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*Country Bumpkin*
08-03-2006, 15:43
Im having big probs with my DP we never argue or fight and noramly get along really well. We love each other very much but latley we have just lost the connection IYKWIM
While we were standing in the bub isle at coles DP says I have a propersition for you if you dont like it I wont be upset.... I was like hmmmm this sounds interesting.
So anyway on he went and this is what the propersition was- In a couple of weeks you can go and spen as MUCH money as you WANT on the bub or anything else you want!!! Ok sounds great right.... here comes the BUT...... but only if I can go out for the night not to the city just to gillholleys or something!!!
I was so hurt that he tried to bribe me!!!! He relised why I was upset and was trying to hug me etc....
Didnt realy think about it after that until we got home and i asked him a couple of questions.... He wants to go out ALL day on saturday to a friends party, come home, go to work from 5.30pm- 10.30pm, come home get changed, and go out again ALL NIGHT
Im here by myself all day 5 days a week and 3 nights aswell he plays squash 2 nights so i only get 2 nights with him and he wants to spend one of them out all day and all night????
Dosnt he understand how lonley I am? I tell him all the time as it is.......i dont understand hes only been wanting to go out all the time since ive been pregnant before that he was quite happy just to spend time with me.......
Am I being selfish? Or am I quite within my rights to want to spend the little amount of time we have together???
Ohhh and he tried to bribe me again with getitng me a kitten!!!!
So what do all you gals think? Should I just let him go out all day while i spend it here by myself and then spend all night alone again? WHAT SHOULD I DO"??????
Im so miserable
Then he gets home yesterday arvi and this happens.......
When DP got home this he didnt say a single word about bub moving for the first time today... this is one of our major probs- he shows no excitment!!!! He says hes excited but ya wouldnt no to look at him...... also he wouldnt give me an answer as to why he wanted to go out....
I ended up telling him that if he didnt start talking about everything I would leave! I gave him 5mins- he didnt start talking So up I got and off i went.......
I didnt get far i collapsed on the stairs in a heap crying.......he eventually came looking for me and sat down outside with me- he didnt sayanything but he was there all the same. Eventually when we came inside he said he feels "controlled" by me..... I dont know why I never stop him from doing anything
I eventually relised that we have 23weeks left to sort out our relathionship before bub will be here and that I dont feel a connection to him anymore.... and i told him so.
He said he wont go out at night but I no he will resent me if he dosnt go out every now and then. I dont mind but i would like to be included
He said he has a social life with his new work mates but what he dosnt relise is that it hurts me that Im not included in any of this "social" life....
There is no reason why I cant go out too......well none that I can see anyway. We dont do anyhting and when he finaly does want to do something Im not included He said he thought I wouldnt want to go- well he never asked did he....
Im so afraid that if we cant find the "connection" and become close like we used o be that this isnt going to work and I dont want to spend my life without him- but I have to think of myself and the bub and I have to do whats best.....
I dont want to be miserable anymore but its hard to distingush wether or not this is hormones or my heart talking.... ohhh what to do
Sorry to have written an essay
I love him so much and i realy dont know how to cope or what to do.......
He has also gone and shaved off all his facial hair and he looks totaly different- the only conclusion i can come up with is that hes met a chick at work that he likes and that why hes wanting to go out and why he wants to look different al of a sudden...this is sooooo unlike him!!!!
He needs to smarten up and realise he has a baby on the way and a partner at home that needs him, bugger his bloody social life! He doesn't sound like he's ready to be a daddy, if he's trying to bribe you to deprive you of your time with him.
I'd ask him why he feels the need to go out on the town without you, why not invite some of his work friends over for drinks at home? I did this and my partner doesn't feel the need to go out on the town with his workmates, as he's welcome to bring them home and I've met them all.
Be strong, Adele, whatever happens, you've got a little life dependant on you. :fingerscrossed:
I don't really have any advice for you...but if it makes you feel any better, my DH does similar things alot too.
The most recent one was when I told him last week that I was planning on going out with my sister one night in the next few weeks. She turned 18 just before christmas and wanted me to go out one night with her and our other sisters. His response to this was to say that he would take both kids to his parents...which I have told him before DD will not be staying there coz they smoke around her and she can't get up and move like DS does...anyway, he thinks he's gonna take the kids there then go out for the night himself too.
