polony
06-03-2006, 23:42
I love my mum to pieces and I respect her completely. Without her I would not be able to survive being a single mum and study. Truly.
But lately it feels like she is always nit-picking at my mothering and that nothing I ever do is "right". She told me today that she thinks I am a fantastic mother 98% of the time BUT that 2% is me not thinking of DD, but of myself. She told me that I need to take more care of my daughter..!!
Lately DD has been getting more tired towards bedtime and gets grumpy. I have a feeling it is because she goes to day care and they exhaust her, plus she is teething, plus the weather is really hot and most people feel like sleeping when it is so hot. My mum seems to think that there is something wrong and that I must be the cause. She seems to think I "make" my DD stay up past the time she wants to sleep, but I don't.
I feel like I shouldn't complain about her telling me what to do. As the saying goes, mother knows best. The thing is, I am a mother now. It is my daughter. I really, really do appreciate her help, but sometimes I feel it is too intrusive and too much like an order rather than advice.
How do I stop her from making me feel like this without sounding ungrateful?
I honestly think I am doing the best job I can, but feel like it just isn't good enough. It's almost as if my mum thinks that she loves my DD more than I do. She always says she would do anything for my daughter, and implies that I don't. I am crying.
I need some help or advice please?! :confused:
But lately it feels like she is always nit-picking at my mothering and that nothing I ever do is "right". She told me today that she thinks I am a fantastic mother 98% of the time BUT that 2% is me not thinking of DD, but of myself. She told me that I need to take more care of my daughter..!!
Lately DD has been getting more tired towards bedtime and gets grumpy. I have a feeling it is because she goes to day care and they exhaust her, plus she is teething, plus the weather is really hot and most people feel like sleeping when it is so hot. My mum seems to think that there is something wrong and that I must be the cause. She seems to think I "make" my DD stay up past the time she wants to sleep, but I don't.
I feel like I shouldn't complain about her telling me what to do. As the saying goes, mother knows best. The thing is, I am a mother now. It is my daughter. I really, really do appreciate her help, but sometimes I feel it is too intrusive and too much like an order rather than advice.
How do I stop her from making me feel like this without sounding ungrateful?
I honestly think I am doing the best job I can, but feel like it just isn't good enough. It's almost as if my mum thinks that she loves my DD more than I do. She always says she would do anything for my daughter, and implies that I don't. I am crying.
I need some help or advice please?! :confused: