Egg donor desparately wanted

[Sandra/Paul]

Hi, My name is Sandra and this is my story.

I was born with a hole in my heart and had my first operation at the age of 3. I was always told by the doctors that I could never have children because my heart wouldnt be strong enough to carry a baby.

This was the most terrible news that I could have had as my love for children and family was and still is very strong.

Anyway, I met this great guy and we eventually got married in 1992. He knew about this problem that I had and that it would be very dangerous if I fell pregnant so we agree'd that it would be best if he had a vasectomy.

After a couple of years we decided that we really did need children in our lives so we became foster carers.

A few more years went by and in 2001 I had to go into hospital and have a heart operation, this operation made me as strong as an ox just about and I was told that my heart would now cope with a pregnancy.

We were so excited, we could finally have a family of our own. So my husband went in and had a vasectomy reversal and we tried and tried and tried to fall pregnant. It didnt work.

We went to the doctors and he referred us to Repromed.

We had our first cycle and of IVF/ICSI at the start of 2003 and we got 24 eggs, unfortunately none of them turned out to be any good so the cycle had to be cancelled.

We started our 2nd cycle at the end of 2003 and this time we managed to get 11 eggs and again they were not any good.

We found out that there were chromesome / genetic problems with the eggs that could have been cause from the same defect that gave me the hole in my heart.

So it turns out that the only way we can have our own family is by using donor eggs. I asked my twin sister if she would be able to help us to achieve our long time dream and she declined. That hurt alot.

Then one day an old school friend just came to me and offered to donate her eggs. We gladly accepted. As she only had one ovary we knew that we would possibly have limited eggs. We got through the cycle and she gave us 5 beautiful eggs. They only manage to fertilize 4 of the eggs and after 2 days 2 more of the eggs stopped growing. On day 5 I went in for a blastocyst transfer with 1 very good looking blastocyst and unfortunately the last of the eggs didnt make it for freezing so this was it.

I was actually pregnant, after all of these years of desperatley wanting our own family, our dream was about to come true. Then it happened... after being pregnant for 6 weeks I lost my little dream baby.

I wouldnt like to ask my friend again as she and her family have already done so much for us. So now we are seeking another donor to help us achieve our dream family.

If somebody out there can help us we would be truly grateful.

I hope that our run of bad luck will soon be over.

[Lunar]

I would just like to wish you all the luck in the world in your endeavor to find a donor.
I can't imagine what it is like for you, but I can see you already have a wonderful family and supportive husband. You opened your hearts and home to others in need, I truely hope that someone will do the same for you.

Keep smiling:thumbsup:

[Sandra/Paul]

:) Thank you EmysMum for your kind words.

[sugar n spice]

may i ask sandra where are u from? I do hope you find someone to donate for u? good luck

[mummycloud]

I'd donate but you and DH would need to be RH-

[Sandra/Paul]

Hi sugar n spice, we live in Adelaide, South Australia. :)

Hi mummycloud, Im not sure what you mean by RH- ? :confused:

[littlepickle]

RH- would be your blood group rjesus factor eg o-, A-, B- or AB- as opposed to o+, A+, B+ or AB+
Sometimes if you have a different rhesus factor to your growing baby, your body can produce antibodies against the baby treating it as a foreign object and trying to reject it.

Something like that anyway

[Sandra/Paul]

Thanks for that littlepickle.

My blood type is A + :)

and DH's blood type is ????? We'll have to find that one out. :o

[Kamaikia]

Do you mind if I ask exactly whats involved with donating eggs??

[Sandra/Paul]

Hi Kamaikia,

This is the process my donor went through here in Adelaide so it may be different in your state.

First she filled out a form to say that she wanted to be our donor. Then she had a blood test to check for HIV etc. we had to wait for about 6 months or so for her to have another test to check if she was still clear. She went to a councelling session by herself and then we had a joint session, I think it was about 3 sessions all up. She had to have a medical exam which was pretty basic.

After all the tests and health checks we were put on the pill to syncronize our cycles and then its pretty much the same process as IVF. You take either Lucrin (injection) or synarel (nasal spray), then you have more injections to give yourself to help stimulate your ovaries and then you go in for a scan to check if you have any eggs etc and then you have a trigger injection which I think was 48 hours before egg pickup.

During the egg pickup they put you to sleep while they take out the eggs, then you wake up most likely with a sore tummy (a bit like period cramps) and that is pretty much it.

