The venting thread

[EmsMum72]

Something bothering you? Hubby/partner driving you up the wall? Having trouble at work? Kids driving you crazy? Having a difficult pregnancy? Had an argument with someone?

This is a venting thread! If you need to get something off your chest then vent away. If you think you can offer someone support, then go ahead, but remember that everyone is different and what you believe in may be completely different to what another person believes in.

[V8]

Well i really wanna vent, feeling totally horrible today, i'm in soooo much pain i dread getting out of bed and having to do things. I am so upset, why does my body have to feel constant pain??? What would i have done if i knew that having Josh would cause me to have this much constant pain two years+ after having him, will i ever get relief??? I am deeply depressed about it, my life is sh** enough without having to be in agony all the time! :hissy: :gloomy:

Thanks needed to say that. :(

[Kayangel]

V8- U r not alone in the way u feel, life is so hard lack of money, support, all the pain and suffering in the world, no get up and go to do everyday things its all very common and there all feelings i feel and im sure alot of people feel everyday but saying that probley doesnt help just wanted u to no ur not alone in having these feelings.

Why are u still in pain 2 and a half years after having josh?? What would u have done if u had known?? i have heard u talk about that little boy and i have heard u say how u have wanted babies since u were 16 so i think u would still have had him because every smile, laugh, kiss, hug, i love you its well worth every bit of pain ur going though. Have u spoken to doctors about ur pain?? is there anything at all they can do??

Life is hard and u may feel like its **** but look at the bright side of ur life u have a wonderful loving son a husbane who u love to death and would do anything for a baby on the way woohoo and im sure lots of other things i dont no about.

I hope u r feeling better soon, big hugs for u :hugs:

[V8]

Thanks Kayla what you said is true, i know i am very thankful for a lot of things, it just makes my life hard living in constant pain. I have hypermobility syndrome http://www.hypermobility.org/painandhms.php that explains it a bit, but yeah childbirth can aggravate this condition and make it quite unbearable. Everything i do hurts and makes me tired, brushing my hair hurts my arms, and makes me tired, sleeping i'm in pain, some days i just wanna go to bed and not wake up. :( Just so i don't have to be in pain, that's how bad you feel with this. So yeah, simple things are really just an effort and it makes you very unmotivated, depressed and quite angry at times.

[Kayangel]

That post brought tears to my eyes :( i dont have the words to express how sorry i feel for u i wish there was something i could do to take ur pain away, one thing i hate is hearing people suffering pain.

Can the doctors do anything to help you??

I can totally understand u feeling unmotivated, depressed and quite angry i would feel the same way i think u r very brave to be dealing with this. Do u eva have good days?? or is it always this bad??

Just remember u have a son, baby on the way and a hubby to live for even tho it feels like its all to much.

I read some of the article going back to read more now.

[V8]

Thanks Kayla, yeah most days i'm find about it like in an emotionally coping sense, today i'm not having such a great day coping with the pain, but the pain is constant, 24/7. There is limited info on this condition so it's really hard to get info, research or any relief. I know eventually i will find something that works for me, but right now it just seems like such a long way off.

[Kayangel]

I hope there soon will be a right pain relife for u something that will work wonders for u :fingerscrossed: intill then we are all here to support u though each day. Please always feel free to talk about what u r feeling, how u r that day etc.

U will get though this because u r strong and brave and have 2 babies keeping u happy one inside u and one outside and also a loving hubby who needs u, u can do this!

[V8]

Thanks Kayla, i don't normally like to whinge, that's why i put it in this thread specific for it! lol :D But yeah, today is just a particularly hard day, think i might go and have a lay down so i have enough energy to cook dinner later.

[Kayangel]

V8- Come vent in this thread anytime u like, ill always be here to listern and try to help! :hugs:

I hope u had a good rest!

[mummajugs]

ok im really needing to get this off my chest.
as some of you might know, i live with my dad, step mum and step bro(16) my family are quite wealthy and extremely selfish!
ok, this happened this morning after i got the msg from my bestfriend telling me about her prem labour and bub and such.
ill have to tell you this bit, so you can all get what i mean. i have a tub of icecream in the freezer that i can eat when my teeth are killing me(written on it says 'Laurens to sooth her teeth dont touch'), last night i went to get some and it was all gone. i only bought it a week ago(with dads money) and i knew i had only had about 3 small bowls. i was quite angry because i couldnt sooth my teeth.
so i wrote a nice note to my step brother saying ' Nick, my ice cream in the freezer is now all gone, it had my name on it for a reason. you know exactly why'
... ok now back to what happened this morning...
i was already upset as i told you guys.
my step mum and step bro were in the kitchen(next to my room)... and i heard him yell out to me in my bedroom(him thinking i was asleep) saying 'when you start paying for it ill stop eating it' and of course me being the person i am, yelled back 'shut the F*** up you little s***' there was no way i was going to take any **** from a 16yr old. and an arguement went on and on and on and my step mum ended up telling us to shut up.
now you are all probably thinking it was just a petty fight. but in the past i have bought food for myself to be healthy and kept it in my room so he didnt touch it... what does he do... still takes it... i also had a $100 dollar note stolen off my dresser that was mean to pay off a bill. i have had jewellry stolen from my drawer and countless cds and dvds stolen... the reason i know it was him was because my dad and step mum have enough money to buy everything for them selves obviously. they just dont steal they are loyal people where as my step brother is 16... has adhd... has a police record for breaking into houses...uses pot... only to name a few.
im just so frustrated that nothing in this house is safe and i can have nothing for myself. i wish i could just move out, or move back to perth with mum. but we all know that thats not exactly going to be good when bubs born due to my partners family and the rest of my family being here.
i have spoke to dad about everything and he keeps telling me that everything will be ok because he has sorted it out, yet a few days later something else goes missing.
IM SICK OF EVERYTHING

sorry i mustve bored you.
but i needed to let it out!
:hissy:
thanx for listening to my blab!
didnt realise it would be so long.

[V8]

:hugs: I would be annoyed too. My dad or brothers were always the culprit if we bought any treats for ourselves they would never last.

I don't think moving to Perth is the answer, but maybe trying to get things sorted with your DP and move out with him, you might find it less stressful, family can be a pain at the best of times let alone when we are pregnant and hormonal! lol

[mummajugs]

my real brother never ever done anything like what this 'step brother' has done.
i think it just is down to how he was bought up. he was obviously bought up to be damn egotistical p***k. worst thing is... he thinks his going to join the army... he wont last a day, he cant deal with discipline. :laughing:

my and DP are trying to get things sorted but its just the money situation we are in at the moment. we more than likely couldnt afford it for another 2-3months and then that will be pushing our budget!
ohhh what to do what to do :mad:

[Bel1978]

Just stick it out knowing you will move out and you will have your own family soon....:)

[mummajugs]

you always know how to make me smile bel:D

[Angike]

Thanks Kayla what you said is true, i know i am very thankful for a lot of things, it just makes my life hard living in constant pain. I have hypermobility syndrome http://www.hypermobility.org/painandhms.php that explains it a bit, but yeah childbirth can aggravate this condition and make it quite unbearable. Everything i do hurts and makes me tired, brushing my hair hurts my arms, and makes me tired, sleeping i'm in pain, some days i just wanna go to bed and not wake up. :( Just so i don't have to be in pain, that's how bad you feel with this. So yeah, simple things are really just an effort and it makes you very unmotivated, depressed and quite angry at times.