I got a bit annoyed then and told him I wouldn't bother going out if he can't stay home one night and look after the our kids who would be sleeping before I left anyway. He started asking why he can't go out the same night as I do and I had to remind him of all the nights he goes out, even if it is just to friends houses, and I stay home alone, mostly coz he just doesn't ask if I wanna come. He still doesn't get it:banghead:
Sorry, that ended up being really long....but you are not the only one with a partner who just doesn't get it :rolleyes:
*Country Bumpkin*
08-03-2006, 16:05
Darkstar- I would be more than happy for him to have people over!!!! Infact I would love it.....
I had my 18th b/day and i didnt get to go out drinking- but the day before he went to the pub without me????
Ahhhhhhh ive had enough. I called him today and told him to take the night off work- we can do without 1 nights pay and hes like ohhh its too late to call them now- it was 2pm!!!! He works all day then all night aswell and i dont get to see him he just dosnt get it!
Cwsmum- I feel for ya, although it sounds like your p might be worse than mine:confused: if i say no ur not going he dosnt go thats that he dosnt argue- but we dont normaly have this problem caus ehe dosnt normaly wanna go anywhere cause hes too tired!!!!! But since starting his 2nd job where there are females he wants to go out..... i dont get it
poshBecks
08-03-2006, 16:11
HI,
Ok, so here's what I think.
Your partner has aright to his own time. But, he does need to make you feel secure aswell. I can understand why you would feel lonely!! I would too!!
However, maybe he's feeling "controlled" because you get up him whenever he wants to do some male bonding.
It's very important in any relationship to give each other a bit of freedom, but not too much. I think his "deal" with you was a bit off!! But maybe he doesn't want you to feel left out or something? (Men think wierd stuff - hense why men are from mars & women are from venus :laughing: ). Maybe instead of going off about it, you could say, sure I'd love you to spend some time with your friends but, I'd love it if you could make sure next weekend you spend it with me (or something).
Lets face it you dont want to push him away!! :o Why not take advantage of it & get your girlfriends over for a good old fashioned slumber party?!:D By letting him do the occasional thing on his own shows him that you respect him, & that after all is the ONE thing men want from women.... RESPECT!!
Sorry about my rant!!! But I believe that all relationships can work... with a bit of work!! From both sides!!
The best thing I find to do when I'm miffed, is do something nice for them & you know all of a sudden it doesn't seem so bad!!
Re him not seeming excited.... DH was the same!! But he was!! Infact the closer it got the more excited he became!! Hang in there, it's probably all a bit surreal to him!!
Adele is your partner fully aware of the responsibilities of having a child? Does he realise that this is something that is 100% dependent on both of you?
He has also gone and shaved off all his facial hair and he looks totaly different- the only conclusion i can come up with is that hes met a chick at work that he likes and that why hes wanting to go out and why he wants to look different al of a sudden...this is sooooo unlike him!!!!
You need to ask him about this!! It might make things worse, but you can't stress about this! You need to look after your self for yours and your babys sake.
Sorry if I sound harsh...
*Country Bumpkin*
08-03-2006, 16:23
Becca Rae- Ive never told him that he cant go out!!! I DONT mind he goes to the pub every sunday at lunch time and I dont go- he does his own thing. He plays squash 2 nights a wee and it dosnt involve me...... I dont mind i understand thathe need time on his own.
He wnated to go out drinking with the guys AND the girls from his new work..... now the guys will all have their g/f's with them and the girls well i dunno about them but theres no reason why i cant go...... if it was just the guys i wouldnt care but when everyone else is invited and im not then it becomes a problem.....
Mum2jacob- I have talked to him about "it' and he just looked away so i dunno. He is aware that having a bub is something that invloves 100% input from bnoth of us.....
So I dont know whats wrong with him
Adele
I am sorry I don't have any words of wisdom or advice as I have never been in your situation, however my DH wasn't exactly over-flowing with emotion when I was pregnant. He just didn't seem to connect with bubs - he wasn't ever 'off' or negative, but I could just see he didn't get it and carried on life as if nothing was going on. Long story short, Emily was born and I have never seen a man so in love with his child. He races home every day to see her and can't bear to be away from her. Every situation is different and you need to address your issues with DP but perhaps you may find that you can get rid of DP when bubs comes along!!
Good luck and I hope that things work out for you as you would hope. I am sure that your DP loves you and bubs very much and wants to make everything work. It sometimes takes Dads a little longer to accept they are fathers (us Mummy's start as soon as those magic 2 lines appear).