Forgive me if Ive missed anything out ... there is a post in the egg donation issues that may explain it a bit better.

I hope ive explained it ok.:)

[Sandra/Paul]

Hi

I hope I have explained everythng ok, this is just through my experience. If you need more information it would be best to speak to a professional or something. Im just a patient recipient waiting for my angel donor to appear.

[SuperWoman]

Sandra, i want to wish you the best of luck with finding an egg donor to make your wishes come true!! I will pray for you that an angel will come into your lives and grant your wish! I am feeling emotional reading this thread as i know how it feels to want a family. I am sending big hugs your way and i wish you and your husband the best of luck.:hugs:

[Sandra/Paul]

Hi Bradysmum,

Thankyou so much for your wishes and prayers, Im sure they will help us in some way. Im sure our luck will change soon, and its people like yourself that help us to go on and follow our dream.

Thanks again.

[Sandra/Paul]

Hi Stacey,

I spoke briefly about the process with Kamaikia on this post, you may want to read that just so I dont have to type it out again - I am willing to answer any other questions about it if you dont find the answer there.

I am from Adelaide in South Australia. I too get angry and mad when people dont deserve to have children have them and / or abort them or foster them out, like cattle or something. Then I think that there are more good people like us out there and hopefully it out weighs the bad ones. That definately gives me peace of mind.

Thankyou for your interest in my life, I really apreciate it.

[sarahstarfish]

Hi Ladies

There's also a sticky in the egg donation issues section that I personally think every potential donor should read - more about the emotional aspects than the physical ones.

http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=13209

Sandra, good to see you are getting such a great response from some lovely ladies.

Love

Cindy

[HoneyBlossom]

Hi Sandra

Would like to wish you all the best in finding a donor. If i was closer i would do it for you.

Best of luck though.

[Sandra/Paul]

Thanks Cindy and Mel,

Its great to be getting these responses, I feel so good just getting people wishing me luck, its such a great feeling.

Thankyou everyone.

[Sandra/Paul]

Hi everyone,

Thankyou to everyone that has responded to my story. :hugs:

Im sure someone will know someone that knows someone that could help us to achieve our long life dream of having a child.

Thank you for wishing us luck, that really means alot and helps us to keep afloat, just knowing that there are people out there that care is a comfort.

[MustangMumma]

I really hope everything works out for you!!! My best friend went through IVF and i know the stresses and heartache involved in trying for a baby, and i pray your wishes come true!!

[Sandra/Paul]

You are right there .... stresses and heartache .... thats an understatement I think. Going through this process totally drains you on all levels, its so hard to stay focussed. Thats why im so grateful to all you wonderful people out there giving me support and kind words. It really does help me get through this.

[ButterflyKisses]

Hi Sandra and Paul - sometimes the poor men always get left out.

I was so saddened at reading your story. I only wish I was able to help you as I know the longing and empty feeling you get when you want a child. My DS is a result of IVF but my story is nothing compared to yours. If I was younger I'd go through IVF again and give you one of my eggs so I could kill 2 birds with the one stone but I've read that IVF in Australia has had no luck with live births in women over 44 using her own eggs so I've just now left it in the hands of God.

I wish you and Paul all the luck in the world and I sincerely hope that someone out there will see or hear about your story and help your dream to come true.

big hugs to you both :hugs: :hugs:

[Sandra/Paul]

Thankyou so much for that beautiful reply.

Im hoping that my story will get out there somehow by word of mouth. One day someone will know someone that will know someone that could help us, and that will be the day that we would be truly grateful for.

One day it will happen, we will never give up hope.

[ButterflyKisses]

you are more than welcome Sandra.

Is your IVF clinic able to help?? We have a free magazine that circulates around in Sydney called "Sydney's Child" and I've often seen ads in there for couples such as yourself looking for donor eggs and some of the ads the contact name & number is an IVF clinic.

no doubt you've already tried this but I just thought I'd mention it just in case.

[Cupcake]

Hi
I lived in America for a while a few years ago & my friend donatated her eggs to a company that supplies the eggs to women that have the same problems you are facing.
Is there no such place in Australia? Although I do realise it would be a very costly procedure as my friend got paid for her eggs.
I hope this all works out for you and some day soon you will have a beautiful baby:fingerscrossed:
Just another question,what if someone from another state was willing to do this for you would that be possible?

