Keeping up to date #12

[blessedmummy]

:smiliedance: woohoo!!! i only spent $50 on shopping yesterday!!! we still have $90 till thursday... yay!!! im making chicken stirfry tonight, yummo!

[mysonmysun]

Hey Ladies, How are we all going?

Gee Rene has been a handful lately!!! Seems to be alot of these :hissy: starting to happen and some sleeping issues... I hope I can sort it all out soon :fingerscrossed: hoping its a phase...

Anyway...

Miriam - great job on the shopping trip!!! I really need to do more effective food shopping myself! how are you and DH going at the moment? Have you guys sorted everything out? By the way, what religious denomination do you belong to? I was thinking about starting to attend a local Anglican church (even though I'm Catholic)

Mj - I'm sorry babe but enjoy the sleep you do get now lol I remember thinking exactly the same as you though! Lots of hugs :hugs:, those blue days suck. It gets so hard in the last leg of the pregnancy, starts to feel like it will never end, hey? Hang in there, soon you will have your gorgeous baby in your arms :goodvibes:
What type of care have you decided on for your birth? Midwife led or obstetric? Are you feeling good about the upcoming birth?

Cath - How you going darl and how is little (I mean big lol) Heath. How are you and Steve going?

Rosie - Oh I so hope Seth keeps up the good work for you!!! When I read you only have 10wks left I felt so excited for you!! On the home stretch, not long now!! How are you feeling about giving birth again? Did you have a good experience with Seth, what are your plans for this birth?

Leilz - Hey girl, how you doing? what a shame Ivan missed the u/s I bet he can't wait for the next one though. Big congrats to him for making this far sober!!! Good on him :smiliedance: I hope you're not running yourself around too much, and shoot the Q's at me whenever you want :hugs:

Kayla - How are doing? Hows your bubba doing in there? Any appointments coming up? Hope you are well!

[workin'mumof2]

Rosie - Oh I so hope Seth keeps up the good work for you!!! When I read you only have 10wks left I felt so excited for you!! On the home stretch, not long now!! How are you feeling about giving birth again? Did you have a good experience with Seth, what are your plans for this birth?

mysonmysun - i had (now i look back) a wonderful expericence imo. lol gas (pethadine which didnt do anything and i regret) only grazed and 8 hours :p
dh said i swore at him and the midwife hehehehe ohwell i dont remember.

[mysonmysun]

Yes, it does sound like a wonderful experiences Rosie. Its great that you can look back on it fondly. And so what if you swore, coping is coping lol

[workin'mumof2]

:laughing: im glad u agree with me. yup coping is coping. this time i hope not to have gas but if i need to i wont be upset as i know last time not only did it calm me down but it helped alot with maintaining my blood pressure. at one point i was on my side because i was having really low blood pressure also afecting bubs.

so if gas helps then i wont say no

ok ur so getting me exciting about giving birth now i cant wait i love it. :D

[mysonmysun]

Aw thats so great that you're looking forward to it!!! I can't wait to read all about it and see the pics lol

I think it is really good that you have given your options thought and that you are open to what you might need :) As long as you are in control of and dictate the course of action then I'm sure you'll have another great birth :)

[workin'mumof2]

hope so i just have to not worry about my ds. coz i know he will be looked after fine

[mysonmysun]

Yeah he will be darl, hope you can feel comfortable about that so you don't have to worry :)

[blessedmummy]

Mysonmysun- hey! yeh, should have enough money till thursday..which is great! anyhow... things with me and Dh are slowly getting better which is great!! im still believing for may for ttc#3, i just know it will happen!:yes: and yeh, we are christian, Assembly of God church we go to.

[peanutbutter&jelly]

Gee Rene has been a handful lately!!! Seems to be alot of these starting to happen and some sleeping issues... I hope I can sort it all out soon hoping its a phase...

I was thinking about starting to attend a local Anglican church (even though I'm Catholic)

Mj - I'm sorry babe but enjoy the sleep you do get now lol I remember thinking exactly the same as you though! Lots of hugs :hugs:, those blue days suck. It gets so hard in the last leg of the pregnancy, starts to feel like it will never end, hey? Hang in there, soon you will have your gorgeous baby in your arms :goodvibes:
What type of care have you decided on for your birth? Midwife led or obstetric? Are you feeling good about the upcoming birth?