Well I was going to rant about my throat being itchy and not going away but I think that would look a bit silly in comparison to V8's post.

I just need to give you some :hugs:

[PrincessJasmine]

This is the second time I've had to write this as my computer shut down just as I'd finnished typing. Arrghh! I'm really stressed today.
My mum has type 2 diabetes and since christmas day has had blurry vision and seeing coloured spots. The doctor came yesterday for a home visit and she was told to see him and a specialist at a clinic today. This morning the doctor rang and told her to go to Sandringham hospital to directly see the specialist at 9am. Instead she has been sitting in the emergency department since then. My DP got over there early to take her, as she can't drive. He has my DD and my younger sister with him. He's gone back to my mums to wait for a while, as DD cracked it.
Anyway the hospital only decided to check my mums blood glucose level when DP told them off for doing nothing. They checked and her level was 11.6!! Yet she was still sitting in the emergency room when DP left.
This hospital is just imcompetent. She was meant to go straight to see a specialist not sit in the waiting room getting worse!! I'm at home waiting for a call from DP to tell me what is going on.
The situation just isn't looking good at the moment. I doubt mum will be able to drive anymore. My sister is only 8 and we live pretty far away.

[Kayangel]

catalytic- Big hugs hun :hugs: i cant find the words to tell u how truely sorry i am to read about ur mum i am thinking of you both and i hope there is something they can do for her. What a terrible thing to have happen :(

The hospital sounds shocking is there anywhere else u can take her? she shouldnt be sitting in a waiting room :no: she needs care NOW!

What will happen to ur little sister if your mum cant drive anymore? poor little thing.

Please let me no as soon as u hear anything my fingers are crossed that ur mum will be fine.

[PrincessJasmine]

I went up to the hospital to see her, she was pretty upset but calmed down. They told us she was in the ward but she was still in a bed down in casualty. She's being transferred to the Alfred and will be there for the next week. The main concern at the moment is mum has 2 dogs and 2 cats, which we will have to go back and feed everyday as well as making trips into the Alfred.
My sister is staying here with us for the week. I haven't spoken to any of the doctors yet, so I'm not sure if the eye damage is reversable but it doesn't sound like it is. I think something was mentioned about her getting some counselling to cope with her limited ability. She can still see enough to get around. Her main concern was not being able to drive anymore or make jewelery.
Some tough decisions will have to be made at the end of the week. Everything is such a mess, I'm the sort of person that needs to have everything plannned out in situations like this or start to stress. The way DP is snapping at me you'd think it was his mother! Thankfully he had the good grace to apologise for being snappy. He's the one thats been talking to the doctors and running around everywhere all day, we'd be lost without him.
Mum sent us home, and we'll go in to see her tomorrow morning.
What an end to the year, poor mum will spend new years in hospital. At least she's somewhere where she'll get the propper treatment and get her diabetes under control. I really don't know whats goind to happen at the end of the week. There's so much to think about and sort out I just don't know where to start. My sister is in walking distance to her school, she's been getting herself ready in the mornings since mum has been working. Thankfully its the holidays! I now have to clean two houses and look after 4 cats and 2 dogs, DP isn't keen on the idea of having so many animals. We'll be having a big animal enclosure in the new place I think!
Thanks for all the well wishes...

[V8]

Oh Catalytic - I'm so sorry again to hear of the news of your mum. I am glad she is in good care and i hope you find out more info soon. What a stressful time for you all. :hugs: Any news today??

Angeike - Thanks hun, hugs to you too for your itchy throat. :hugs:

[Kayangel]

Hey girls, I am so upset today my own sister was so mean to me today i am so badly hurt she made rude and hurtful comments about my sons u/s pics she said it looks like i breed with one of my staffys because his got a snot and she said he looks like a monkey she kept saying this over and over again and then went on to say how big he looks and say how long his legs are these comments ripped my heart out once i left her place i couldnt stop crying and i felt like i couldnt breath probley, i cant belive my own sister who i look to for advice and who i love said this about my baby, i would never ever dream of putting down another family member or anyone for that matter.

Am i over being over the top? I feel so down and hurt.

[V8]

Kayla - that is utterly disgusting, i can't believe a grown woman with her own children would say such horrible things to you!! You should tell her how much that upset you. I would hate to think she says the same thing to her neice about her grandchild!! OMG, i would be absolutely fuming!!!

[Kayangel]

She knows how much it upset me my dad rang her abusing her saying how dare she say those things to me, also my mum told her i was in tears her reply was "im being silly"

[V8]

What?? Being silly! I don't think so, she needs a smack in the head! I'm glad your dad rang and gave her what for! I wouldn't be going over there any time soon. :rolleyes:

[Kayangel]

V8- I dont feel like going over there but i love my family to death and there all i have so i guess i need to find away to get past this and forgive.

[mummajugs]

IMO she needs to grow the hell up! how dare she say anything of the sort. honestly, if that was me, i would have clobbered her right then and there, but that is just me. NO ONE hurts me or my family. you need to let her know how much it hurt you, and sort it out on your own, its always good when other people do it for you, but in this instance you need to do it yourself. gosh this disgusts me.:mad:
cheer up hun. the pics are beautiful! dont let anyone tell you different! your son will be a stud :D

[Kayangel]

awww lauren thank you so much :hugs: u brought a big smile to my face.

[EmsMum72]

Well it's been awhile since I've b!tched about my hubby, so no time like the present I say.

Hub's hurt his back so he basically can't do anything. I sympathise with him, but it happens all too often and I'm left having to do EVERYTHING! I guess I sort of just do everything most of the time anyway as I've had to over the years what with hubby working. But when he's home it's nice to have an extra pair of hands. We went swimming this morning and DH just organises himself and then leaves everything else up to me, including taking everything to the car (including DD) and strapping her in etc. I know he has a sore back which makes it hard for him to help, but this is often what he's like when he doesn't have a sore back.

Am I asking too much? Are most men like this or do I just have a really un-helpful hubby? Things would want to change when baby 2 comes along. I've spoken to him about it and he says he'll help more, but then reverts back to his old ways (as they do).

We are currently not talking because I put the wheat bag in the microwave for too long (can you believe it? what a stupid thing to fight about) - he said 'haven't you realised that 2 mins is too long, it's too hot' so I said 'from now on you can do everything yourself, i'm sick of it' and then I told him he was the most ungrateful person I'd ever met so now he's not talking to me! Humph!!

Honestly, if he's home for more than a week (we've currently been together for 3 weeks, what with our 2 week holiday) I can guarantee that we will end up arguing. I don't think it should be like this :confused:

[V8]

Mel, sometimes men are just so slack they have no idea. Fortunately DH does everything i ask him to do around the house. It's the other way round here though cause i have the bad back and arthritic joints, so he does lots for me, even if i drop the remote i'll ask him to come pick it up for me! lol That's why i love him really. Men who don't pull their weight really bug me. DH has a brain injury and is forgetful but still doesn't make excuses to do no work around here!

I hope he pulls his finger out soon hun and helps out.