[Sandra/Paul]

Yes I have tried looking on Adelaide's Child but there are only recipeints on there. We have pretty much I think exhausted all avenues so far.

In Australia it is illegal to pay for someones eggs, so they just have to be generous and not be in it for the money. I am looking in to what happens with people from other states, Ive not found any information on this as yet. If they were from the same state it would make it easier thats for sure. I'll have to see what info I can find on that one.

[LittleBoysRock]

Hi Sandra,

I would be more than happy to donate my eggs. It is something however that I would need to discuss with my husband. I think that if he was wanting to donate his genetic material I would want to know about it.

I live in Perth though so I am not sure how that would work?

I will be speaking to my Husband and let you know. I can't make any promises but I would love to help.

[bronny-jane]

hey there sandra and paul, until i read your story i was against donating my eggs, but i think i've had a change of heart.

im just curious though as to what information the donor recieves about the child if any, say if someone said they would give you their eggs, would you be ok with this person being kept up to date with how the baby is and be ok with them getting to know the child when their older if they'd like to.

[Sandra/Paul]

Thanks Simone that would be great - Just the thought of knowing you want to help even if you cant is truly a wonderful gift, thankyou.

Bronny-Jane - The donor and the recipient usually come to an agreement during their counselling sessions etc over this matter. Me how ever, I do think that its important for the children to know where they come from not just for themselves but also for questions that may come up about their families medical history etc. I guess having foster children, I see how important it is to them to know their birth family, but either way if their family didnt want to know them then I wouldnt push that issue either.

I am hoping that the person who is able to donate their eggs to me will also become my friend so we can share pictures, letters etc. Unless for some reason they chose not to be part of the childs life in anyway then I'll respect that wish. If they dont want contact and just to have a photo sent to them on a yearly basis then I would respect that wish too. Its really up to the individual / couple to decide these things and to see what is important for them.

If you have any more questions, Im more than happy to answer them for you.

[mum2many]

Hi Sandra & Paul, your story touched me. I have had 5 children myself, one who died from SIDS 15 years ago. I have been thinking about egg donation lately so that someone else could have the joy that my beautiful kids have brought to my life. I don't know if I am able to help you because I'm almost 43 and have only one ovary now. I live in Adelaide too so maybe we could get into contact and discuss this further. I really hope I can help.

Chrystine:kiss:

[sugar n spice]

i would seriously consider unfortunately i am not in your state and my husband is totally against me. sorry. i wish you luck and all the best:hugs: . i know this idea is expensive but have you thought of going to america for it, i have read stories where people do this:detective:

[Sandra/Paul]

Hi Chrystine, :)

Thankyou soooo much for your offer that is really great. I am unsure if the doctors would allow you to donate to us. I dont have a problem with your age or your 1 ovary (my previous donor had 1 ovary), but they may see it differently - I do know in the donor hand book it states "that the donor should be aged between 21 and 38 years as pregnancy rates decline with age." I will discuss it with my doctor and let you know.

I do hope we can stay in touch though both of us being from Adelaide and all. Not many of the people on this site are from SA, so its nice to have someone even closer by to talk to.

[Jamily]

Hi Sandra

I am unable to help you at the moment but I wanted to let you know that in a few years I would love to help (DH agreeing of course). I am sorry I can't help you now and I hope that by then you won't need my help (I'm sure you won't) but I couldn't not say something.

Wishing you all the luck in the world :hugs:

[Sandra/Paul]

Thank you Clairet, I too hope that I wont need anyones help then. I am really really hoping to start asap. Given the time frame of my last donor cycle, from start to finish (for the donor) was about 2 years by the time all the paperwork and councelling sessions and medicals were done. I dont know if its the same everytime, I hope not.:(

[Sandra/Paul]

Hi everyone,

Goodluck today, hoping someone from SA can reply, just to make things a bit easier - but hoping to hear from anyone that can help. :)

Im still finding out about the different state protocol, as things differ from state to state.

[sarahstarfish]

Sandra

I just can not believe the phenomenal response you are getting in here, wow, and not a few tears from this end I have to say.

Wow hubbub girls, I am just floored...there is lots of info in the other section on 'Egg Donation Issues' if you want to know more about ED.

Sandra, I hope YOUR angel is somewhere, certainly an awful lot of them hovering about isn't there!

