need some advice :)

[neostudded]

To get Julius to sleep from 0-4mo, I used to wrap him, give him a dummy & swaddle him to sleep.:sleeping:

We would look into each other's eyes he would just gaze almost 'transfixed', I could tell by looking at him that he really loved me.No distaction stopped him from gazing at me.He would "talk" to me and I would talk to him it was one of the best feelings in the world.:goodvibes:

If he was in pain/or need to relax, I played a vacum cleaner to help settle him, which he loved.

But now for the last two and a bit weeks, he knows when he gets wrapped that iam trying to put him to sleep and he fights it.He SCREAMS so much that I really dont know what to do.What Ive been doing is waiting until he is REALLY WORN OUT to put him to sleep.But that isnt good for him.

I anyone been though this?
is it a stage?
what did you do?
anyone have an ideas?

Thanks :D

[Benji]

My son went through this a bit later from memory. He would hate going to bed during the day so as soon as he caught onto the sleep messages, he put up a huge fight.

I used to wait until he was tired and just cuddle him upright so he wouldn't realise what I was doing and I would just listen to the radio and walk around the kitchen in circles.

In about 5 minutes he would just nod off into a deep sleep and I would just pop him in his bed.

I think the key is not to stress. If you think to yourself "I wish he would hurry up and go to sleep" they sort of pick up on this and decide to make it harder :laughing:

[0BleSseD0]

This has happened to us.

Try instead, having a nice calm bath, putting on a nice clean nappy, some powder, a nice cotton suit, and then cuddling or having a feed.

Sometimes a change in routine can help.
Otherwise it may be the swaddling. My DD grew out of that by 2 months, and hated it except for if she is unconsolable.

Try wrapping just the legs instead.. Or not wrapping at all.

It is just trial and error until your DS finds a new bedtime routine that makes him happy.

[the_queen]

Yeah, I'd stop the swaddling, it can be really useful for little little ones because it mimics the snugness of the womb, but as they get older it isn't necessary.

I feed to sleep, always have, and we've never had stress or screaming sessions.

I also like putting on some nice music, and 'dancing' with him; just upright cuddling, with his head on my shoulder, and swaying and walking around. If he's clearly overtired but won't feed or just is really over-stimulated, I will do this for a while to calm him, and then feed him to sleep.

A bedtime routine doesn't need to be 'strict' - our routine is dinner, nappy and PJ's, cuddle and feed to sleep. I don't bath him nightly because we're on rainwater and don't have enough water for that. But a nightly bath with a touch of lavender oil in the water can be very very calming. Keeping the lights dimmed, TV off and just soft music on, and having a very calm/relaxed environment is very calming for bubby.