Parents reactions

[renee101]

hi everyone.
i just wanted to know how peoples parents reacted when they found out you were pregnant? i'm very anxious about telling my mum, i'm not sure how she will react. my partner and i planned this, after an unexpected pg that ended in misscarriage. we're both very excited at the idea of having a baby. telling my mum is a bit scary tho!!

Renee (20)
Partner (21)

[Skadi]

My mum's reaction was " I hope realize, you've ruined your life!"

[ktmg82]

Hi Renee
Your situation sound similar to mine. I am currently 35 weeks pregnant with a boy that me and my partner planned. We made the decision to do this after we miscarried our first son, who wasnt planned. Does your mum know about your miscarriage? i found that my mum fully understood why we wanted to try again however my dad was angry. it was like he accepted that we made a mistake the first time but it was stupid to plan to do it again. But if its what u want then srew everyone else. me and my partner couldnt be happier. we have since become engaged and i am due to give birth in the next week or so!
I know its scary telling people, but its worth it in the end if its what u want.
Good luck with everything

[lostmum]

Hey Renee, i was 16 when i fell pregnant the 1st time. My parents were really disappointed cos i didnt finish school. But after the shock wore off they totally supported me and my partner. We have just had number 4 and they have supported us thru all of them. It comes as a bit of a shock and i think u have to expect that but in the long run they will come around and love their grandchild lots :) . In if worse does come to worse u do what u have to do to b happy. well thats my theory anyway. Good Luck

[Lallas' Mum]

Hi Renee,

I felt nervous telling my parents that I was expecting for the first time. I'm not sure why as I had been married for nearly two years!?! I thought that I would choke under all the emotions so I cheated and made some little greeting cards instead.
The little cards said "just for you" on the front with a cute little bear. On the inside I wrote a little message. It said
"Dear Grandma and Grandpa,
I just thought I would drop a line to let you know how anxious I am to meet you. I can't wait to finish growing in Mummy's tummy so I can pop out to see you both. I am due to arrive at the Hervey Bay Hospital on the 10th of October and I'm hoping you'll be there to greet me when I arrive.
Love you lots,
Your Grandchild
Bubba."

The cards were great. It stopped me from choking tears of joy and shaking from nerves. It may be an idea that could help you. It puts focus on the relationship between your parents and your child and helps you get the words out. I also made them for my parents-in-law and my sisters and my husband's brother and sister.

It is hard to know how other people are going to react to certain things. But I'm sure your parents' love for you and joy at being Grandparents will shine through.

Good luck

Tracey
:) Mum to Alec (Lalla) 18 months and bub due May 3rd

[renee101]

thanks everyone!!
i didnt tell my mum about my miscarriage, my partner and i werent sure what we were going to do, it was such a shock as we had been using condoms and i was on the pill! then when we went to the docs to discuss options i had a check and found out i had miscarried.
i think she will be ok, i'm just so nervous!!! i know she will suport me in the end, well i hope so anyway! its just that first bit i'm worried about.
her reaction isnt going to affect my feelings in the end. i hope she will be happy for me, but if she isnt i will still be happy for me!

the card idea is a really good one!! i might just do that!!

Thanks everyone!

[pinkandblue]

Hi
I was 20 years old when I first fell pregnant and had been living with my boyfriend for 2 years. When I told my mum she said "Oh Natalie, you're too young, you're not married, you havent bought a house yet, bla bla bla'. But she got over it.
Last year I was 22 and fell pregnant again and when I told my mum she said "Oh Natalie, bla bla bla'. At least that time I had bought a house but I still wasnt married. I ended up terminating the pregnancy as there was problems with the baby.
I am now 23 and 7 1/2 weeks pregnant again and told my mum and she was happy for me this time. I guess 3rd time lucky.
Natalie