[Pixie]

Mel my DH gets like this at times we fight about the most stupid things, always for me anyway an underlying issue with something else. I have decided new years reso is stop think am I actually angry about this is it worth it. SO I either shut up or walk away lol My DH is quite helpful he treats me like a queen but I do still have to say can you get this do that etc. The other day he said E wants a drink, he didn't know where her cups where she has 2 cupboards of her own. I told him to go find them he grumbled his butt off. But yeah like you I worry about when number 2 arrives so I am training him now lol

So I am here to whinge
I have over-whelming nausea today I took a bus and train to see my sister, at the train station I got really bad stomach cramps I was deep breathing with them I then thought I was going to be sick so I sat on the floor gave E a banana I then got really hot and faint...Great I got my phone out in case I had to call my sister. Then as quickly as it came it went. Same thing happened when I met her. and has been happening on and off all day.

Yesterday I sneezed and it felt like my section scar ripped like a zipper I yelled in pain and felt instantly sick. I had HUGE braxton hicks afterwards.

The baby is doing what babies do and it feels like it's digging it's way out through my cervix, I swear this baby is so active all day it is nuts!
Anyhoo DH will be home soon with some coke for my stomach only thing that will settle it.

whinge over :D

[Bel1978]

you always know how to make me smile bel:D


:D How did every thing turn out so far??????

[Bel1978]

Hey girls, I am so upset today my own sister was so mean to me today i am so badly hurt she made rude and hurtful comments about my sons u/s pics she said it looks like i breed with one of my staffys because his got a snot and she said he looks like a monkey she kept saying this over and over again and then went on to say how big he looks and say how long his legs are these comments ripped my heart out once i left her place i couldnt stop crying and i felt like i couldnt breath probley, i cant belive my own sister who i look to for advice and who i love said this about my baby, i would never ever dream of putting down another family member or anyone for that matter.

Am i over being over the top? I feel so down and hurt.


No not at all... this wasnt who i think it was was it????? How are things now

Cat - Sorry about your mum.. i dont read this thread often.. how is she?

[mummajugs]

just updating on my previous posts.

as you all know, im in Perth at the moment with mum because dad has kicked me out of home. i will be going back to sydney at the end of the month and moving in with DP which i am very very happy about!
Dad still hasnt called me which im very annoyed about, although he did send me a txt message on new years saying 'happy new year! i love you very much and only want the best for you, i hope we can work things out in the new year. love always dad'
i dont understand the message, to him i guess its as if, oh ive kicked you out of home because its the best for you, im too stubborn to call but i still want to work things out via brain waves or something.
it really annoys me that he hasnt called considering it has been nearly 2weeks. he still doesnt even know that im in Perth. he hasnt even called to see where i am. for all he knows i could be on the side of the street.
arrrrrgh.
i dont know if i should call him or not. to me, i wasnt the one in the wrong so i shouldnt have to make the effort.
anyways on he up side, i have a loving mumma and a loving DP and everyone else family wise who are willing to help, love and support me during all this. so i guess i can stop worrying so much.
if anyone has any advice. or thinks im been over the top please tell me. no hard feelings.

:wave:

[rynosmum]

EmsMum, I'm sorry to hear that DH was being a prat. Hopefully he's a little better now.

We're exactly the same. For a week or so, we get along famously and then for the second week, we start to irritate each other. Maybe that's why we never take holidays :doh:

Honestly, you love them to death but they are only boys. My DH had a back op a few years back so I know what you mean. There's a good video on Youtube that a lovely BH friend sent me the other day - I think it was called 'Man cold'. Very apt I would think:laughing:

Pixie, how are you feeling? The other day, I came home from shopping and felt quite dazed and 'out of it'. I came into the kitchen, realised my hands were shaking and I was very faint:dizzy:. I poured a huge glass of coke to get some sugar in and sat down and rested and felt better. Haven't had another incident since so guess it's just one of those things. It's still scary though, isn't it?

MJ, at least you're out of all of the negativity now - that has to be loads better for your bubba.:D

[EmsMum72]

Thanks for sympathizing rynos and for bothering to read my post, Pixie & Vee too :hugs:

Hub's pulled his head in a little and thankfully his back is on the mend, so hopefully he will return to work soon :yelclap: and we can love each other again, LOL!

Pixie, how are you feeling? Still got pains from your c-section scar? Hope that baby's behaving and not causing you too much discomfort.

Vee, although your hubby has a disorder he sounds wonderful - very helpful and that's awesome.

You're right rynos about our men only being 'boys' at the end of the day. God love 'em! They're a handful aren't they? Can't wait till my 3rd child arrives :laughing:

[PrincessJasmine]

I've been so ****ed off all week I'm about to explode!!:mad:

I feel like I'm doing everything by myself. DP doesn't get up until midday, he stays up late playing poker nearly every night and then expects me to get the kids quiet, fed, dressed and his clothes washed without any help of appreciation. My cat wont stop peeing everywhere, to makes things worse people insist on leaving clothes and paper on the floor. My cat is at least considerate and will pee on what ever is lying on the floor to avoid peeing on the carpet! The cat is now locked in the bathroom.

To make matters worse mums dog who I have here insists on peeing and pooping on the floor as well. He decided to take a dump right on front of me as I was just about to walk into the toilet. I got my sister to come pick it up, but she smudged it into the carpet more! :hair: The yapping mutt has been locked in the laundry all day and is now outside making noise. Its going back home tomorrow to stay with the other dog, I've had enough! Yes, I'm not ashamed to say, I prefer cats!

My memory is really bad lately, I know we had some el cheapo spare nappies in case we run out. I couldn't find them so rather than crack a spaz I called DP to only get yelled at for bothering him. I'm having no sympathy for my condition at all, the house is a mess as I have not had time to clean thoroughly. I barely sleep more than 6 hours and try to sleep in on the mornings when I don't have something on. I can't nap in the afternoon as I'm never home. I just want a bit more help and understanding from DP. I seriously feel like taking Jasmine and staying at my mums since no one is there and I have to go down there tomorrow anyway.

My mum is going to need me more now, and with a new baby on the way I really don't need the stress of having to deal with a grumpy unapreciative man! :hair:

[Kayangel]

Bel- Yes, its who u think it is! Corals my only sister. Things werent sorted out she never said sorry to me and still has little digs at my baby in order to make kirsty and herself feel better but in the end they are family and i just have to deal with these comments, she use to be a great sister and kirsty and i were once close but since kirsty and i getting pregnant there just seems to be competition coming from there side when it shouldnt be that way. Its quiet sad.

catalytic- Sorry to hear about the cat and dog peeing everywhere.

Doesnt the cat have a kitty litter? and dogs are very easy to toilet train.

Your hubby needs to start helping u out not fair u have to do everything. Sending u lots of hugs :hugs::hugs::hugs:

[mummajugs]

catalytic- :hugs::hugs::hugs:for you.
i think you really need to sit down with DP and talk about the situation. he needs to pull his weight.
im a strong believer in dogs staying outside and are never to be inside, all they do is make everything smell like dog! where as cats. i love them inside. they are so wonderful. and they dont smell unless they pee somewhere and thats only if their litter is dirty or they cant get to it.
i hope things work out, maybe it would be good to stay at your mums for a day or two. im sure DD will like it too. as shes prob feeling the tension. most kiddies can
once again lots of hugs for you :hugs:
hope things get better real quick.
take care hun!
x

[V8]

:hugs: Catalytic, i would be majorly pee'd too you have so much on your plate to deal with and the last thing you need is a partner who's not pitching in. I'd be packing up and going to your mum's for a bit too and if the dogs pee and poo at least it's on her carpet not yours!

[Kayangel]

mummajugs- Some people who take great offence to what u have just said.

I have 4 dogs inside, my house doesnt smell one bit and i have never had a vistor tell me it does smell like dog, my doggies are all fully toilet trained they have a doggie door they go in and out, they are always clean bathed weekly.

