What if I move???

[mumofsamuel]

Hi Mummies,

I am not too sure if anyone here can help me or not but I am having a little stress inside my head and I'm not sure what I can do about it.

DH and I are considering moving... not just around the corner but more like interstate or hours drive away (we have NO IDEA at the moment). My OB has told me I need to book into the hospital (going Private) by my next scan which should be around 22nd Jan.

Does anyone know what happens if I move between now and when we have little bubba? I have heard that in some of the major cities there are very long waiting lists to get into the hospitals. A friend told me yesterday that she had to book into the hospital when she was 13 wks PG and only just got in when she was 8 mth PG due to long waiting list. I may end up in the same area as she was talking about.

I know I shouldn't stress until I have to, but I am also up for a big payment to the OB in Jan but don't want to be paying that if she is not going to be the one that delivers my baby as I will have to pay that to another OB in the end.

All of this hinges on when we sell our house so we can't decide now but I don't want to be here when my baby's born. I want to be settled in a smaller place and all ready for baby by then.

Sorry for off-loading this on other people but I am after some advice. Has anyone else moved and changed Dr's in the middle of a pregnancy or had anything similar happen?

Thank you. :(

[DeeJay]

Hey,

Sounds like a bit of a hard one!

If you have some idea where you are going, could you maybe book into a hospital now and explain to them that you won't be in the area until around (whatever date), but obviously need to book in. You don't need to tell them that you may not end up there, and you can always cancel it if need be.

Don't know if this helps, but an idea at least!

DJ

[mumofsamuel]

Thanks Deejay,

I've considered that. I think it would most prob be Brisbane or back to Sydney. I would love to decide now but DH just puts off the decision until the house is sold... which is driving me (a self confessed control/organisation freak) NUTS! Each day our preference is different too which doesn't make the decision easy.

My best option right now is to just book into the hospital up here and tell my OB my dilemma when I see her in Jan. Maybe she can refer me to a Brisbane hospital too just in case. Argh! It gives me a headache!!!

Thanks for your help though. :hugs:

[tuttifrutti]

Oh, what a drag when you're pregnant! But I suppose better to move now before you give birth

I would book into a hospital now based on both your options, to leave you some flexibility. And do what you planned, talk to your OB when you see her. I think it would depend on which area you move to as well - I just rang today to book into Coffs Hospital and it seemed ok. I got an appointment in the first week of January.

You could also ring the hospitals in both areas you are thinking of moving to and just talk to a midwife or the booking receptionist to get an idea of the likilihood of getting in there later, just to put your mind at ease. You can explain your situation and ask what they recommend.

good luck!

[mumofsamuel]

Thanks Tuttifrutti, Will try calling hospital in Bris which seems more likely at this stage just to see.

[Milk_Monkey]

I do not envy your situation - im a bit of an organisational freak myself.

dont actually have any practical suggestions for you - except to take a few breaths and relax.

... And if you happen to move to brissy, let me know and we can take deep breaths together :)

[mumofsamuel]

Thanks Milk Monkey,
Think am getting emotional again. It's so nice to know you have other people thinking of you. Thank you all for your help. Will try taking deep breaths (between tears!). I hope it works itself out... :-(

[tuttifrutti]

noosamumtobe - when you talk to the person at maternity in the Brisbane hospital, ask for the names of the OBs available and a fax number so your OB can fax a referral direct to them. Then when you talk to your OB in Jan you have a list of the OBs available and the referall can be done direct.

My doctor here is faxing the referral straight through to the OB in Coffs, but I have also asked to leave the final allocation of the OB until I can choose personally (you may need to choose before if private)

[mumofsamuel]

Thanks TuttiFrutti, I've already had to chose an Ob up here and have seen her already too so you may be right about having to chose ASAP. Will keep that in mind too.

[supermumof3]

noosa mum why dont u try ringing around in the areas u r considering moving to just to find out how bad the waiting lists are. u might find they r not so bad as u think. good luck

[mumofsamuel]

As I wished, I think everything is sorting itself out. I asked DH last night what he thinks the most likely destination will be and it will most prob be Sydney as that's where most of the family is. That means there is an OB there that has done some surgery for me in the past. She is also a relative so I may just call her and ask her opinion.
Thank you all for your help and advice.
:hugs:

[Jade's Mum]

Hey, i'm from the april 08 thread but thought id pop in and let you know i recently moved interstate and had to change hospitals. I'm 24 weeks pregnant and my last appointment at the antenatal clinic was at 20 weeks, and i wont be seeing somebody here untill 22nd jan and then i will be 28 weeks pregnant, so i missed out on one appointment basically. Im going public so i dunno what private is like, but its not like you're going to be left stranded to have a baby! Pregnancy is such a natural thing, your body will do what it needs to do, my only stress is that i dont know who to call if i have any questions at the moment.. but my general gp is covering me untill i get to my first appointment.
You still have plenty of time before you are due, but might i suggest moving sooner rather than later is probably a better option!
All the best!

[mumofsamuel]

Thanks Liddy,
I agree with moving sooner rather than later but it's not under my control. When the house sells, then we can look into our options.
But thanks for your response. Sometimes you need someone to tell you it's not the end of the world and things will sort themselves out!
:)