what am i doing wrong?

[Bumble]

Bailey is 1 next week and very much still a breastfed bub (yes he is still a baby he will be my baby always:D) he goes to bed very easily like i feed him give him a quick cuddle then put him in his cot he just rolls over and drifts off but THEN at around midnight he grows horns and screams for at least an hour once calmed he feeds pretty much ALL night from there , he has slept through maybe once or twice and i can't for the life of me even remember when that was :no: Any ideas ? I know he is clearly getting comfort from the boob but ALL night !!!
Signed
One very cranky tired mumma :hair:

[the_queen]

:hugs: Sounds like maybe teeth? How long has this been happening?

Do you co-sleep? Even if he continues to do exactly the same thing, if he is in bed with you then you're getting rest/sleep.

Is the wake-up predictable? I would probably gently bring him into bed with you when you go to bed, and dream-feed him before he wakes screaming. My boy is 19 months, and has just started sleeping through every now and then (i hope i haven't just jinxed myself ;)) but usually still wakes up around midnight for a feed.

:hugs: Being cranky and tired is AWFUL, I have had a cranky tiresome day today myself :hugs:

[Bumble]

Been a few mths now he has 5 teeth and no sign of more :confused:

[the_queen]

Some kids do have prolonged "teething" and then suddenly heaps pop through all at once. I'd maybe try a bit of bonjela when he wakes up screaming, just to see if it soothes and calms him a bit quicker.

But if his waking is predictable, yeah I'd try pre-empting it with a dream-feed and co-sleeping :D

[Bumble]

We kinda do co-sleep , he is in his cot then when he wakes he comes in our bed , will try a dream feed :yes: Last night was another bad one he fed AL night like a new born :hissy:

[meme]

at around midnight he grows horns and screams for at least an hour once calmed he feeds pretty much ALL night from there ,

sounds very frustrating and a bit upsetting too if he is crying for an hour without being able to be comforted.
do you think he could be having bad dreams or even night terrors? i can't remember the age they say night terrors happen and i think he might be a little young for them at 12mths, but i suppose a dream could wake him up upset.
i think that the suggestion to anticipate the wake up and wake him just before for a feed is a good idea, i know that this is often used for night terrors anyway, as it must somehow reset the body clock to change the habit.

i am not sure how you feel about night weaning, at some stage with my bub when i had enough of night feeds i gradually replaced breastfeeds with a drink of water if she was thirsty and a cuddle for reassurance/comfort, she still slept in my bed for a while aswell ( and this did involve some crying from her). this has gradually made a difference to her sleep. she was about 18mths when i started night weaning and finally started to have some nights where she sleeps the whole night now she is about 2. so you are not alone in having years of broken sleep, it will pass. :hugs:

[BoyCrazy]

Hi Bumble!

I dont think you are doing anything "wrong"!!

I know every parent has different methods, but I chose not to co-sleep after 6mths, purely for the fact that bubs WILL get used to sleeping with you, and if you arent there, will keep whinging till you are!

Are you weaning at all during the day? I would keep his day feeds up, and try to cut back on the night feeds. How i did this (quite sucessfully) was when bubs woke up, give reassuring cuddles for 5 mins then lay him back in his cot/bed. There might be a few nights of screams/crys, but it does work!

My DS was around 18-19 months when he finally dropped his last night feed. I used the cuddle instead of feed method-you can always offer a sipper cup of water as well-if he refuses well he aint thirsty, just wanting cuddles!

after about a week of cuddling-he started to sleep thru!

Good luck!