I dont belive dogs should be kept outside in the pouring rain and boiling heat.

Do u think ppl with dogs, dont/cant have a clean house, nice smelling house?

take it from someone who knows hundreds of people in the dog show and dog training world who have dogs in there houses and do they smell? no are they clean? always.

[JordansMummy]

Kayla :hugs: I think you are taking it out of context. People are entitiled to their own opinions, and just because it doesn't agree with yours still makes it okay, iykwim?

Anyways I don't like dogs inside either. I think its gross. Unless maybe it was a small house dog, but even still I don't like it, especially when kids live in the house.

But then again if it is raining or during winter, its okay to bring them in at night and so they can sleep in the laundry sometimes.

I love dogs but definately don't want one for a long time! hehehe

[PrincessJasmine]

Thanks girls!

The cat has kitty litter, but with his urine infection he's in pain when he pee's so he has associated the litter box with pain.

I don't mind having a dog indoors, providing they are toilet trained. I've spent the last two weeks trying to train this stupid dog, but he still insists on peeing and pooping. I think it partly because my mums other dog isn't toilet trained either and Rocky is picking up her bad habbits. I can only blame my mum as she is the owner.

I mentioned something to DP about him helping out at like 2am while he still had the tv on. He got up and helped me clean a bit this morning, only reason was that I was expecting the student midwife to visit but yet again she hasn't shown up.

[Kayangel]

JordansMummy- I no everyone can have there own opinions and i respect this tho i do think on a public forum u need to watch what u say a little bit as what was written is pretty much saying i and everyone else with dogs inside has a dirty smelly house.

and dogs shouldnt be in houses with children i guess im going to be a terrible mother and i guess i should be ashamed of bringing a baby into a house that has dogs. Is that right??

[JordansMummy]

Are you being serious??? Kayla I hope you are feeling okay, I think you are being a little immature, just a little. I don't want to step on people's toes hon, but that is definately not what I was saying at all and you have taken it out of context too far. End of conversation as far as I am concerned, I can't be bothered dealing with bitchiness nor pettiness. I guess age does play a good part in growing up.

[meegzz]

Jordans Mummy - I think what you said was a bit harsh, kayla is obviously very strongly opinionated on this topic and i cant say that i don't agree with her - my dog is an inside dog too he plays outside during the day but is inside by about 6 for dinner cuddles and bed, sure he can smell at times but as long as him and his bedding is washed quite regularly the house itself doesn't smell and isn't dirty! I also have an inside cat too (who doesn't smell either)
I think the age thing was a bit wrong, sure sometimes people over react but its usually for a reason not just because someone is "immature" and obviously kayla felt hurt that you said it was disgusting which i must admit would hurt me too if i felt it was directed at me!!!
We all need to consider peoples feelings in here and understand we are all going to have different opinions on a lot of things..... don't get me wrong your opinion doesn't offend me at all its just we all get a little fiery sometimes and say a little too much to harshly!
Dogs are fine with kids as long as they are supervised!

Kayla - You aren't being immature so dont take that personally at all! I can see where you are coming from it depends on the person keeping the dogs etc, dogs cant exactly clean up after themselves and as you have 4 i believe you would do a good job and i don't think it is disgusting.... my dog wouldn't sleep outside either he is my baby he has slept outside maybe 3 times in his life when he was sick and thats only coz he had gastro or something and i was cleaning him up every ten minutes inside - thats when he was a pup and learning to toilet train too so i must say it was all on the paper including the vomit but he needed fresh air that night! I think its great that your dogs are so important to you!!!!

Catalytic - i hope everything works out for you and your dog and cat and DP lol it sounds horrible but once you take the dog back a little bit will get better!!! I hope your cat learns soon - maybe buy him a new tray?!
Can you talk to your DP about how you are feeling at all???
Well hope all goes well!!!

Love yas alll oxoxo :wave:

[Isaac's Mummy]

Glad that your DP helped you out a little this morning Catalytic. Hopefully he continues to pull his weight - it really is the last thing you need right now having a grown man to look after as well.

Any sign of the student midwife yet? Has she not shown up before? Hope there's a very good explanation for why he/she isn't there...

[Kayangel]

JordansMummy- Why am i being immature? because i have a passion for animals and it makes me so angry when people dont understand how much love they give.

I can tell u right now that i am a very mature 18 year old, i have been though a hell of a lot in my life somethings which others will never go though, u dont have a right to tell me im immature because i have strong views and a massive passion for dogs.

Meegzz- Thanks hun:hugs:, it really upset me when ppl are saying houses with dogs are messy and smelly and that dogs shouldnt be in a house with children, children get so much out of dogs its amazing.

This is why so many dogs are in pounds and are getting put down because people do think this way it makes me so upset.

My doggies mean the world to be, they are so loyal always there when im crying and sick, they give me so much love and joy i cant wait for my son to experince the love a animal can bring.

[mummajugs]

kayla- i am entitled to my own opinion. sorry that you took offence to that as it was not my intension. as it is a public forum i am entitled to freedom of speech, if your not happy with the things i say, ignore it, as we have said in the previous may babies thread... bite your tongue and get on with it...
i am not going to sit here and say that i love dogs being inside... i would be lying, unlike some, i dont lie and i voice my thoughts whether it be good or bad. like it or lump it. get over yourself. and im sorry, but i have to agree with jordansmummy your being very immature. grow up, youve got a kid on the way!
thats all i am going to say.

[Kayangel]

mummajugs- I have grown up, thank you! once u have been though all the **** i have been though come back and see how u measure up.

Im not asking u to lie i hate liers as im sure we all do, im just saying u need to be careful with what u say as there are millions of people online and u need to have some respect for people and there belifes.

Do u think im just going to bite my tounge when ur pretty much saying ppl with dogs live in mess and smell, not going to happen im far to passionate to sit back and take it.

Atleast my posts havent been nasty unlike yours.

[mummajugs]

kayla- i forgot sorry, your 'very mature' haha! I may be only a year older than you, but i can garentee by a long shot, that my maturity level is about a 10yr gap from yours. your acting like a 10yr old. i understand that you have been through alot. but have you ever once thought about things other people have been through. do you ever wonder why i dont live in perth with my mum? do you ever stop to consider other peoples problems without adding into it something about yourself? you have know idea what anyones state of mind is and im sorry but your really taken everything out of context.
all i was saying in my post inregards to the matter was my opinion. i like dogs but they do smell, its true, cats can smell too so can people, but I will never trust any dog with a small child around, as dogs get jelous and you can never determine when they will snap no matter how well you have trained them, i know from experience. when i was 5yrs old, i was snapped at by a dog at the easter show- full of show dogs. im sorry, but if you have anything else to say, PM me. no-one needs to hear your petty bull****.

[rynosmum]

Wow, this really IS the venting place:laughing:

I think it's time the subject was dropped - everyone is entitled to their own opinion and Kayla, you really need to learn to understand that. This is exactly why so many ladies left this thread a while back - everyone lets you have your own opinion and just drops the topic but you like to continue it. Please just let it rest so we can keep our threads going.

My personal opinion is that my dog/s are never allowed in the house unless they are ill. My dog is toilet trained, hydrobathed regularly and all of that but she still smells 'doggy'. With a baby coming into the house as well, the last thing I need is any more bacteria or dog fur etc introducing new bugs or breathing difficulties for kids, let alone having any food or water bowls in within easy reach. I can guarantee that if you are someone who doesn't have dogs in the house, you can immediately tell when you walk into a house that does have them - regardless of how clean they are - it's just a fact. If you have them in your house, that's great but I think you need to understand that some people don't share your desire here and that's fine as well.