Claire x
poshBecks
08-03-2006, 16:35
Becca Rae- Ive never told him that he cant go out!!! I DONT mind he goes to the pub every sunday at lunch time and I dont go- he does his own thing. He plays squash 2 nights a wee and it dosnt involve me...... I dont mind i understand thathe need time on his own.
He wnated to go out drinking with the guys AND the girls from his new work..... now the guys will all have their g/f's with them and the girls well i dunno about them but theres no reason why i cant go...... if it was just the guys i wouldnt care but when everyone else is invited and im not then it becomes a problem.....
Ahhh, sorry I kinda missed that somehow sorry!! :o Mustn't have been concentrating when I read it sorry. If all the other g/f's are going then that doesn't seem fair :shame: !! Hmmm how old is he, that seems a little immature!! Well I hope you work it out!!
Some things that you've said I feel are 'daddy-to-be' things.
Chris doesn't get 100% excited about all things baby, he's not itching to spend money and clean the baby's room like I am.
He feels nuggie kick and just hugs me, kisses the belly, gets up and keeps playing games.
I think because they're not pregnant and it's not happening to them, they find it hard to associate the feelings and all the rest. Yanno? It's like after they're born I've been warned - I'll be the baby's life and Chris may feel resentment about the attention I'm giving the baby and not him, I've been told to wait until Nugget reacts to Chris, holds his finger or something before there may be a big connection.
I've had a discussion with Chris because, like you, I feel left out. He went out last weekend and it planning on again this weekend. He feels we spend enough time together because, simply put, we live together (his words)
I understand this and he's also said to me that he's going to be a dad soon, he's going to have to be responsible, mature, and THERE, so in the months leading up he's itching to go out, to get plastered, to spend the night gaming with his mates. The works! He feels as tho' he will be trapped when it comes to the crunch and wants to get it all out of his system.
As much as you can tell him that he won't be 'trapped' he's always going to feel that way. So I just let him.
Sure, I tell him how I feel but I also just let him go and do it, it'll just cause more and more arguments otherwise and I can deal with how he copes with change just like he has to deal with how I cope.
:ecomcity:
Hope you feel better hun, lots of people are in your position. :)
serenitynow
08-03-2006, 16:36
You sound so miserable and I'm not one for using these things, but here:hugs:
It sounds like you're having a sucky time of it.
I know from my experience that men sometimes feel left out of the whole pregnancy thing as its something they have no control over - makes them feel somewhat unnecessary. He may also feel overwhelmed by parenthood, and that he will cease to become a person in his own right, and will become a "father" and a "partner".
This maybe why he isn't excited over the first kick, and feels the need to go out, socialise with his new friends and re-invent himself? So he can be "him" - without being a partner or soon-to-be-dad.
As for connecting again - talk, but more importantly, listen to him..did he tell you what makes him feel like your controlling him? Doe she feel the same lack of connection? Talk about how you can get it back - together.
I appreciate your lonely, and want to spend whatever precious time you have, together, and it would be hurtful not to be invited, or included in the new social life.
However I do believe its important for couples to do things as individuals as well. It is all too easy to lose yourself in the one-ness.
Doe he go out on his own, often?
Maybe you could have a social night with him - make plans to go out for the night - see a band, stage show (whatever floats your boat) have a nice meal, hook up with friends. And for your sake - try to change the lonely thing (easier said than done I know!)
I can see why you are worried that he may like someone else, and those crazy pregnancy hormones don't help in that regard, and sadly it does happen.
But don't jump the gun, unnecessarily. Talk about your fears and where they are coming from, ask him whats going on his head - if your suspicions are right, you will know.
I hope you get some peace, soon
XX
rynosmum
08-03-2006, 16:38
Becca-Rae, I couldnt have put it better.
DH and I both enjoy 'us' time but also time with our own friends. Early on in our relationship I used to get upset when he spent a lot of time with his mates. Now that we have our gorgeous DS, not only do we spend so much time together but sometimes I need to remind him to go and spend time with the boys. I personally believe it's healthy to have some individual time - early on I took offence but once I changed my point of view and started going out with my own friends, our whole relationship changed.
It sounds like your DH works 2 jobs ? That's a huge commitment and then also with the commitment of the baby (which you both have of course) - sometimes to guys it freaks them out a little.
