Arrrgh Tantrum Throwing 17month Old!! HELP!

[Love My Bub]

My DD is a beautiful natured little girl and she is very well behaved and loves to play on her own.

She used to be such a great child to take out- until she turned one :devil: As soon as she could walk she no longer wanted to just sit- which I understand but crikey it makes it hard!

Lately we are having issues with tantrums. She loves to play outside but she cant be out there unless Im out there with her so when I bring her inside she kicks and screams and throws herself on the floor.

She has recently started laying on the tiles and bashing her head on them! :eek:

Now I know that all toddlers are like this and I AM very fortunate to have such a wonderful well behaved child(most of the time) but how do i discipline a toddler that dosnt understand and thinks its all a game?

We are also having issues with the TV. We have a plasma and a set top box now the set top box she has just discoverd she can reach- we can move it up higher so thats not an issue but the plasma we cant move! She turns it on and off all the time!

I get up and move her away but she thinks its a game and goes back and does it again.

I move her away and get mad and tell her firmaly NO- but again, she laughs and goes back.

I even went as far as giving her a tiny tap on the hand the other day- alas no sucess

HELP! Im going bonkers! I dont know how to get through to her! Moving her away constantly and trying to distract her with other activites dosnt work!

Any sugestions before I go nutty???

:hair:

[the_queen]

Can you set the TV to "child lock"? That's what I've got, and even though it doesn't stop the actual "on/off" switch, without my constant "let's not play near there" and "no"s, he got bored with it very quickly and doesn't touch it anymore.

Otherwise, put a playpen/some kind of barrier around the TV.

I like to make the area as safe as possible, and reduce the opportunities for "doing the wrong thing" because nobody likes having those disagreements all day long. If you set up the environment so that the things she isn't allowed to touch are actually impossible for her to touch, then you won't have to worry about it.

Mine tantrums. The way I deal with it is to just acknowledge what he is probably feeling (ie giving him the words to use - because a tantrum is an expression of feelings when a child can't express him/herself in words) and don't make a big deal about it. When they're little like this, you can pick her up and move her to where she needs to be, and say something like "i know you love playing outside, it's sad when you have to stop playing outside isn't it. You can be upset about it, but at the moment we need to come inside" etc etc. Once a child becomes more verbal, the tantrums lessen significantly.

[Myztik]

I'm going through the same stuff with my 17mnth old too. Will keep an eye on this thread ;)

[Love My Bub]

Queen- unfortunatly the plasma dosnt have a child lock- I dont even know how she figured out where the buttons are! She must have been really watching when Ive pressed them to figure it out!

When she throws a tantrum I do talk to her.

This morning for example- I was stacking the dishwasher and she was 'helping' by pulling and shoving on the racks. I moved her away and we had major tantrums and I said to her 'I know you love to help but you cant right now becaue you will cut your fingers on the knifes but thank you for trying to help mummy'

I like to explain things to her

Geee its frustrating though :hair:

[the_queen]

Yup, it is - that's parenting! :D

I think the key is to time what you do - I don't stack or unpack the dishwasher when he's around, it's just not worth the argument. I make sure he's otherwise occupied, or asleep, and then I do those kinds of jobs.

[Love My Bub]

Yup, it is - that's parenting! :D

I think the key is to time what you do - I don't stack or unpack the dishwasher when he's around, it's just not worth the argument. I make sure he's otherwise occupied, or asleep, and then I do those kinds of jobs.


Oh believe me so do I!! I cant stand trying to clean then having cyclone DD pull it all out behind me :no:!

Today I had no choice- she didnt want to sleep when she normaly does and we are going away. There is NO way Im coming home after christmas to a messy house! lol

[the_queen]

LOL my boy gets called "Cyclone" as well :laughing:

[Love My Bub]

well- I just discovered she tipped water through the PS2 games drawer. Faaaaaaaaantastic.

Apparently its hilarious to play with water inside

:no::rolleyes:

[smithie]

my son does the banging the floor thing too, luckily he waited until he turned he tuned 2 and at least now they are much less frequent and not so intense! we live in a duplex terrace, so anytime he starts banging and screaming like a tormented victim im half expecting docs on my doorstep the next day!! yes, they are frustrated because of the lack of language ability, but they are also devoid of any semblance of LOGIC. you cannot reason with a small toddler. it helped ever so slightly to walk calmly away so as not to indulge him with a reactive audience and to take deeeeeep breaths... engaging with my son at a much more intensive, highly exhausting level has helped alot.we also took the dvd player away and told him it just somehow "disapeared", which he completely understood, better than we did. this has helped with his concentation span, i think, thus he is a bit more patient which helps stave off fits. playdoe, fingerpainting,LOTS of song and dance (which is the tiring bit),lots of new books to read and hours of floor play with imaginitive play- has worked 'wonders'. allthough its not hard to wonder why.