baby shower for friend who lost baby

[cleighsa]

i have a friend who last year went full term and had a stillborn little girl. she is pregnant again and due in july. she had a baby shower for her first baby and so has all the stuff she needs for newborn.
i wanted to do something for her like a shower but as she has all baby stuff, wondering if anyone has any ideas of what i could do for a shower as an alternative??
thanks
leighsa

[mummyb]

like the song says you've got to have friends.
just having an afternoon tea with some yummy food and close friends would be alovely show of support .
instead of buying gifts for the baby buy something for the mum to be things like nail polish shower gel , lip gloss little items that make agirl feel glam .
if you have all had babies make a book with the best bits of advice you all got and maybe the worst as well.
i think after such a huge loss she may just need to know that all her friends are there for her no matter what happens and that while she may not want to make a big fuss (i know i didnt after losing our first baby through miscarrige ) a relaxing afternoon with friends with out the focus being on the baby might be just right .
what ever you do i wish your friend all the best with this baby my prayer is for the safe arrival of her baby and a long and happy life for them and all that know them . good luck . :)

[willsmum]

I agree with mummyb. Why not do something for your friend that totally focusses on her rather than the baby. You could hire a massage therapist for an afternoon, or have a perfume or jewellery party. Or you could do something like a lingerie party so she gets spoiled after bub arrives (and god knows she will probably not feel like wearing sexy knickers for a while, but at least she will have them!).

Or maybe just hire a few weepy videos & have a good girly cry surrounded by her favourite friends (and a heap of really yummy chocolates of course, what with champagne being out of the question).

Or something totally different, depending on how far along she is, and how capable she is of doing things herself, how about a huge spring-clean of her house with all her friends chipping in? You know, all the crap like windows, pelmets, door frames that you can't do properly when you are really pregnant. I know I lost the plot at the end of my pregnancies and was fretting that bubs would come home to a grotty house.

ANyway, whatever you decide, I'm sure she'll appreciate the thought.