Love

Cindy

[Sandra/Paul]

Thanks Cindy,

Yes it is fantastic to get so many responses, the support every one is giving me is just great. I certainly wasnt expecting any of this.

Hopefully my angel will come soon. Meanwhile I will be enjoying my stay on this site and talking with these wonderful people.

[sarahstarfish]

Too true Sanda...and no need to go anywhere once you get that magic news, there are great pregnancy and parenting forums here as well. (Heavens, I should be on the payroll!!!) (payroll - ah, if only we had one! bubhub) ((Yes - I sometimes think the internet forum world would fall over without women like you who always manage to find that 'extra' minute in the day!))

Love

Cindy

[ButterflyKisses]

Hi Sandra/Paul

see my thread "Egg Donor Seminar in Sydney 20 March 2006" which is for donors as well as recipients.

Good luck.

[Sandra/Paul]

Thanks for that Butterfly kisses, but as Im in Adelaide it may be a bit hard to get to that seminar........If you hear of one that may come to Adelaide, please let me know. I think it sounds like a very informative seminar.

Thanks again

[ButterflyKisses]

Hi Sandra & Paul

that's ok. I was hoping that if anyone on the site is able to help you and they live in Sydney that they would attend the seminar to get some more information about it.

when you are next talking to the nurses at IVF (I noticed you were on your last cycle) just ask them will they be conducting a similar seminar.

I just hope that you don't need a donor and that this cycle will be the lucky one for you both. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. :fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed:

[Sandra/Paul]

HI ButterflyKisses,

I'll see if I can find out for Adelaide's seminar and I let everyone know. Hopefully I can find out this week.

[Faithcomesinnumbers]

Can you do this without taking the pill? As you will see by my personal profile I have blood that clots and I know that taking the pill will make it clot more. I would like to help but can only do it if I don't have to take the pill. But I suppose the medical tests will show if I am suitable. We (hubby & I) have offered another couple earlier tonight my eggs.

[Sandra/Paul]

Hi Faith,

Im unsure on that. The best people to ask would be the IVF clinic in your state. As far as I know the recipeint takes the pill in order to syncronize their cycle with the donors. I am unsure if the donor takes the pill.

Good luck with the lucky recipient.

Best wishes for you both

[sarahstarfish]

Hey Natsha (forgive me for butting in Sandra..)

Yes, the donor would usually take the pill to help synchronise cycles however, a few donors have done cycle without the pill and the recipient has lined up her cycle instead. The clotting issue though is definitely something to talk about with the first nurse you get to speak to. And don't forget, there is some good info for donors in the 'Egg Donation Issues' section, particularly on the emotional issues. We also have an eggdonorchat on MSN once a week where lots of donors, old and new get together to talk about everything - PM If you are interested in joining.

Love

Cindy

[mum2cooper]

Hi Sandra and Paul,
Just wanted to wish you luck and ask what this process involves. I am from Adelaide, but unfortunately cant help you as I am preg. at the moment. I think having a baby is a beautiful thing and everyone should get a chance at it, and feel sorry for those who find it a little harder and would love to help them if I had the chance. Goodluck.
Mandy

[ButterflyKisses]

Hey Natsha (forgive me for butting in Sandra..)

Yes, the donor would usually take the pill to help synchronise cycles however, a few donors have done cycle without the pill and the recipient has lined up her cycle instead. The clotting issue though is definitely something to talk about with the first nurse you get to speak to. And don't forget, there is some good info for donors in the 'Egg Donation Issues' section, particularly on the emotional issues. We also have an eggdonorchat on MSN once a week where lots of donors, old and new get together to talk about everything - PM If you are interested in joining.

Love

CindyHi Cindy, sorry for being a sticky beak but have you been through the process or are you contemplating it? just wondering - sorry if I'm being too nosy asking.

[sarahstarfish]

Twice. Keep meaning to post something about the whole procedure - will try within the next few days.

Is a pretty wonderful thing to be a part of BUT also so much else involved after that initial 'Wow, I can help'. We'll get more and more information together for everyone as we go along.

Now, as for you Butterfly Kisses, I think we should appoint you "Chief Cheerleader" - your ongoing messages of support must be lovely for recipients to read.

Love

Cindy

[ButterflyKisses]

Twice. Keep meaning to post something about the whole procedure - will try within the next few days.

Is a pretty wonderful thing to be a part of BUT also so much else involved after that initial 'Wow, I can help'. We'll get more and more information together for everyone as we go along.