As B-R said though, my DH was the same, didnt get too excited at all - but now, he and DS are inseparable.:D
*Country Bumpkin*
08-03-2006, 17:29
Becca Rae- Tis OK:thumbsup: I appreciate you taking the time just to read my posts lol!!!
Seekrit- I have never tried to stop dp going out infact i understand that he needs time out!!! I understand what you mean about "them not being pregnant"
Serenitynow- Ive tried the talking thing and I would be more than happy to listen however he just dosnt say anything!!! I have always had a big problem with him about this....
This is his itinery-
Moday- Friday work*pannel beater*
Wednesday,Friday & Saturday NIGHTS- *delivery driver for pizza shop*
Tuesday, Thursday NIGHTS- squash
Sunday lunch time- pub
So thats his week... i fit in where i can & he goes out saturday nights and also friday nights after work
He came home this arvi- and i told him if he walked out the door i would leave....well he left!!! The problem is now that i cant leave him- I love him too much!!
KiLLaKaZ
08-03-2006, 18:06
sounds like u need some serious 'me' time girl! ;)
i kinda know how u feel, 'cept my husband spent ALL his time with his family, not workmates (& other girls)!!
i think, though that if you try & stop him, he WILL resent you & you won't be any better for it. trust me - this is what i used to do! if he starts a relationship with another girl, preventing him from going out wont stop it & if he's that kind of person, who needs him anyway?! (easier said than done, mind u!!)
anyway, my main advice to you is to GET OUT & ABOUT, find some sort of group you can join to make new friends & show him that you don't rely on him for company. make your own identity! :D r u coming to the brisbane dinner? if not (no matter how shy u r!!) make sure u come & meet everyone! :) i'm petrified of meeting all the bubhubbers there, but i'm doing it because i have no life of my own & need to establish one!
whereabouts in brisbane are you? i'm lonely, too throughout the week & if you want to get together sometime & do something - let me know! i'm a bit strapped for cash (as i think u may be, too?) so it'd have to be something free/ cheap! or, maybe we could just go window-shopping for baby stuff! i want to look around at quite a few shops before settling on a particular pram, etc - so if you want you can join me! :D
Im having big probs with my DP we never argue or fight and noramly get along really well. We love each other very much but latley we have just lost the connection IYKWIM
While we were standing in the bub isle at coles DP says I have a propersition for you if you dont like it I wont be upset.... I was like hmmmm this sounds interesting.
So anyway on he went and this is what the propersition was- In a couple of weeks you can go and spen as MUCH money as you WANT on the bub or anything else you want!!! Ok sounds great right.... here comes the BUT...... but only if I can go out for the night not to the city just to gillholleys or something!!!
I was so hurt that he tried to bribe me!!!! He relised why I was upset and was trying to hug me etc....
Didnt realy think about it after that until we got home and i asked him a couple of questions.... He wants to go out ALL day on saturday to a friends party, come home, go to work from 5.30pm- 10.30pm, come home get changed, and go out again ALL NIGHT
Im here by myself all day 5 days a week and 3 nights aswell he plays squash 2 nights so i only get 2 nights with him and he wants to spend one of them out all day and all night????
Dosnt he understand how lonley I am? I tell him all the time as it is.......i dont understand hes only been wanting to go out all the time since ive been pregnant before that he was quite happy just to spend time with me.......
Am I being selfish? Or am I quite within my rights to want to spend the little amount of time we have together???
Ohhh and he tried to bribe me again with getitng me a kitten!!!!
So what do all you gals think? Should I just let him go out all day while i spend it here by myself and then spend all night alone again? WHAT SHOULD I DO"??????
Im so miserable
Then he gets home yesterday arvi and this happens.......
When DP got home this he didnt say a single word about bub moving for the first time today... this is one of our major probs- he shows no excitment!!!! He says hes excited but ya wouldnt no to look at him...... also he wouldnt give me an answer as to why he wanted to go out....
I ended up telling him that if he didnt start talking about everything I would leave! I gave him 5mins- he didnt start talking So up I got and off i went.......
I didnt get far i collapsed on the stairs in a heap crying.......he eventually came looking for me and sat down outside with me- he didnt sayanything but he was there all the same. Eventually when we came inside he said he feels "controlled" by me..... I dont know why I never stop him from doing anything
I eventually relised that we have 23weeks left to sort out our relathionship before bub will be here and that I dont feel a connection to him anymore.... and i told him so.
