MIL's cot.

[wattle]

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[Elfin]

No I wouldn't allow it to be used either. Sounds like a hideous old thing, I mean the cot not your MIL:laughing: I would never use any baby equipment that didn't comply with current Australian standards. Do you have a travel cot you take over for her to use instead?

[veve]

oh dear... I didn't even know they MADE metal cots??!!!

ummm do you have a portacot? would her mattress (the ex-y one) fit in your portacot??

if so maybe you could suggest that your DS needs to get used to the portacot - you know - for when you go other places :D that way she can still use the new mattress... but avoid the metal cot?? (does it look like a cage?? cause that is the imagery I got!!!!

good lcuk - in laws are always difficult to handle tactfully when you dont agree!!

xx

[Lunar]

I don't think any one sane would consider you rude if you said you didn't want him sleeping in it. Just tell her that there is no way that it could possibly comply with current safety standards. Point out the obvious dangers of the cot. I know she will probably say that her kids survived the cot but they were HER kids and this is your's we are talking about! I have a mental pic of the bars and OMG I would have said something straight away! By the sound of it he could very well get his head and any other part of his body caught in those bars! Most definatley NOT SAFE!! You have a right to tell her not to use it. This is possibly your child's life we are talking about. I wouldn't hesitate.
Get a portacot if you haven't already got one and leave it there for him to use when he is there.

[reAllytee]

This sounds like the one i was offered by my mums friend which i had to decline ever so gratefully etc.
I mean in all reality all our parents either grew up in them or used them on us kids & we grew up fine so im sure its ok but dont worry i would be exactly the same as you !
Its so hard to be nice when someone is only trying to be helpful but when it goes against what you either want or think is right.
Good luck hopefully your MIL will understand your concerns.

[jembelina]

Tricky one............can you print out an article from somewhere (choice mag maybe) to show her so she really gets that it might not be safe?? Also, I would be even more worried about it now he's older - more likely to get bits stuck and could he use those bars to climb on??:eek: Sorry I have nothiong more productive, but I would be exactly the same so I think definately say something and don't feel bad about it!!

Good Luck:thumbsup:

[Rhys'Mum]

I like the "he needs to get used to the portacot" idea. I mean surely, it would be just too confusing for the poor little tyke to keep chopping and changing, perhaps two beds only would be better for now ....:fingerscrossed:

If that doesn't work you have my sympathy. I get a lot of the "well it was fine for my three kids, umpteen nephews & nieces and nine siblings"... While I sometimes try to point out that we have new safety standard and new instructions on things (like no cows milk at 3wks) because it didn't work for some babies, it really is a losing battle and best avoided if possible. :banghead:

[SugarBlossom]

OMG wattle!
My MIL did this to me too!

The cot was an absolute danger and it sounds like ur one is the same.

I would be totally peeved if I was you!

Why do MILs have total disregard for whatever we say!? But not gonna get into the big MIL rant right now:banghead: :banghead:

I just told her out right that theres no way Codie will ever be sleeping in that thing and gave her our (NEW) porta cot, but Codie has never slept there cos we still don't see eye to eye:(

Good luck with the situation!

[Smurfette]

This reminds me of a conversation I had with my MIL when I was pregnant. I was talking about cots and my sil offered me hers when she was finished with it. Now I don't want to seem ungrateful, but I didnt know the history of the cot ( her eldest is 6) and so I wasnt sure about excepting it. Mil's suggestion.........FIL can make me one :eek: . Yep, you heard right. He made a great one for my dh and his brother, some 30 years ago. Sad thing was, she was serious. I politely told her about the safety guidelines that are in place now and would rather not take the risk. Thanks anyway. OMG

[Refresh]

LOL, hey, I'm all for crucifixes but SHARP METAL anything in a baby cot??:eek: :eek:

[razzle]

Gosh the pram sounds gorgeous! They're worth a small fortune at antique shops, as would the cot!! :thumbsup:

[MammaMia]

We had the same scenario - DH (now 36yo)'s cot - metal bars. Saved for just this occasion.

But to make it better - the original mattress too.

So, what did we do you ask?:confused:

Never left the baby in her care and made it very clear no child of ours would ever rest his/her sweet little head in there.

Of course, SIL had no such qualms and merrily took the cot and is still using it on Child No.2.

My rule of thumb is this: could I ever look myself in the mirror and know that I had done everything I could for the wellbeing of my child if something happened to the child? If the answer is no, such as for the cot, then I don't do it.

Yes, there can be upset from the other adults (and I am not usually confrontational) but I sleep much better at night.

Each to their own - make your own decision and stick to it.:)