So depressed

[Singlemama]

Hi, Im a 19 year old single mummy to a 7 month old baby girl. I was in a really abusive relationship when i became pregnant i was living in brisbane at the time with him. Anyways i moved back to north queensland to be with close to my parents cause i had no money an nothing to support a baby with or whatever. I hadnt heard from my ex at all until valentines day this year i was still pregnant anyway he rang up an said i love you baby after not hearing from him for 5 months or so. A month later he moved back up here an lived with his mum. He hasnt gave me a cent since our daughter was born, hasnt even bought her a toy or anything yet he expects to see her everyweekend or whatever. Hes been abusive towards me on an off in this time but nothing i cant handle, just calling me a **** an maken small threats nothing to drastic. But today he said to me im moving back to brissy an taken my daughter with me an i said over my dead body you will have to take me to court before you take her anywhere an he said i will slit your throat. Arrggh he has just got to me so badly today i cant handle this. Ive just snapped tonight an have been a crying mess, i have absolutly no friends, no life nothing. No one to talk to for advice or anything an my parents are so unreasonable i cant talk to them cause there whole attitude is i told you so blah blah blah.

Im so sick of my ex an im so sick of my life right now. I love my baby girl with all my heart an i wouldnt trade her for the world but i really wish my life wasnt like this. I wish he wasnt her father , i wish i had a life an had friends an everything. But im so alone. Sorry about all this, it really isnt like me to be feeling sorry for myself i just had to let it all out !!
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[spring]

You poor thing, what an a ss hole to carry on like that to try to manipulate you into doing somthing you dont want to do:thumbsdown:
My ex used to do the same thing but trust me they're all emty threats.
There is no way in hell he could take your little girl from you!!
I would think about going to the police & reporting that he threatened to slit your throut etc' just incase he ever does try to take you to court so they have documentation of it incase you ever do need it.
:hugs:

[*Sal*]

:iagree: Definitely speak to the police.

He needs to be supporting his daughter too, so you need to get legal orders written up and him paying child support. He cannot just take your DD.

Sounds like a parenting course and anger management course wouldn't go astray for him either.

:hugs:

[iamLilysmummy]

awwwwwww :hugs:
i wish my life was differnt sometimes.. my baby is nearly 5 months, n she has nothing to do with her dad he only seen her once,, i hate him so much.. i feel like punishing him for doing what hes done to me,,!! BUT then i think hey.. i should b happy i have something to live for,, A BEAUTIFUL baby,, every time i think about him, i feel ****,, and then i go look at my lil girl,, i feel happy,, i lost all my friends coz my ex was a selfish fk, and thought if i had friends i was cheating, so i lost them all,,,,:rolleyes:
everything u feel upset or depressd go look at ur little one, it always works for me :cloud9:
give bub a cuddle and a kiss,, and tell bub how much u love them,xx

[SweetSerenity]

You should DEFINATELY get straight onto the police.

You don't deserve threats like that nor does your baby deserve to be around that :no:

Have you told your parents about any of this?

I would be really concerned about yours and your babies safety right now. This situation sounds quite serious and shouldn't be taken lightly.

I really think your parents should be around when he visits as he has NO right to be saying or threatening what he is, especially when you aren't even together.

I really think you should see the police. Don't let it go any further!

I truly think once he gets sorted out, your life will improve dramatically and you will be able to concentrate on the happier things in life and enjoy being a mother.

It wouldn't hurt to maybe go see someone like a counsellor or doctor, just for you to talk to? It may help the process of you feeling happier about your life.

Again, call the police and get something done! Don't let it go on!

Take care of yourself and that beautiful baby of yours:hugs:

Love Nat xxx

ETA: I just re read your post. You say you can't talk to your parents because they carry on with "I told you so etc..". As annoying as it may be hun, I know if I were in your situation I would much prefer to tell my parents everything and have them lecture me but help me too then not talking to them at all and being in that situation alone.

As much as it sucks sometimes to have your parents say that sort of thing, I would personally just take it in one ear and out the other but stick with them as they can help you and your baby girl stay safe. If it really bothers you just tell them nicely that you appreciate their opinion on what has happened but at the moment you just need their help and support to get through this, not a lecture.

Trust me, you don't want to not have your parents involved in something like this. You need all the help you can get when you're dealing with a bully of an ex like him.

[Amberlea]

I agree with Nats post, I dont care how small and insignificant his threats are - a threat is a threat and is not ok behaviour.

If he wants to be a moron all his life that is fine for him to do so, but he does not have the right to threaten to take your baby away or to take your life.

My ex did this on numerous occasions until i finally left him and took out an AVO on him.
That put him back in his box.
Occasionally he will threaten me now and i just remind him that I am perfectly capable of taking out another court order on him and i will no hesitate to ring the police if he comes here carrying on like a 2 year old.

I wish you the best of luck in getting everything sorted out, I really think you need to go and do things legally so that he realises that he can not manipulate you or scare you.

Do not see him alone, have your parents there as Nat said.

[motherlylove]

have you tried joining mothers groups or getting in contact with a community centre they offer some good services.