Also, I'm sure you've been through a lot in your years but as MJ clearly points out, you can never assume what others have been through or what they have experienced and it's interesting that those who have hard the toughest life generally talk about it the least.

Please let this rest and lets get back on topic of the thread.

[zera06]

at the end of the day everyone can choose what lives in there house and what doesnt :)

[Kayangel]

Finished! :)

[happybunnypony]

Catalyctic: How did you go? Did you end up staying at your mums place? Maybe it might be good for even just a few nights, if you can.

It might make your DH pick up his act around the place and realise how much you really do!

:hugs:

[PrincessJasmine]

Thanks HBP, no I stayed home. We had a bit of a fight yesterday but he had enough sense to apologise. We both felt better after I had gone shopping for the baby stuff. DP is glad I got some good bargains.

My sister is staying at mums friends for the next week or more, and I'm taking the little pooping runt home later on. Mum has an eye specialist appointment tomorrow, we'll find out for sure if she can drive. She still wants to, and I really don't like the idea, but don't know what I can do to stop her. DD wont be going in the car with her anymore. I've gotten used to having a car of my own and being able to go out and do stuff instead of being stuck at home.

This week I just have to worry about getting an assignment finnished in time, an essay about how television has reorganised the domestic sphere and gender relations focusing on "girl power" and how gender is reflected in current programming. With that in mind I better go get some work done.

[mummajugs]

rynosmum- i couldnt have said it better myself. your a champ!

catalytic- im glad DP apoligised. you seem a bit happier today :D and im glad to hear it(read it haha)! im sure its lovely to have your sister with you sometimes but im sure you will be alot less stressed without her there. i hope everything works out the way you would like. just dont forget to take care of yourself! :D

[V8]

Catalytic - glad to hear that things are settling down a bit and that there will be less stress without your sister and your mum's doggie there. Also that your DP apologised. Goodness that assignment sounds like a challenge! Be interesting though, goodluck with it hun, i hope you get a chance to get through it all.

Rynosmum - Very well said, thanks for that you reflected my sentiments exactly without me having to say anything! :p

I'm going to have a vent now! lol

I'm so bored right now! That's about all really! :D

[PrincessJasmine]

I hope your feeling better soon too Mummajugs :)

I'm bored to Vee. Droped in to DP's mates place on the way home from feeding the dogs and told him to come around for dinner. Poor guy, he's not working at the moment and sits at home most of the time. DP has taken DD swimming at the pool and should be home soon. Nearly time for me to go cook dinner. Shopping always puts me in a good mood especially when I'm buying brand new baby stuff this time!

This better be a good birth because we have to have more kids now to get the full use out of all the baby stuff I've bought. :D

[Kayangel]

How can u go from feeling so happy and excited to feeling so down and like u have no hope?

The one thing i wanted was my son to have both sides of a family, i wanted my son to no his dad and to no mathews side of the family but now i have lost all hope of that eva happening and it hurts i now no in years to come Jaylen will have so many questions about his dad, what was he like?, why didnt he want to no me? etc. i have no idea what to say and it breaks my heart.

I am hurting, upset and holding back my tears im not sad for me, im sad for my son.

Mathew and i made this baby im 18 and living up to the responsiblities he will be 24 in May and from the sounds of things isnt going to live up to the responsibities.

I wont be contecting him again, i have done all i can do, i have tired my best, what else can i do?? nothing.

Mathew didnt say much on the phone yesturday just that he wants a DNA test, i cant belive he still wants it, i dont understand he knows what im like he knows i was crazy about him and would have never cheated on him. :rolleyes:

As for mathews mother who i seen last night, said that lots of ppl do this alone that im not the only one, which is very true and i think that everyone doing this alone is so strong and amazing, it seems like i will be doing this alone, yes i can do it, yes it will be hard but i am going to make the best life i can for my son and i, im going to give him everything he could eva need, he will get enough love from me.

Sorry for the big vent! and thanks to anyone who read it.

[kristyNluke]

im sorry kayla that you have such an asswhole of an ex that would even consider treating you and his son like that. that is his own flesh and blood and he doesnt even want to no him that is really horrible but in the end it will be totally his loss your son will be fine he will have heaps of love and one day hopefully a decent dad who is there for him as for your ex he will be left with the thought he never got to experience the most important part in his childs life let him have the dna test let them prove your the better person and he is just low life scum. what else did his mum say does she show any interest toward her grandson do they know your having a boy?

[Kayangel]

Kristy- They no everything :rolleyes: mathews mum knew it was a boy she knew everything as mathews mums niece goes on here ummm i have no idea who the niece is?? makes her mathews cousin, so doesnt that make her my sons 2nd cousin?? lol i dunno how it all works. Do wish i knew who she was tho.

His mum said that she tired to look up my number in the phone book, she did ask how i was and said there was alot i dont no :rolleyes: it sounded to me like she knows mathew isnt going to step up and be a father, i dunno her plans regarding the baby but going from the lots of ppl do this alone comment doesnt seem like she will have much to do with Jaylen.

After she had a fight with my mum she didnt talk to me, feel like im stuck in the middle.

[cassie0011]

Kayla- i feel so sorry for you and ur son, what a horrible man he is, not wanting to know his own son and how could he even question the paternity. I was kinda in the same situation when i met my hubby, i got pregnant after 2 months of us getting together and he wanted me to have an abortion cause of his family, not knowing about me and cause of his culture, being sri lankan, his parents dont believe in sex b4 marriage,his parents would have killed him and disowned him. I really wanted to keep it but i went through with it anyway, and i now regret it. My hubby said to me he would leave me if i had it, but he didnt say that in so many words. but now we have beautiful son and a daughter one the way. so it all turned out in the end. sorry to tell ya my life story, and im sure your son will be as happy with or without the dad in the picture. It sounds like you have all the support you need from your family to make it work.

[kristyNluke]

kayla- i really think you should just try and work on a relationship with his mum your sons grandma just try and include her by letting her know stuff to do with your pregnancy without pushing to hard if you can do that then she has the best chance of getting through to her son and giving him a wake up call.

[PrincessJasmine]

Kayla- give his mother a chance, I agree with Kirsty his mother is the one who has the best chance off getting through to him. I suspect she'll want pictures or some sort of update when the baby arrives. It does make it a bit tricky if someone on here is handing her that stuff without her coming to you. Maybe when Jaylen is born, just do private invites to your photo's online, that way only the people you invite to see him can. If that makes sense...
Try not to read too much into what his mother says, give him the stupid DNA test if you feel comfortable with that. At the end of the day he's the one that will look like a complete d***khead!

[Kayangel]

Thank you all for ur kind words, what would i do without u girls?? i was actually thinking of leaving this site because i hate the fact that everything i say will be getting back to mathews mother and that im being "tricked" by someone on here but i thought about it and i couldnt leave all of u, i have made so many wonderful friendships and all u ladies r a great support, what would i do without bubhub??

As for including mathews mum, what do u say to someone who already knows everything??? what do i say to her when i have heard she hates me?? i really want her to be apart of Jaylens life but i dont no how to go about having a friendship with her.