I'm trying to train myself into sleeping a little better... its not really working though :laughing: Might as well try though! Thanks for the hugs hon, I was just so down the other day... a lot calmer now though :D And to think, this is only the beginning :)
I'm going midwife led care, through the public system... so far I'm enjoying it... no complaints here!
Feeling good, but starting to get a little nervous... I suffer from an overactive imagination and a distinct fear of tearing don't help!
I don't know why I can never remember your name Chantel... I'll find a way!
How old is Rene?

Sounds like you had a great experience Rosie :) Have you decided what to do with Seth during the birth?

So glad to hear that things with you and your DH are getting better Miriam! And good work shopping! I really have to start budgeting properly!

[mysonmysun]

Miriam - Fingers crossed for may hun :fingerscrossed::babydust2:

MJ - Have you done much reading on ways to minimize the risk of tearing? Particular positions are much better for your perineum than others. You can also try perineum massage and it might also be an idea to talk with your midwives about you fears and ask them what they can do to help prevent tearing. There are ways. It helps to be at ease as well and allowing the area to stretch and baby to crow slowly.

Perhaps if you look into this you might feel more at ease.... hth

Oh and Rene is 14mths today :)

[SmileyBJ]

Kayla- Hows things going?? How far along are you now?

Chantel- Happy 14months to Rene!! :) Ivan is still keen to meet you when you have a free day or something.

Im having a horrible day, simply tired, hot, cranky as hell and sick :(. Spent the whole morning without food (just ate at 3:40pm) with people I hate and sitting in the hot sun which kind of made it all worse. Soooo glad to be in aircon now!! Feel like im in heaven compared to my morning lol.

[peanutbutter&jelly]

:hissy: Only going to get worse :D From what I've seen, tantrums seem to be getting worse in the 12 - 36 months, rather than just 2 years... my cousin's son (13 months) is having some nasty tantrums now. :party: Happy 14 months Rene!
I'm going to start to do some reading... its more a case of getting to my mum's to do some proper research on the net...

:hugs: HUGE hugs Leilz! Sounds like you had a pretty nasty morning :( Your day can only get better though :D

[blessedmummy]

thanks mysonmysun! i hope it happens quickly too, i SO wish i could go off the pill now, so i could get my body back into normal cycle etc etc...but not sure what dh would say, so i think id better stay on it for a bit yet. cant wait tho for that time!!:smiliedance::D

[mysonmysun]

I'd definitely encourage you to look into it and do some reading darl :hugs: and have a chat with your middies about it.... or hire a doula :p I bet you'll do great though and the midwifery led care is usually wonderful :)

Oh no - I don't want any more tantrums. this morning he started banging his head on the ground :eek: I couldn't believe it!!!

[peanutbutter&jelly]

:) Thanks for all the encouragement and support Chantel!! :hugs:
Don't worry about the tantrum thing... if its in any way true that you get back double what you gave, I am in sooo much trouble :o :laughing:
Fingers crossed he doesn't start holding his breath next =(

[Kayangel]

Chantel- Hey hun! how are u and Rene going?? Jaylen (bubba) and i are doing great, i went baby shopping today and had so much fun! my next doctors appointment is not for another 3 weeks, i have my 32 week hositpal appointment in march and also a scan at 32 weeks so both these will be exciting!

Leilz- :wave: things are going great expect for the stress and worry with my ex, ur so lucky u dont have to go though this, i texted him today asking him if he wants to no the sex of bubs and........... no reply :mad: im sick of it, i dunno what do to anymore? i want him to be apart of Jaylens life and be on the birth cert but i dont see it happening :(

Im 23 weeks on thursday :cloud9:

Miriam- Gald things are going well for u and ur DH! not long till May. woohoo.

MJ- I hope u start sleeping better soon :hugs:

Rosie- Hey!

GUESS WHAT??? EVERYONE!!!

I can feel kicks on the outside of my tummy! :goodvibes: its so exciting! i cant decide how it feels its just so amazing! i am felling more in love with my beauitful boy everyday.

[peanutbutter&jelly]

:smiliedance:Awesome Kayla.. well except about your ex :mad: ... his loss!! Jaylen isn't going to NEED him. He needs love & care... which your more than capable of all by yourself :yes: Not that much longer to go!
I have a maternity shoot next week hopefully :) Then after that, if I like the photographer, I'll organise a newborn shoot with her. Yay!

[Kayangel]

wow MJ lucky u i love the maternity shoots, are u going to get one of ur naked belly? with just a sheet or something covering ur boobies and undies.