Now, as for you Butterfly Kisses, I think we should appoint you "Chief Cheerleader" - your ongoing messages of support must be lovely for recipients to read.

Love

CindyHi Cindy, well part of your web name is right then sarahstarfish because if you've been through it twice for other people you are a "Star".

I just wish that I was able to help but my eggs aren't what they use to be. When I did IVF I only had 7 follicles that responded and out of those only 3 eggs were retrieved and only 1 little embryo survived which is my DS (absolute miracle in my books).

IVF was a breeze for me compared to some other ladies experiences so I count myself very blessed and if I can be the "Chief Cheerleader" with my messages then I'll be honoured to do this because as a miracle mum I know what my life would of been like if it hadn't of worked for me and my DH.

I think every woman and man who earnestly longs for a child deserves that chance and if a donor is the way to go then lets do all we can to help those couples have the joy that we have. The more info that is out there and the more people are educated about it perhaps the more woman will consider donation. Fingerscrossed that is the case. :fingerscrossed:

[Sandra/Paul]

Hi Mandy,

The best place to look at what the process is about is in the Egg Donation Issues section. They have a bit of a write up there about what donors and recipients should expect.

Good luck on your pregnancy. Nice to see someone else from Adelaide here too.

Best Wishes

[sarahstarfish]

Hello Jacinta

I have to disagree with you to a certain extent - it was BECAUSE I decided to do a known donor cycle that I knew exactly what I wanted in my recipients and from when I met them until their BFP was ten weeks. And from that cycle with my eggs they now have a second BFP, hopefully to become a wee brother or sister to the twins...so not necessarily a long wait for everybody, and the huge majority of women are succesful in getting their longed for babes. The rates for successful cycles for egg donor cycles are slightly less than the everyday, normal fertile couple (18% v 20%). I have to say my second cycle was even quicker, again, because I knew exactly what I was looking for - and that one was an interstate cycle. We have interstate cycles down to a fine art on AED!

Sandra, I know you are on AED where we see matches every day, where we see BFPs and every now and then - like last week - a baby! And I have to say that if I was looking for a donor whose genes would make up half of my child's, I would certainly not begrudge the few months it takes for people to get to know each other better if that's the way it pans out.

Love

Cindy

[Roxy]

Chiming in here to agree with Cindy - from the time I said yes to my IP's to EPU was about 12 weeks.

To be honest - apart from donor cycles in WA, I dont know of many that have taken more than about 3-ish months once both parties decide that they are right for each other ....


Also think that your messages of support Butterflykisses are just wonderful - its lovely to have such an advocate in such a new forum!

[sarahstarfish]

Hey Foxy Roxy

I imagine you're going to agree with me here too (!) - was just popping back in to say that I researched egg donation for a good six months before I jumped in and decided to offer to someone....the more I started looking, the more information I found that needed quiet processing. I re-read what I wrote last night - the last thing I want is for new/potential egg donors to think that you come onto a board, fall in like with someone's ad and then jump in and donate all in ten weeks... For me, was a long process of information gathering, talking to lots of other donors, talking with family and friends etc - so please, please get out there and google your wee hearts out, ask any and every question in here because donors like Roxy and myself are popping in and out all the time, as are recipients. If you want to PM me or Roxy as well, we run a support group for egg donors where we don't mince any words and will tell you the good, bad and ugly of it all! And of course the amazing AED (Aussie Egg Donor) group where over 150 recipients and donors gather to talk and discuss and support each other.

I can see you nodding your head there Rox...know you too took a lot of time to find your feet so when you were ready to talk to someone, you had all the information you needed.

Oops, sorry Sandra to jump all over your thread...back to you.

That's all!

Love

Cindy

[Sandra/Paul]

Hi everyone,

My donor cycle lasted approximately 1.5 years from start to finish. We started With all the paper work, councelling, blood tests etc in 2004 and I finally had the blastoscyst transfer in February 2006. And that was with a known donor, who I had known for years. So maybe all the other states are on the ball except for Adelaide.

I must admit I hadnt put in any research in to finding an egg donor as she came to me and offered, pretty soon after our own failed attempt at ICSI. I have however done quite a bit of research since February (Paul thinks Im obsessed with all of this) who knows maybe I am as I am constantly googling on a daily basis. - The down side of being a stay at home mum I guess, too much time on my hands. But anyway I never knew there was so much info on the subject. I guess you dont look when you dont need to.