[cassie0011]

As for including mathews mum, what do u say to someone who already knows everything??? what do i say to her when i have heard she hates me?? i really want her to be apart of Jaylens life but i dont no how to go about having a friendship with her.

Maybe just sit down with her and explain that u want her to be a part of jaylen's life, thats if she wants to be and you would like to be friends with her and dont want the hostility around your child.

[Kayangel]

Maybe just sit down with her and explain that u want her to be a part of jaylen's life, thats if she wants to be and you would like to be friends with her and dont want the hostility around your child.

Thanks cassie, i might just do that. Its just so hard when i no in the back of her mind she would be wondering if its mathews son, i cant wait to get the DNA and its proven to be mathews baby! I wish i could have a DNA while pregnant so then all this DNA talk can stop, it shouldnt even be happening mathew knows me and he would know its his baby :rolleyes:

[cassie0011]

men will say anything to deny responsibility. thats why they are 3 yrs behind a woman their own age in maturity. He probably knows its his, just doesnt want the responsibility and is trying to find a way out.

[Kayangel]

men will say anything to deny responsibility. thats why they are 3 yrs behind a woman their own age in maturity. He probably knows its his, just doesnt want the responsibility and is trying to find a way out.

Very true! His not ready for baby so this is his way of not having to deal with it and not step upto the plate, his shutting it all out which isnt fair on his son or me i hate not knowing whats going to happen and now i have no control.

[cassie0011]

Just speak to his mum and see what she says, if she wants involvement in her grandchilds life, she may persuade him into having something to do with ur son and the ex may grow up and stop acting like a child.

[Kayangel]

His needs to grow up his nearly 24, i will give speaking to her a good think about.

mmm would love to no would the leak is on here! :confused:

[cassie0011]

having children usually matures some people, so hopefully he will help you, my hubby is still a big kid at 26, he has his new toy which drives me crazy, his silly car(nissan 300zx).

[Kayangel]

:laughing: Boys and there toys! gotta love it!

Just being pregnant has chanced and matured me in so many ways. I dont feel like a 18 year old all the things 18 year olds do i no longer do, i have given up so much for bubs but i dont regret any of it.

[cassie0011]

i gave up alot too when i got preg with my son, it really helps you put things into perspective. they always come first, and i wouldnt have it any other way, i love my son to bits. i always wanted to be a young mum even thou im not that young anymore(26) lol. i had my son when i was 24, my freind is the same, she has a son who is 18 months and she just found out 2 days ago that she is pregnant again. she just turned 25. Babies always mature you.

[Kayangel]

I think some people are meant to be mummys, some people are born to be mummys and i think im one of these people, nothing is better then be a mummy and rasing a child, its better then parties, drinking and all the sh!t.

[cassie0011]

so true! i believe that too, i am so glad i have my son. he started to give me kisses the other day too. watching them learn new things and develop is the best feeling in the world.

[Kayangel]

so true! i believe that too, i am so glad i have my son. he started to give me kisses the other day too. watching them learn new things and develop is the best feeling in the world.

aww kisses that is so sweet, makes my heart melt just hearing that, i want my little boy now!

[cassie0011]

u will have him soon enough, not much longer to go now, time will fly by.

[Kayangel]

6 weeks 6 days to go!!! :cloud9::smiliedance::goodvibes:

I CANT WAIT!!!

[cassie0011]

maybe we should meet up in dandy sometime and do some baby shopping!!

[Kayangel]

That sounds like fun!! :D we should.

[cassie0011]

cool, we'll talk about it soon, when i have some money sometime next week. gotta go, hubby will b home soon.

[Kayangel]

Thanks for the chat Cassie, Look forward to our shopping trip :) bye :wave:

[mummajugs]

kayla- im very sorry to hear about what your ex and ex's mum have both said. i really hope that for your sake and your sons that everything works out fine! i think your ex really needs to own up the the responsibility and that his mum can also be a part of your sons life. it must be so hard. i really empathise for your situation. it must be horrible. i hope everything works out.:hugs:

[PrincessJasmine]

maybe we should meet up in dandy sometime and do some baby shopping!!

Can I come too?:D I have a car now, I can finally go places and I'd really like to meet both of you! I wont be offended if you say no though (I don't want to be a third wheel), I'm sure we'll organise a meet up for us all eventually.

[Kayangel]

Can I come too?:D I have a car now, I can finally go places and I'd really like to meet both of you! I wont be offended if you say no though (I don't want to be a third wheel), I'm sure we'll organise a meet up for us all eventually.

Yes yes yes:yes:!!! u can come!! :D the more the better!! yay!! this will be fun, i cant wait to meet both u ladies and see ur baby bumps aww. Im so excited, we will have a good time baby shopping togerther. :thumbsup:

Lauren- Thank u for ur kind words :hugs: today has been tough and the tears have been coming all day. The one thing i want most for my son is for him to no his dad and his dads side of the family, to then go and hear that the chances of that happening is not high is heartbreaking but i am feeling better tonight as i have relised that no amount of crying and stressing will change what is going to happen i just have to sit back wait and hope things work out, if they dont then im going to write alittle journal about his dad - the things he liked doing, about the relationship we had, the love we shared etc.

[PrincessJasmine]

Cool! Just let me know when you decide to meet up, I'm free most days, but Monday I have to go pick up my sister.

I'm so proud of my DD at the moment, she's eating a whole apple, skin and all! She's been asking for them for a few days now, I think its because I've been giving her apple juice lately.

[Kayangel]

We will :)

ur DD is a good girl!! yay :yelclap: for eating a apple, thats really good. :thumbsup:

[cassie0011]

Can I come too?:D I have a car now, I can finally go places and I'd really like to meet both of you! I wont be offended if you say no though (I don't want to be a third wheel), I'm sure we'll organise a meet up for us all eventually.

Its fine by me, the more the merrier.:yes: U r really close to me, im in noble park. i also have a car but no licence yet, hopefully getting it on the 3rd March.

Kayla- I dont have much of a baby bump thou, im a little chubby so hard to see with me till about 6 1/2 to 7 months.

[PrincessJasmine]

Its fine by me, the more the merrier.:yes: U r really close to me, im in noble park. i also have a car but no licence yet, hopefully getting it on the 3rd March.



You're very close to me, I could pick you up if you like? I've got a booster seat for Jasmine (since she's 21/2) and still have the normal carseat in the car, I'm sure your son would fit in.

[cassie0011]

You're very close to me, I could pick you up if you like? I've got a booster seat for Jasmine (since she's 21/2) and still have the normal carseat in the car, I'm sure your son would fit in.

Yeah that would be great, thanks:thumbsup:. im think we should go like next thurs or friday cause then i will have some money. if that suits u and kayla.

[mummajugs]

:hissy:
ok, i dont know why im venting about this, it may seem lame. but its really frustrating me!

my frustration is with EBAY!

they have suspended my account!!!!!!
i have not done anything wrong!
they are saying to me that im associated and/or own 2 other ebay accounts that have been suspended because they were in breach of their policy... but i dont own these 2 other accounts! i only have one account and one e-mail, so how could i? i really dont undrstand it! they are telling me that to get the suspension lifted i have to write to them from one of the e-mails that ive apparently used in association with these 2 other account... I DONT HAVE ANY OTHER ACCOUNTS OR E-MAILS! im so frustrated and so angry that ive been targeted for something that i havnt done! all i am thinking is that i have the same last name as this person or something... my last name is not common at all though, so i dont know how that could be! but then again, what if it was someone with a last name like, jones or smith or something, would they suspend everyones accounts that has that last name?
am i just whining or do i have a ligitimate reason to be angry? am i been over the top? i cant even open another ebay account!
mmmm
rant over!
:hair:

[Bel1978]

Call them it could be fraud... can you get into your account as people send dodgy emails

[mummajugs]

Call them it could be fraud... can you get into your account as people send dodgy emails


nuh its for real! its not dodge! i cant call them, they dont have phone support. and they wont call me! its sooooo annoying!