Have u finished all ur baby shopping??

I no Jaylen will get all the love and care he needs from me and my family but i really want him to no his daddy no where he comes from etc. and i no mathew could offer and teach him so much if he wanted too.

[peanutbutter&jelly]

Just confirmed it! Wednesday at 1!
Yay! I don't know whether I'll get a skin shot, quite possibly :)
I still have a few things to get, but my baby shower is next Saturday... so I don't think I'll have anything to worry about after that :laughing:
You just have to watch that you don't spend too much on baby shopping... I certainly know that feeling :D

[Kayangel]

:laughing: I think i have already spend way to much and buying too much but this is my first bub so im not worring about any of that just having fun shopping.

yay baby shower on saturday, that will be fun. Cant wait to hear all about it.

I love the skin shoots with the boobs and undies covered with a sheet looks so beauitful.

How much is it all costing? if u dont mind me asking.

[SmileyBJ]

DP & I went out last night for a mates 29th. It was absolutely wicked. Didnt get back to my place till 3am and although I was completely sober and everyone else was trashed I had a blast :)
DP has been so unbelievably caring laterly, so open and wanting to touch my belly all the time lol,he talks to it and listens for a heartbeat/kicks lol, which I still can't feel yet. Things are going wonderful laterly :smiliedance:. I have just ordered a AC, washing machine and microwave for an absolutely wicked price. Cant wait for them to be delievered on Thursday!!

Kayla- By the sounds of it your ex doesnt want to take much responsibility, which is so sad but you will make a wonderful mummy and your little bundle is going to have all the love and affection he could possibly need...:hugs:

MJ- Have fun at your babyshower! I have restrained myself from buying anything for bub so far but hope I don't go crazy in my later months lol.

Chantel- Lol sorry none of our messages were going through yesterday! Whats more convenient for you, to catch up on a weekday or weekend? Im happy either way to either meet you in Brissy or you come out also, whatever is easiest for you.

Liddy- Are you still around girl??

[Kayangel]

Leilz- Ivan sounds like a sweetie! awww. Im glad u had a great nice last night, im sure u needed it.

The ex doesnt want to take any responsibility, i think im going to have to cal him and try and see where his head is, i dunno why im so scared of calling him i just am.

[workin'mumof2]

Mj - with seth and my birth even though its not the most perfect of situations im going to have my sister look after him. She treats him alot better then her own son... (long story i wont elaberate on here) Will write down my routine for her and make sure she knows how strict i am on it.

mysonmysun - oh wow 14months :D seth is only 1month and a bit ahead. head banging is quite common from what i read, but most people (i know its hard) ignore this and it goes away slowly. I hope it improves for you.

Seth doesn chuck tantrums yet, if he does i dont notice lol.

Kayla - omg wooo hoo kicks on the outside :D wait till u see a hand or a foot its really quite amazing u think there going to pop out lol. Sorry to hear about ur ex. I know its hard but maybe he will see the text or is looking at it and just thinking of what to do next. hopefully he will want to be in bubs life. if not its his loss not urs. Hopefully ur boy will understand that. BIG hugs to you. Also dont be scared to call. Be strong ur doing the right thing, ur bubba has the right to know his daddy and ur ex needs to realise this.

Leilz - so glad ur had a great time and ur partner is touching ur belly and listening hehe everytime the doc puts the doppler on to listen to the heartbeat even ds listens to it and smiles. dh loves it.

Sorry i wasnt on yesterday my glucose test came back fine :D yay and bubs is healthy. Doc is happy for me to drive to melb as long as i take my time.

[TwoBlue]

my glucose test came back fine :D

:thumbsup: Told you not to worry !
Glad to hear it

[Kayangel]

Rosie- Gald to hear ur little girl is fine! :D when did u start seeing a hand or a foot??

Thanks for the advice hun, i really need to get over this scared feeling and call once i get out these first couple of words i will be fine, i keep thinking what i want to say lol.

If i could have one wish it would be 4 mathew to be apart of his sons life, i want one son to have 2 parents not one, its not fair on him.

[workin'mumof2]

Rosie- Gald to hear ur little girl is fine! :D when did u start seeing a hand or a foot??

well with seth it wasnt untill about 32 weeks but ive been noticing if i actually lie still on my back (not for too long) i can see her moving something weather its a foot/hand or leg or arm i couldnt tell you. some people say the hand can push out and u can see it well. hehe like pushing out on a balloon if u were inside lol. 67days left 11-12days till we move.