He said he wont go out at night but I no he will resent me if he dosnt go out every now and then. I dont mind but i would like to be included
He said he has a social life with his new work mates but what he dosnt relise is that it hurts me that Im not included in any of this "social" life....
There is no reason why I cant go out too......well none that I can see anyway. We dont do anyhting and when he finaly does want to do something Im not included He said he thought I wouldnt want to go- well he never asked did he....
Im so afraid that if we cant find the "connection" and become close like we used o be that this isnt going to work and I dont want to spend my life without him- but I have to think of myself and the bub and I have to do whats best.....
I dont want to be miserable anymore but its hard to distingush wether or not this is hormones or my heart talking.... ohhh what to do
Sorry to have written an essay
I love him so much and i realy dont know how to cope or what to do.......
He has also gone and shaved off all his facial hair and he looks totaly different- the only conclusion i can come up with is that hes met a chick at work that he likes and that why hes wanting to go out and why he wants to look different al of a sudden...this is sooooo unlike him!!!!
trust your instincts and it all does seem a bit suss, hey do some detective work. e.g let him go out (know where he is going) then you and a friend etc go there but dont let him see you and scope what he is doing and who with, like on cheaters that way you know one way or another and if he isnt up to anything he wont know you were there so no prob but if he is then confront him there and then.
oh hun! Big hug to you... :hugs:
Why is it when ever we need the men in our lives the most is when they arent there!?
It drives me nuts when my DH wont speak to me about stuff... nothing hurts me more or makes me more mad... :banghead:
I can see why you would be worried there would be some one else... does seem a little odd that he changed his apperance and wont speak to you about it!
I hope things sort themselves out soon.. maybe the 2 of you could both do with some space... Have you got a friends you can go to! Maybe he will take you more seriously if you stay away for a while? Just a thought but I think he really needs to get his act together quick smart before your bub gets here!
*Country Bumpkin*
08-03-2006, 18:18
killakaz- now whats this about a dinner?????
no one told me lol....... im not normaly shy but i think i would be at that!!!!
Unfortunatly my dp has the car all the time...im not allowed to drive well not legaly anyway:rolleyes: so that could pose a slight problem
and yes i am like you strapped for cash......window shopping is one of the things i do problem is that i have to actually buy stuff for the bub lol!!
would love to catch up though well keep in touch!:thumbsup:
pumpkin- I love that show cheaters on fox... its so funny!
I remember seeing one where the host got shot! Only in America! :laughing:
pumpkin- I love that show cheaters on fox... its so funny!
I remember seeing one where the host got shot! Only in America! :laughing:
pmsl i also saw one where the host was stabbed by this derranged guy on a boat cause he got busted i still pmsl at that.:detective:
actually I saw that one too... The chick he was cheating with was physco too.. actually wasnt the girlfriend pregnant?
*Country Bumpkin*
08-03-2006, 18:26
pumpkin- now that made me laugh.....hehe i used to watch cheaters all the time.....
brooke- hmmm not too sure what to make of the whole apperance change.......he went to work tonight and left me alone ......again so ill have to talk to him about it AGAIN tonight
ahhhh i love all you gals you are all so helpful- your advice was the only thing that stopped DP getting a frying pan thrown at his head on his way out the door!!!:laughing:
My hubby did the same.
He did not feel the connection with the baby like I did. I don't think they really comprehend it all.
I can really sympathise with you. Loneliness is horrible.
Can you communicate your feelings to him? Will he talk to you about what he thinks (some men wont talk about feelings)? Maybe he feels he is supporting you by being the breadwinner?
Perhaps you might be able to talk the issue through. Book a night to go out and have fun and not talk baby like you did pre pregnancy.
Can you get some couselling? Obviously you two had something special together at one stage.
You need to look after you and your bubs too.
How's your network?
Do you have people you can call and talk to?
You know you can always talk to us mums here. We all try to help each other.
I really hope you get a solution. Have a good cry if you need to
LOL I am sure that would have went down well...
Try not to stress to much (easier said than done I know :rolleyes: ) But its not good for you or the bubba!