[PrincessJasmine]

Yeah that would be great, thanks:thumbsup:. im think we should go like next thurs or friday cause then i will have some money. if that suits u and kayla.

Yep Thursday or Friday suits me.

Sorry about your ebay dramas, mummajugs that really blows. Keep trying their live support and explain to them you don't have any other email accounts. Otherwise you might just have to stop using ebay (which is a shame).

[mummajugs]

i have sent 7 or 8 emails... ive lost count, but they keep telling me that i am these 2 other people and the cant restore my account until the other suspensions have been dealt with. I really dont want to stop using ebay, im practically in love with it. haha. but i guess if they give me no choice, what can i do hey!
i swear all they are sending back to me are automatic messages cause they all say pretty much the same thing.:( so frustrating.

[Bel1978]

Start a new account!

[EmsMum72]

I thought I might use this thread seeing as I don't use it much, but I feel like venting.

I posted a thread earlier today called 'This probably sounds awful but ......' (http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=150751) and basically hubby and I have had a huge fight (been building for days, I've been annoying him for a few days I think, he was just itching for a fight). He thinks I spoil our daughter and 'I' will find it hard when the new baby comes along.

Anyway, just feeling frustrated and probably a tad hormonal, but we just don't seem to make each other happy these days. I'm fed up with his attitude, the fact that he never listens to my side when we have an argument - he just walks off (he never used to be like this), the fact that I cry at the drop of a hat when we argue, his childish and stubborn ways. Lots of things in general I guess.

Thanks for listening!

[mummajugs]

mel- it doesnt sound awful! you have evry right to be frustrated and angry! if he is home at 1pm, he should be helping you, not sleeping! its tough been pregnant and i never thought it would be this hard. so i can only imagine what your going through when youve got DD to care for as well and when he isnt pitching in its just unfair.
you really really need to sit down once DD has gone to bed and talk to him about it, otherwise it will never get sorted!
i wish i lived near you, then you could come over and stay a few days with DD and vent to me! hehe! meanwhile, :hugs::hugs::hugs:for you!

i understand comletely where your coming from. DP and i argue all the time but it has settled down now because he is now starting to understand how hard pregancy actually is. and how hard it is to get everything done before bub comes without a car!(i dont drive)

i really hope everything works out! i really do! keep your chin up and try and smile, you dont want to stress yourself out, or bub for that matter!
goodluck!
x

[rynosmum]

Anyway, just feeling frustrated and probably a tad hormonal, but we just don't seem to make each other happy these days.

That doesn't sound great M, but it does sound seriously honest.:hugs: We've been in the same rut before and probably will fall into it many more times in our lifetime:rolleyes:. Sometimes it's so hard to look at your partner and actually see and feel all of those things that you used to feel for them. I find though that then, when I least expect it, all of those feelings just flood back. I'll remember back to when we first met or we'll share a joke and I'll wonder how I ever thought there was a problem.

I'm a big one at deciding which issues are worth the argument though. I'm flying out tomorrow morning for most of the week. To keep the house 'sustainable', I've had to do the grocery shopping, clean the house, do the washing, I've even prepacked DS's lunch for kindy tomorrow. Dh has been snoozing in the aircon since about 7:30pm....although he did bath DS. We both work but it seems that the house almost stops functioning if I need to go away. I've decided not to fight it though. he's a great Dad, makes me laugh, is kind and generous and is warm and cuddly - these are the important attributes to me - even if sometimes he drives me nuts:hair:

What about you? Can you identify the pros and cons of him and your relationship? Sometimes it helps...:hugs:

[EmsMum72]

Can you identify the pros and cons of him and your relationship? Sometimes it helps...:hugs:

It just seems like there are alot more cons than pros at the moment! I normally try to pick our battles too, but he's been itching for a fight all weekend and I just knew it was coming. I really don't need this right now.

you really really need to sit down once DD has gone to bed and talk to him about it, otherwise it will never get sorted!
i wish i lived near you, then you could come over and stay a few days with DD and vent to me! hehe!

We can't seem to 'just talk' without it turning into an argument these days. He's so stubborn and passionate about what he believes, and so am I and I'm tired of being the one to always back down. Thanks mj

This is what I posted in my other thread this morning!

Well, since our argument yesterday we haven't spoken at all. DH spent the afternoon & evening out in his shed (which has a tv) and only came in to eat his dinner when DD and I went out for a 45 minute walk, then he went back to his shed, which was fine by me!

Every morning he gives me a kiss and a cuddle before he goes to work, but this morning I got nada! No surprise really.

I'm trying not to stress cause it's not good for my blood pressure, or for the baby. There are so many things I want to say to him, so many things I'm sick and tired of (like his moods, his 'go to your room' attitude with our daughter as soon as she does something wrong - he doesn't even try and diffuse the situation first etc.) and as much as I hate to say this I feel like it's the beginning of the end for us :(, and we have another baby due in May. He's always told me how grumpy and strict his father was growing up, and now he's turning into him, and I can't live with a grumpy, moody person, that's just not me. I need a happy, loving, carefree person.

DH says I spoil DD, I don't think I do, but so what if I do! She has no grandparents, her Melb aunties/uncles rarely see her (they only do if I make the effort to go to their houses), her Sydney & NZ aunties/uncles never call (although Sydney aunty/uncle spoil her at b'day/xmas). Maybe I feel like I have to compensate for all the things she doesn't have (the love of her grandparents etc.). DH rarely gives her the time of day, although when they do play together they both have a ball and she adores him but he never thinks to do things with her and I always have to suggest 'why don't you take her to the park' etc. I know he loves her, but he has such a short fuse and thinks the solution to everything is to 'go to your room' and I don't agree with that, if she's been naughty I try to talk calmly to her about it and then if she does it again then I take it a step further. She brings me so much happiness, I love being with her and it just seems like he doesn't really like being with either of us that much lately :crying:.

What to do, what to do! Sorry, I've vented again :o but I have to get it out somehow or else I'll go crazy.

[V8]

Hey mel, some more hugs for you here too :hugs: Just read your other thread and glad that your DH has pulled his finger out and being nice. Hope everything is good today. :D

[EmsMum72]

Thanks Vee :thumbsup:

He knows how close I was to leaving yesterday ..... hopefully this is a wake up call cause I'm tired of it happening every 6 months or so! At the end of the day, I want us to stay together as a family, but I won't put up with too much more! :fingerscrossed:

The funny thing is, all the men in his family (father and 3 of his 4 brothers) are married to submissive women who think their hubby's are king of the bludy castle. They say and do what their hubby's want, don't yell back if there's a fight etc., his dad doesn't even 'let' his mum watch anything she wants to watch on tv, the tv is turned off when he (hubby's dad) is ready to go to bed and that's that. :rolleyes: My hubby knows I'm not like that, I yell back, swear at him and won't take his cr@p (not in front of DD obviously :o). His mum & his brother's wives believe that hubby's and wives should stay together no matter what, no matter how miserable they make each other. Very old school! DH's mum has been miserable most of her life but wouldn't dream of leaving her husband. :dizzy:

Ah well, we'll see what the future holds! :yes:

[Pixie]

I haven't read I have just come to mumble
I am sick my HB seems funny I couldn't sleep and my breathing was all out of wack last night I couldn't see properly or anything. Blinding headache this morning, panadol is slowly working

And well my family ugh lets say I hate it when people say "call me if you need anything" and when you do they say they can't make it.