:thumbsup: Told you not to worry !
Glad to hear it

hehe i know but what else was i to do in my spare time... count sheep :laughing:
Thank you though :D

Well Seth went for his morning nap really easy which is great considering we had a horrid night. i only got 4.5hours of sleep. having a todler that doesnt sleep well and being pregnant not being able to get to sleep doesnt mix.

Better go get some rest. need some :sleeping: but its not going to happen

[SmileyBJ]

Leilz- Ivan sounds like a sweetie! awww. Im glad u had a great nice last night, im sure u needed it.
.

Yes his changed so much without the weed. (11 days already!!) I always knew he had a good heart but his always so concerned about me now and wants to make sure Im okey 24/7.

You will find a wonderful guy just the same Kayla. Give it time... If bubs dad doesnt want to step up to the plate dont ever blame yourself, your son will always have a father, and some day Im sure he'll understand that for some reason daddy wasn't able to be there for him if thats wat your ex chooses eventually...:hugs: Things will be okey, and you will get through it.

[Kayangel]

Leilz- hehe! as they say plenty of fish in the sea but the last thing on my mind is finding another guy i dont think i could trust or love again yet :rolleyes:

As for Mathew for someone who loves babies and kids so much to do this to his own has shocked me, i have seen him with bubs and older kids his wonderful. What gets me the most is that his being a dad to two kids that arent his.

Rosie- I cant wait to see a hand or foot aww so cute! Not long till ur holding ur baby girl :D have a good rest :sleeping:

[SmileyBJ]

DP is having such a hard day with the withdrawals... :( Does anyone have any helpful things to help him through?? Im being so patient and sticking by him 110% but I just wish the hard part would start to ease...

How long does drug withdrawels last??

[workin'mumof2]

Does your dp have a little hobby to try and keep his mind off it?

In regards to how long the withdrawls last, depends how long and how heavy he was on them to begin with. Hopefully not to much longer. Its great you can give him so much support when he needs it. :hugs:

[mysonmysun]

Hi all, just a quick one, dinner time and all....

Leilz I think it is suppose to be 21 days... Don't quote me on that one but I've heard that it is. You'reboth doing great!!! keep up the great work and hang in there.
I'll try get onto the net a bit later tonight to chat if you're around xo

[peanutbutter&jelly]

Yay Rosie!!! :flowerz: :smiliedance:
Congrats on getting a good result back!

And I'm glad to hear that your baby girl is perfectly healthy too. Here's hoping your sister will provide a beautiful environment for your son when your having your bub... enough stress without worrying about Seth too!
Kayla - My shoot is costing my nothing at all =) I'm doing it as a favour for a photographer who needs more maternity shots for her portfolio. Might alo see if I can get my ex to do some... only issue would be his wife :hair: other than that he's one of my best friends... stupid!! But that one would also be free... and my brilliant little brother is an aspiring photographer :laughing: no skin shots there!!
Leilz - you must be so proud of Ivan now... 11 days is a long time to go without an addiction =) I love buying new "big" things...
And I've slowed right off buying things now... I haven't bought a baby item in a few weeks at least.
And I'm sure the withdrawals will start to curb soon hon :hugs:

I think thats all.... :D

[SmileyBJ]

Thankyou everyone :). I know if he can stay motivated then we can get through this together.

Liddy- His main detox symptom is aggression (not towards me thankfully, although he does say things alot more often that I know he deffinately doesnt mean) but just seems so emotional, angry and upset. His also getting sweats and not sleeping at all...

Chantel- I'll be on for a little while 2night. I may head out a little later if Ivan wants me to come round...

Rosie- Unfortunately I think It'll be a long haul, as his used weed daily for atleast a couple of years and regularly for atleast 7-10 years... So his really feeling it... I'm helping to organise for him to start boxing or legal Cage fighting which will release alot of the anger in a better way then bashing some random person down the street hopefully :fingerscrossed:

[Kayangel]

leilz- I dont have any advice regarding Ivan i dont no much about drug withdrawals but just wanted to say that his doing a great job and ur being a great girlfriend hanging in there supporting him though this i cant imagine how hard that must be, sending u some hugs :hugs:

Liddy- I cant wait to both our bubs are born it will be wonderful, we both need some sunshine and happniess in our lifes. :goodvibes: U havent got long to go, i still have 17 weeks.