My Nan used to say to me if you stress while you are pregnant you will have a wingy baby.... every time I went to stress I thought about this and stopped! :laughing:
KiLLaKaZ
08-03-2006, 18:36
adele - for the brisbane dinner, check out this sticky:
sticky - brisbane dinner in march
http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=12870
& this thread (quite long tho, so you might want to skip through to the end ;)):
brisbane dinner MARCH :)
http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=11735
*Country Bumpkin*
08-03-2006, 18:45
Breeannasmum- I have tried to communicate with him it becomes a problem when he dosnt do the same!! I realy have trouble getting anything out of him..... He works so hard for me and bub- he works all day comes home has a shower and hes gone again!!!
Also i dont really feel like we have much to talk about- hence the lost "connection" The only person i realy have is my mum....but thats difficult right now too... If it wasnt for you gals here on bub hub i would go INSANE!!!!!! As for the crying thing well done that- i dont think i have any fluid left in my body!!!!
Killakaz thanks ill check them out:thumbsup:
*Country Bumpkin*
08-03-2006, 20:13
Hello all you lovely ladies.....
Well DP went to work and i couldnt wait so i called him and asked him again if there is someone at work of course he said no and i believe him.
Were going to have a really big talk when he gets home. Ive cooked him his favourite dinner as a sort of peace offering if you will......plus i love him very much so well see how it all turns out soon i guess......
:fingerscrossed: he dosnt think im a total pshyco (sp?) he just put it all down to ghormones and i tend to agree to a certain extent lol
Good luck honey
I know youve been through so much and im hoping you sort this out with you DP
Let us know XX:fingerscrossed: and if you ever need a chat im here XX:hugs:
Bewitched
08-03-2006, 22:28
I'm so sorry for you having to deal with all this stress being pregnant! I actually would be wary of the facial hair shaving, especially if he's never done that before...plus, bribing you to go out? If my husband offered me money to go shopping (mind you, he's a bit scroogy like most men! haha) i would have alarm bells ringing. I would feel almost prostituted if he paid me to get what he wants!!
On the other hand, perhaps he does feel the need to do as much as possible before bubs comes and wants you to have somethnig enjoyable for yourself too (such as shopping) ?? If all the other women are invited to this get together and you're not, i would be asking why you can't go. The only decent answer from him would be perhaps he doesn't want you in a drinking/smoking environment being pregnant and all.
Ooooh how we all have different lives, i WISH my husband would go out - sorry!. He sits here 24/7 and has - i swear this is true - NO MATES at all. He is a lovely bloke but such an introvert and prefers chatting and playing cards at home with me (sounds great i know but trust me, it gets suffocating!). I want him to go out just for half a day on a weekend so i can turn on my tunes, crank up the old vacuum and clean my house dancing if i want too!....you see the downside to having a partner home all the time is it means the kids are here 24/7 too so i NEVER get ANY private time at all :(
Best of luck precious, and pleeeease look after your pregnant body and mind. If you feel like crying - just do it and don;t try to analyse whether its hormones, fighting or lonliness, i find if you just deliberately let it all out you feel better for it.
SweetSerenity
09-03-2006, 07:15
Hey adele
How you going sweetie???
So how did the talk go last night??
I hope you got things sorted out or at least some things.
I'll send you an email sometime today!
Take care :hugs:
Nat xxx
*Country Bumpkin*
09-03-2006, 10:22
Hello All!!!!!!
Ahhh you guys are all so nice and suportive.......
Well I talked to DP last night. I got him his dinner and when he had finished that and house was over We had a really big talk......
He actually came home and said i have been thinking baout it all- I didnt even have ask what the problem was....... I couldnt believe it!!!!
I wont bore you all with all the details god knows ive done enough of that in the last few days... Im suprised you gals havnt all gone running screaming into the hills!!!!
Well everything is all good again- of course i ended up in tears cause i felt like such a bad girlfriend but ohh well he loves me and i love him - thats all that matters!! Were going out tonight as DP has a RDO tomoro so off we go WOOHOOO orange juice for me and triple buorbons for DP lol
Ok well thanks again everyone.
KiLLaKaZ
09-03-2006, 12:49
:yelclap: :smiliedance: :yelclap:
hehe - reading that brought a tear to my eye(s)! i'm really happy for you! :D
it's good to hear some great news like that around here after all the ppl talking about partner troubles, & with my own!
hope u can both keep it up, it brings me hope for my husband & i (tho i think he's already decided which way he wants to go... but i'm hoping the baby might bring us together.. yes HIGH hopes there!!)
