hypospadias hemiforeskin and the 'need' to circumcise

[Charis]

Just interested if anyone else on here has or has had a beautiful DS with hypospadias (urethra not right on the end) or a hemiforeskin..and what they thought of the advice given?

I am interested in discussion and I understand if the procedure was to be done for my DS it would be done before hes 18months.

Hospital advice to us is that the hypospadias is now seen as very 'mild' just about normal and doesn't affect urination or in time ejectulation(!) .. but there is a pretty substantial irregularity of foreskin..

It has been said that when little 8-9yr olds compare with each other that our DS will be teased.. Firstly do they compare??? Secondly being circumcised is different from the majority now too.

Many thanks, will welcome discussion if anyone if interested? Thank you :wave:

[alexiasmum]

Hi. My ds is now 3.5 yrs.He was born with hypospadias. He has had 3 operations to correct it. I think some children could be cruel and tease. We don't have any regrets.

[MotherNurture]

You may want to visit Mothering's Case Against Circumcision forum. You can find it by googling, "MDC circumcision forum". My inclination would be to not worry about the hypospadias since it's a mild case, but that you may want to consider having the foreskin repaired at some point. The reason would not be just cosmetics, but so that it functions fully/normally. I would not circumcise him, though.

Jen

[smog]

my 4 yo son has this condition though mildly. it was decided when he was about 2 that as it was mild we would not circumsize. i think boys do compare somewhat but its more the size they r comparing. im not sure how closely they compare so i guess to me it depends how obvious it is. we feel that its pretty unlikely in our sons case that other boys will notice and ive wondered if he will even notice should we not mention it. i feel that if it does bother him as he gets older he can always choose to be circumsized.

[Charis]

Thanks for the comments so far! Very helpful, as have been the pro and con threads too. SuperMumof2, I'd stick by the not mention it until he does or till he's a grown up.

Actually WAY before all this and strangely enough had an 'encounter' with a chap who had had an op, (sorry if TMI!) it wasn't the neatest surgery, but as a little boy comparing they or he wouldn't have seen any of that..and he had no qualms about it, just knew he'd needed surgery when a baby. Wasn't an issue for him. Which is how we want our boys to be.

Thank you, the views on here have certainly made me question the hospitals recommendation. Will talk further with his Dad. THANKS!

[Charis]

Just me again..hogging my own thread.. Just to say THANK YOU to MotherNurture. I did follow your link and read ALOT last night. It is very convincing and also was very good to read about Mothers posting their regrets for the decision they'd made. Have thus had a major shift in my thinking.

Of course all the operation process and pain during the procedure is quite different as under anesthetic in Australia. But the removal of a part of his body just for aesthetics due to uneven-ness of extra skin is not what I want to impose. If he decides he wants it done as an adult, that is his choice. Its not really that funny looking :thumbsup:compared with all the negatives of removing it. THANKS for your assistance and advice.

[MotherNurture]

Just me again..hogging my own thread.. Just to say THANK YOU to MotherNurture. I did follow your link and read ALOT last night. It is very convincing and also was very good to read about Mothers posting their regrets for the decision they'd made. Have thus had a major shift in my thinking.

Of course all the operation process and pain during the procedure is quite different as under anesthetic in Australia. But the removal of a part of his body just for aesthetics due to uneven-ness of extra skin is not what I want to impose. If he decides he wants it done as an adult, that is his choice. Its not really that funny looking :thumbsup:compared with all the negatives of removing it. THANKS for your assistance and advice.

You are so very, very welcome! :hugs:

Jen

[alexiasmum]

My ds had the opening half way down the shaft. I think that is obvious, so it needed to be corrected.