I agree i think we both have the same views and want the same things regarding our exs tho u r alot stronger then me.

MJ- a free shoot thats excellect! its going to look so good.

[Kayangel]

Liddy- U seem so strong by ur posts and the advice u give, u have been though alot that im sure alot of young ladies would look upto u, i no for one i think ur an amazing person.

Thats so rude ur midwife just assumed u didnt want ur ex on the forms, just cause ur single doesnt mean u dont want the father to be apart of Jades life.

I start my antenatal classes first week in feb so that will be exciting! im sure 17 weeks will fly it just seems so long compared to 11 weeks.

[SmileyBJ]

Morning all...

Day 12- Another tough day for us by the looks... His cranky, irritable and trying to take it out on me. I stayed strong and kept my mouth shut while he swore about random things and insulted me and got angry about everything possible in his life. I just sat and listened, told him Im there for him and things will be okey. Then once I dropped him at work I cried the whole way home. Just wish I could take his pain away... :( :crying: Im so proud of him that he hasn't given in yet though...This is so hard even for me to go through!!

[blessedmummy]

hey girls..having a tough day, but everything is in Gods hands! :yes: anyhow, im glad that ive got all the washing done and housework too, yay!!! anyhow, better go, seeya!!

[Kayangel]

Leilz- I can tell how hard this is for u and Ivan my heart goes out to u both as i was reading ur post i felt so sad for u both, Ivan is doing a wonderful job, is there any support groups around for him?? u are doing all the right things being there for him, giving him a ear, listerning to him. Hang in there u will both get though this.

[SmileyBJ]

Kayla- Thankyou so much for the support. Its greatly appreciated... I know we can get through this if he continues to be strong :)

Gawd I love him so much!!! :hugs:Aint love crazy lol. Hows your little belly going?? Should post us another piccy!! lol

[peanutbutter&jelly]

Hi everyone!
Having a greta day for once, lots of smiling and actually went for a wander around my dozy little town today :D
Only small problem was the second I went into the indoor pool, the chlorine gave me chest pains :confused: Have to remember to mention that to the middies tomorrow! Here's hoping my classes start soon, since they're 10 weeks!
And I think I've found the favours for my shower... I think thats all!
Hope everyone's having a good day

[workin'mumof2]

hey all having a bit of a cry then dh bathed seth and i had a shower and felt a bit better.

*big sigh*

please be better tomorrow. we are going to try seth on 1 nap again but persist with it.

[SmileyBJ]

I went for a walk this arvo :)

DP is much cheerier this also which is great. Heading round his place for the night as Im still not alloud back to my own place until 2morrow cause of the painters :rolleyes:. Im exhausted also and have had a sore throat and a headache ongoing for the last few days...

Rosie- Hope tomorrow is a better day for you and Seth...:hugs:

MJ- When is your baby shower? have you organised a theme of some sort? Ive been thinking about mine alot laterly... It will be very casual though... probably just a bbq with family and friends, drinks and plenty of food lol.

Liddy- Yes I hope one day he can thank me... and not hate me for making him choose between weed or me and his bub.

MEC- hope tomorrow is a better day!! Hang in there!

[Kayangel]

How can u go from feeling so happy and excited to feeling so down and like u have no hope?

The one thing i wanted was my son to have both sides of a family, i wanted my son to no his dad and to no mathews side of the family but now i have lost all hope of that eva happening and it hurts i now no in years to come Jaylen will have so many questions about his dad, what was he like?, why didnt he want to no me? etc. i have no idea what to say and it breaks my heart.

I am hurting, upset and holding back my tears im not sad for me, im sad for my son.

Mathew and i made this baby im 18 and living up to the responsiblities he will be 24 in May and from the sounds of things isnt going to live up to the responsibities.

I wont be contecting him again, i have done all i can do, i have tired my best, what else can i do?? nothing.

Mathew didnt say much on the phone yesturday just that he wants a DNA test, i cant belive he still wants it, i dont understand he knows what im like he knows i was crazy about him and would have never cheated on him. :rolleyes:

As for mathews mother who i seen last night, said that lots of ppl do this alone that im not the only one, which is very true and i think that everyone doing this alone is so strong and amazing, it seems like i will be doing this alone, yes i can do it, yes it will be hard but i am going to make the best life i can for my son and i, im going to give him everything he could eva need, he will get enough love from me.

Sorry for the big vent! and thanks to anyone who read it.

[TwoBlue]

#13 coming....