing this as I know she feels secure in my arms.

I am just curious, though. For those who rocked, fed or patted bubs to sleep, at what age did bub stop needing it?

Poll coming

[A Party of Five]

I can vote as we have never rocking/patting bubs to sleep routine!

[metalhead713]

most ive ever done is give dd a dummy and rub her belly while she is in the cot for a bit and she eventually drifts off to sleep by herself.. dont think ive ever rocked her to sleep, she has occasionally fell asleep in my arms though and I moved her into the cot strait after. I only ever used it as a last ditch effort as she never really needed it.
eta: I dont do controlled comforting or crying though, as soon as I hear a noise im in there and give her the dummy, as ive found the key to settling her is getting to her before she works herself up in a real state and cant settle back down easily.

[JATS]

LOL Sometimes I still do it! :laughing:

Not very often, I think at 10 months he started wanting to fall asleep on his own.

[punkbaby]

My first self settled never cried and went to sleep the minute her head hit the bed, ds well he falls asleep on the couch he was rocked to sleep till he was 2 though and dd3 she has moments, i stopped cuddling her when she was 20 months but now she will go to bed on her own, some nights i do have to cuddle her to sleep though.
Thank god indie self settles its like OMG shes putting herself to sleep without anything! My first dummy free baby its kinda exciting after 3 dummy reliant bubs

[metalhead713]

My first self settled never cried and went to sleep the minute her head hit the bed, ds well he falls asleep on the couch he was rocked to sleep till he was 2 though and dd3 she has moments, i stopped cuddling her when she was 20 months but now she will go to bed on her own, some nights i do have to cuddle her to sleep though.
Thank god indie self settles its like OMG shes putting herself to sleep without anything! My first dummy free baby its kinda exciting after 3 dummy reliant bubs
lol your soo lucky.. I hate the dummy :hair: when settling her early in the morning if she wakes up before 7am its a case of constantly going back in there cause she keeps dropping it arrgh:hair:

[punkbaby]

lol your soo lucky.. I hate the dummy :hair: when settling her early in the morning if she wakes up before 7am its a case of constantly going back in there cause she keeps dropping it arrgh:hair:
They are godsends though i think, but indie just doesnt need one i am lucky :)

dd3 still has hers only in bed though at night but i wish she would get rid of it

Only remember too well those nights "where is my dummy" lol when the kids were alot younger so figured i would avoid it this time round if i could

[MummaBear03]

I rocked, patted or cuddled my child to sleep for a long time. I said 25+ months but it was only really on and off from about 18 months old. I'd lay with her and talk but rarely needed to pat or rock. I fed her to sleep on and off until she was 2.5 years when she said she didn't need my milk anymore :crying:
I still lay down and read and talk to her until she goes to sleep most nights. She can go to sleep without me if I am busy though. I don't see the harm in it, people say I'll be doing it when she's 16 but if we're still laying together and talking when she's that age I'll be part of the very fortunate minority who are close to their teens :)

[OneBabyBoy]

13 months and still going..

[canberramomma]

Oh, I am ashamed to admit that after my first, I was an absolute dictator at bedtime. Still am.

I used to spend hours patting and singing and reading, even staying with her whilst she fell asleep, but that went out the window with the others.

I DO care as much about them, but really, I need big people time to be able to function the next day!!!

I really admire those that are able to do the whole 'nice' bedtime stuff, but I have come to a point where I have admitted to myself that I can't.

Good luck. BTW, I have very happy (overly, sometimes) kids, so don't feel bad if you have to enforce a stricter routine. They are happy if you are consistent so they know what to expect. The biggest challenge is the change.

[metalhead713]

Oh, I am ashamed to admit that after my first, I was an absolute dictator at bedtime. Still am.

I used to spend hours patting and singing and reading, even staying with her whilst she fell asleep, but that went out the window with the others.

I DO care as much about them, but really, I need big people time to be able to function the next day!!!

I really admire those that are able to do the whole 'nice' bedtime stuff, but I have come to a point where I have admitted to myself that I can't.

Good luck. BTW, I have very happy (overly, sometimes) kids, so don't feel bad if you have to enforce a stricter routine. They are happy if you are consistent so they know what to expect. The biggest challenge is the change.
I agree that routine is the key:yes: although I dont do cc or the likes, I am still very strict with the bedtime thing- same time give or take every night, no lights, no sound, no talking or contact and no taking out of cot, just change nappy etc. in cot if she needs it (soo hard in the dark!) i just persist and do things over and over.. even if it means going in every 1 or 2 mins everytime she crys..
And in the morning she knows when its time to wake up as I greet her with a big goodmorning and hello and :hugs:

[Cordelia]

It was taking 3 hours a night to rock DD to sleep and suffering from PND everything was taking it's toll. So even though I said I would NEVER control cry, at 10 months we decided to put her down awake. The first night it took 90 minutes. The second night 30 minutes and then the 3rd night she didn't cry at all. It was very hard but now she loves getting down in her cot when she's sleepy after a bath and a story and some songs, cuddling up with her baby blanket. Never cries just talks herself to sleep.

[dragonflyblu]

Booby fed to sleep. 12 months and still going strong. We have just started introducing the book at bedtime routine. Just before her feed to sleep we all lay in bed together (DH,DD and me) and do quiet play. No toys. This is when we read to her and she climbs all over us and does rasberries on our bellies... I love this time. The book isn tworking yet, but we figured eventually it will. Oh we all sleep in the same bed, so some nights i fall asleep to.

[sare]

13 months and still going..

Me too

[squiglet]

DD is 9months old and I'm still rocking her to sleep. I sing or hum as I do this and she loves it so much she has started humming too.

[forbetoel]

I couldn't vote, because I never rocked to sleep.

I let them fall asleep on their own from the start, full belly, nice and sleepy, and 9/10 they would go out without a fuss. So it was never really an issue for me. Goodluck to you though. Listen to your own instinct, if you are happy rocking, then keep going.

[KapowSchazam]

I never did CC with Bianca, I used to feed her to sleep too :o

She decided pretty much right on 12 months that she wanted to do it herself - took me a few days to get the picture though :rolleyes: Since then, she's been a doll at sleep time - day nap and night sleep :D

[ShadyCharacter]

I still lay down and read and talk to her until she goes to sleep most nights. She can go to sleep without me if I am busy though. I don't see the harm in it, people say I'll be doing it when she's 16 but if we're still laying together and talking when she's that age I'll be part of the very fortunate minority who are close to their teens :)
I like how you think :yes:

I didn't answer the poll, because I made a point of never getting into the habit of rocking or patting, BUT I do lay with my 3.5 year old, either just next to him or cuddling him for as long as it takes for him to fall asleep. I didn't want to do the rocking or patting because of the physical strain, but I am happy to lay with him and make him feel secure until he drifts off :sleeping:

[Benji]

When DS was a baby he was breastfed to sleep but that stopped working around 12 months.

Now I just put him in his bed and turn the music on. I find that if I try to rock, sing, pat him he just stays awake for longer - it can go on for hours whereas if I just walk out he rolls over and goes straight to bed.