*Country Bumpkin*
09-03-2006, 12:57
ohhhh shucks........ dont cry please.......:thumbsdown: lol
im glad it brings you hope.... I dont think that its a huge expectatin that it will bring you together infact i think you might be quite right in thinking that it will!!!
After all the good advice ive been given over the last few day i have come to the conclusion that my dp will be so in love with bub when he/she arrives he wont be able to hold back his emotions...and he thinks he wont cry:rolleyes:
hehe im soooo happy- last night wehn he got home from job #2 bub was moving around and before i said anyhting i grabbed his hand and put it on my belly he goes "have you got wind??" "it feels like bubbles of wind" lol:laughing:
yep were all good- my dp is my best friend....
ohhh and killakaz im glad that you and bub are fine but i do have to ask.....did you enjoy your trip???:laughing: lol im sorry dont take that the wrong way......
Hi Adele
I am so glad it is working out for you.
He obviously is just doing a common male thing.
My husband shows his interest in ways that were hard to interpret at first.
He took really good care of me by coming to appointments and letting me rest.
When he saw his baby for the first time he turned into a big softy. I have never seen him so emotional.
Chances are your husband will turn into a big softy too when bubs is born. Perhaps take some pictures of him at the birth emotional moments can be rare with some men.
I am so glad things are better for you adel...
Men can be so hard to understand sometimes
Blessed Mum
09-03-2006, 17:55
Just read your thread Adele Glad to hear everythings back to normal. Relationships can be tricky sometimes but its all worth it especially since you guys have got your little bub on the way. Congrats for taking the time to work it out - to both of you. :yelclap:
Take care
Tara
Hey I just wanted to add, that my DF's family owns four Pizza stores, and is always in store. I totally understand feeling insecure about the situation, even if nothing warrents it. Damn those non fat and non pregnant 18-20 year old girls....:rolleyes:
DF was very similar in the first half of the pregnancy, but now that the baby is due (actually overdue) he is peeing his pants with excitement (not literally:laughing: ). We have a couple that we spend a lot of time with who have a little bub and another on the way. When we go out the boys can drink and us girls don't feel like the oddity, and if the boys want to go out, us girls can hang out together, even if we just cook dinner at home or hire a movie.
I am glad you worked it out, maybe you could have a time during the week, or each RDO, and have it as couple time to do something together.
I hope that helps
Candy
*Country Bumpkin*
09-03-2006, 23:45
hehe
I just wanted to let ya all know how our "date" went ..... well it was splendid!!! I had a really great time!!! I cant wait to do it again.....just a bummer the club closed!!!
Well while we were out and i was sitting eating my dinner DP patted me on the leg and said "happy 6months" i was like what and then i relised..... WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER 6MONTHS TODAY!!!!!:eek: I knew when pur aniversary was but i kept thinking it was still february not march!!!!!! i couldnt believe i felt sooooo bad.... and to think we came so close to ending it all and look how close to the 6month mark we were!!!!!
Ohhh well all is good now.....
:laughing: Hey Adele,
Sorry i just caught up on the whole story! I'm glad to hear that things are going better for you. And you know that all of us Bubhubbers are always here for you if you need us.
Just curious, how old are you? If you wanna chat anytime my email is:
jacinta176@hotmail.com
I didn't know that you are your partner had only been together for 6 months. How far along are you with your pregnancy?
Well hope things stay good with you and your DP. I'm sure when bub comes along he will be really excited and emotional! He just doesn't understand at the moment coz he's not the one thats preggers!! :laughing:
:hugs:
KiLLaKaZ
11-03-2006, 02:40
ohhhh shucks........ dont cry please.......:thumbsdown: lol
im glad it brings you hope.... I dont think that its a huge expectatin that it will bring you together infact i think you might be quite right in thinking that it will!!!
ohhh and killakaz im glad that you and bub are fine but i do have to ask.....did you enjoy your trip???:laughing: lol im sorry dont take that the wrong way......
even if it doesn't bring us together, i know i can have an awesome life without him - i just WANT it to work because i know it can!
& my trip... well i got a free night's accomodation & brekkie out of it! lol. the hospital actually has a little kitchen that you & your partner can help yourself to all day & night! :D coffee, tea, bikkies, toast (with various spreads), various cereals, yoghurt, juice.... quite a good spread actually (i was eating ALL night - hadn't eaten a proper dinner - & morning!) :laughing: hehe
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