Right why did you offer then?

[Eleanor1]

Hey Pixie and others,

Hope you are feeling a bit better today! I was drawn to this thread because I have a couple of minor gripes (sore hips and back, people keep commenting that I seem big for 5 months) but I can see that others have some much more serious venting to do. Best wishes to all of you and I hope all your families learn to be a bit more supportive!!

[happybunnypony]

awww Mel :hugs:
I just read your post in the other forum! wow that's full on and it doesn't sound aweful at all. I could totally understand it.
I haven't known you for long, however what i have read from you in the forums you come across as such a caring, loving, amazing person who loves her daughter so much! I can't believe he yells at you for spoiling her?! So what if you do, he should be thankful you are not neglecting her!

I am glad he came to his senses and you both got to have a big chat about things... it's always the way when both of you have things on your mind but don't chat about it regularly.. it blows way out of proportion!

Keep us in the loop and let us know how things go... Could you chat to his parents about it... or do they think he couldn't put a foot wrong? haha

:hugs:

[happybunnypony]

Hey Pixie: I hope your feeling better now? Bloody headaches are terrible at the best of times, but when you are preggers it's even worse! :hugs:

Eleanor, ooh i hope your back and hips are better now... i'm starting to feel the aches and pains a bit lately too. It's really not fun at all! :(
:hugs:

[EmsMum72]

Could you chat to his parents about it... or do they think he couldn't put a foot wrong? haha

Thanks for your kind words hbp :hugs:

My husband is the way he is because of his parents, so there's no point talking to them about it. His parents were very strict on him growing up (youngest child of 9), they never had any money so never got treats/outings/new things etc., his dad basically didn't even give him the time of day growing up, and his mum is a Jehovas Witness :rolleyes: so they never celebrated xmas/birthdays etc with their children so hubby's missed out on alot and, after spending time with his parents and at the home that he grew up in recently on our trip to NZ, I can understand why he is the way he is. But, he needs to lighten up and ensure that his children don't have a miserable childhood and bad memories of his parents like he did/does.

[V8]

:hugs: Mel, i hope he realises that the way he is treating you and your DD isn't right and starts to acknowledge his actions and try to change it, as you said if he's had a miserable childhood why would he want that for his own kiddies. :hugs:

[EmsMum72]

:hugs: Mel, i hope he realises that the way he is treating you and your DD isn't right and starts to acknowledge his actions and try to change it, as you said if he's had a miserable childhood why would he want that for his own kiddies. :hugs:

So far, so good :fingerscrossed: thanks Vee!

[Tasha83]

:wave:Emsmum,

I wanted to send you :hugs::hugs::hugs: Im going through very much the same with my DH. Its the same attitude.. Same with his parents, same up bringing ect (woman stay home, cook clean, bend over backwards, ect, father showed him no love or attention) I dont blame you at all for how you feel. And you have every right to feel these ways.

I too argue back and try stand up for myself.. and our family..

Do you ever feel like your hitting your head against a brick wall? Thast how I feel some days I swear.

Ill send many wishes your way and for things to be fix and on the way to being better.

Your such a great person and I know you will work your magic!!! he should see how much of a fantastic wife, and mother you are!

(even though I dont know you 100% :D you just seem such a wonderful mummy and wife!!)

:laughing: there are days when I swear I have 2 children in the house!!!

Tasha

[Pixie]

aw dear Mel, I hope things improve :(

I am here to vent over people IE nannies who keep telling me how hard it is with two kids and how they work 12 hour days with the mum and 2 kids and how I will never cope on my own. Part of it, is the area I live in everyone seems to have hired help in one area or another. It's driving me batty every week people comment on my hero status of "doing it alone" what ever happened to normalcy!

[PrincessJasmine]

I've had one heck of a day. Mum came home from hospital today, its been a really hard day. I'm aching all over, I had a crappy sleep lastnight and probably did more than I should have today.
:( I'm just finding adjusting to the changes that are happening. Pregnancy wise I'm happy everything is fine there. I'm just worried about the amount of stress I'm under at the moment.
I'm thankful my mum still has good mobility after the stroke, I was having trouble keeping up to her today! But she cries when she can't remember things. The state of her house really upset her today, she couldn't remember that she had left it in such a state. We had to get a cleaner to come in this afternoon and help. Even with a cleaner there is so much junk that just needs to go.
I'm seriously worried about how she is going to cope, there is help organised but they can only do so much. They can't be there 24/7, I don't really know if my mum needs that much care but I'm worried about her even cooking. The memory damage is pretty bad and most likely permanent, not to mention her eyesight and the fact that she could have another stroke. Its all a bit much for me to deal with right now, when she was in hospital it was fine, but now I guess the reality has set in.
She plans to sell the car and keep most of the money for her funeral. I'm just a little upset that she wants to get rid of a 2000 model car (thats too small) to get me a 15yo car (most likely). We need a 7 seater, and from what I've seen there isn't much out there in the area of a post 94' model for under $10,000. I can't expect her to pay for a car but keeping the money for funeral costs just seems silly. We may end up having to take out a loan that we really can't afford just to buy a reliable car. Its frustrating because I now have to find a car to seat 3 kids and 2 adults, since its going to be driven constantly and most of the time by me... sorry vent over. I'm just upset and taking some of my frustration out over the car issue.
Rant over :D

[meegzz]

Catalytic - i feel for you!!! I hope your ok try to take things easy... i know thats a thing you wont be able to do but just try to get in some "you time".

Me - OK i fee l like im about to burst i am sooooooooo angry! I was planning on calling bubs Layla if bubs is a girl that is. All of my friends know this... one of my friends has just bought a dog and guess what she called it Layla seriously why???? I am so mad about it i dont know if i am over reacting or what but if i knew she was naming her child something and i bought a dog i would never even think of naming my dog the name that she or any of my friends had chosen... i wouldnt of car3ed if it was already named layla or if she even did it afterwards it makes me mad that she knew and still called her dog that its like she hads to win adn do it first!!!! Aggghhhh p!ssed off:hissy:

[Kayangel]

Meegzz- Layla is a beauitful name, i love it! it has got to be one of the nicest girls names i have heard. Ur not over reacting at all i would be going off my tree if my mate called there dog my sons name, i think ur friend is being a b**ch and isnt a very good friend, i would seriously be talking to her and asking her to re name the dog, there are a million girls names out there she doesnt need to use the name u picked for ur bub, she is being nasty and stupid.

I can imagine how u r feeling hun, sending u big hugs :hugs: not a nice thing to have happen.

[meegzz]

Yeah i am kinda over it now anyway!! She isnt a close friend anyway it just got me mad coz now its like she thought of that name and im doing it second.... Who cares i just think its ridiculous!!!
I seen her on Saturday and i was just normal with her so icant be too angry!!! As DP said it shouldnt matter if i like it i should use it regardless of what she calls her animals.... so i have decided i will get a dog one day and name her Lisa haha JK. Its all good now but i am ok about it!!!