LoopyLyndaLou
08-03-2006, 12:51
I guess the 4sensible answer from the head is NO BLOODY WAY! but my heart say "yes please!"
Arguements for no
I have had five pregnacnies so far, two no problems with two chunky healthy little men although I was VERY sick for well over 20 weeks with both wich was horrid. Then my third pregnancy, sickness as usual and then things went really wrong, lots of bleeding, long term hospital stay and then horrifically my placenta abrupted and my little boy was born still at 6 months of pregnancy. It was an awful time but apparently a one off and no reason for it to happen again.
So pregnancy number four started with sickness ( no surprise) but again the bleeding started and we had to terminate the pregnancy as my life was under threat. The hospital finally found I had a blood clotting problem that could be treated with a good success rate.
So I embarked with, great trepidation, on pregnancy number five, i had aspirin every day and also daily self administered blood thinning injections. t was the most stressful time ever as the risk of placental abruption was there for the entire pregnancy. Fortunately another ds was born safe an sound on Oct 2004, almost exactly 2 years after his big brother died.
So my head says don't be so silly, you have three healthy boys at home, the chances of another nightmare pregnancy are very high, I am too old (36!) and I am also now 11000 miles away from my very lovely consultant (irnoically he comes from Melbourne but emmigrated to England!), also my insurance probably won;t cover the cost of the VERY expensive injections.
So reading that you must think I have a screw lose to even consider trying again, in fact typing it I m thinking what a total spanner head I am!
Arguemnts for:
I just can't accept I won't have any more babies, it breaks my heart to think this is it.
Financially we can support 4 children, we would be stretched but not struggling.
Due to the loss of my two little angels there is a bit age gap between my second child and Toby, it would be nice to have a sibling closer in age to him.
None of my brotherS or my Bil are interested in having children so there is no extended family so it is nice to have lots of children running about.
I will say though that losing our babies has left a gaping hole in our lives, not a day goes by when we don't think of Thomas and little Frankie, but we have accepted that they have died and that they can not be replaced so the wish for another baby is not to fill that hole as it never can be filled.
I think dh would let me have another one and to be honest if someone just gave me a newborn I wouldn't think twice, it is just the whole pregnancy thing I hate. I guess noone can answer this question except us, it is a real battle of head and heart. Just writing it down has helped a lot and has made me think perhaps I should see a GP here and ask what support i would get here in Australila if I was pg, maybe even contact my old consultant in England and see if he has any contacts over here
Sorry to ramble on...lol
Lynda xx
Arguements for no
I have had five pregnacnies so far, two no problems with two chunky healthy little men although I was VERY sick for well over 20 weeks with both wich was horrid. Then my third pregnancy, sickness as usual and then things went really wrong, lots of bleeding, long term hospital stay and then horrifically my placenta abrupted and my little boy was born still at 6 months of pregnancy. It was an awful time but apparently a one off and no reason for it to happen again.
So pregnancy number four started with sickness ( no surprise) but again the bleeding started and we had to terminate the pregnancy as my life was under threat. The hospital finally found I had a blood clotting problem that could be treated with a good success rate.
So I embarked with, great trepidation, on pregnancy number five, i had aspirin every day and also daily self administered blood thinning injections. t was the most stressful time ever as the risk of placental abruption was there for the entire pregnancy. Fortunately another ds was born safe an sound on Oct 2004, almost exactly 2 years after his big brother died.
So my head says don't be so silly, you have three healthy boys at home, the chances of another nightmare pregnancy are very high, I am too old (36!) and I am also now 11000 miles away from my very lovely consultant (irnoically he comes from Melbourne but emmigrated to England!), also my insurance probably won;t cover the cost of the VERY expensive injections.
So reading that you must think I have a screw lose to even consider trying again, in fact typing it I m thinking what a total spanner head I am!
Arguemnts for:
I just can't accept I won't have any more babies, it breaks my heart to think this is it.
Financially we can support 4 children, we would be stretched but not struggling.
Due to the loss of my two little angels there is a bit age gap between my second child and Toby, it would be nice to have a sibling closer in age to him.
None of my brotherS or my Bil are interested in having children so there is no extended family so it is nice to have lots of children running about.
I will say though that losing our babies has left a gaping hole in our lives, not a day goes by when we don't think of Thomas and little Frankie, but we have accepted that they have died and that they can not be replaced so the wish for another baby is not to fill that hole as it never can be filled.
I think dh would let me have another one and to be honest if someone just gave me a newborn I wouldn't think twice, it is just the whole pregnancy thing I hate. I guess noone can answer this question except us, it is a real battle of head and heart. Just writing it down has helped a lot and has made me think perhaps I should see a GP here and ask what support i would get here in Australila if I was pg, maybe even contact my old consultant in England and see if he has any contacts over here
Sorry to ramble on...lol
Lynda xx