Just thought Id put my bit in.

[family_wish]

Just my two cents worth...

Providing you find a donor that is already 100% certain that she wants to donate -ie she has researched fully etc...and is intent on being a donor - I believe it is VERY possible to get to EPU in 12 weeks. The timelines my clinic gave me - Monash IVF - were easily accomodated in these 12 weeks. I can't believe it took you so long Sandra with your first donor. How frustrating!!:eek: I am in Vic so I don't know if that makes a difference!!???

I understand that some people take a while to get to know each other but that seems an extraordinarily long time line (1.5 years!!)


Good luck Sandra :hugs:

Meoxoxo

[Sandra/Paul]

Hi, thanks for responding.

It did take an extremely long time and it was with a known donor, It was my best friend from high school. So it wasnt as if we didnt know each other at all. It is all very frustrating. It was mainly the paperwork, bloods side of everything that took so long. But saying that Ive since read somewhere that if you know the donor really well you can waiver some of the councelling, tests etc, I dont know how true that is though.

[sarahstarfish]

Hi Ladies

Great discussion!

Jacinta, not sure what you are saying - regardless of how long I was looking into things, I met my recipients and ten weeks later they had a BFP. Matters not how long I was researching surely, what matters is that both cycles I did, one interstate, were both done within ten weeks. I am just giving the other side of the equation where cycles are done within a relatively short period of time. And heavens, when QFG are quoting anonymous donor list waits of seven years, even six months from start to finish is a pretty amazing timeframe.

As I said, on AED we have some great ideas of how to fasttrack interstate cycle - one of our most recent BFPs (am sure they won't mind me mentioning them both here) was a cycle between Perth and Melbourne and took about four months from meeting to BFP. I think both donors and recipients are becoming more savvy at finding helpful clinics and using them, and assertive about things like counselling and booking back to back appointments. So while I hear what you are saying, and agree that in some cases it can take a long time, the overwhelming majority of recipients are cycling well within six months, and most within five months. As to success rates, I have yet to see anyone on AED not get a donor - everyone gets their girl, and some people like you are extremely fortunate to find four. Can I ask how long it took to find your donors - I think two were AED girls from memory?

Keep it going ladies, is great to hear everyone's opinions. Sandra, perhaps we should take this out of your thread and start somewhere else.

Love

Cindy

[sarahstarfish]

Sandra

No, have never heard of any counselling or tests being waived just because you know your donor - and some would say that counselling might be even more stringent to ensure no coercion is taking place etc.

A year and a half would have to be some record - you must have been beside yourself you poor thing.

Love

Cindy

[sarahstarfish]

Hey Jacinta

Thanks for that - gives others an idea of one journey.

OK ladies, shall we take these discussions elsewhere to the general section so Sandra's thread is freed up so she can start her own journey!

Love

Cindy

[Sandra/Paul]

:thumbsup: Thanks Cindy :)

[xkwzit]

Just to help ppl get to the new thread to discuss ED timelines the link is
http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=15065

Cheers

[Sandra/Paul]

Thankyou:)

[sarahstarfish]

Hey lovely Sandra

How is your search going? Hope all is going well.

Love

Cindy

[Sandra/Paul]

Hi Cindy,

We are doing really well here, we have had quite a few responses. 1 at the moment seems very positive so Im really excited about that. Its the getting to know you game at the moment. Its funny though, we seem to have so much in common. I hope this is the one, we have only been emailing for a couple of days so we will see.

Thanks for your support. I hope all is well with you and your family.

Take care

[alicesmum]

wow! i am really getting into this egg donation idea!!! my husband is actually quite supportive of it too (surprisingly) :)

i am 7 months pregnant atm though, and plan to breastfeed for at least 12 months (hopefully 18 if he is willing!), so cannot donate for another 18 months or more, though it sounds like there is a lot of waiting time and paperwork anyway, so would be happy to get the ball rolling soon. I am only 30 yo so there is not a huge hurry. This is my last planned (well actually it wasn't!) pregnancy. I wanted 3 kids, but DH is ADAMANT he only wants 2, so I figure I might as well do something like this instead!

I would understand that the mother wouldn't want me hanging around much while the child is little, but as Sandra said, i think it would be important to maintain some contact, and i guess i would hope that the child and I might have a relationship of some kind as s/he gets older and/or as a grown up. i would just LOVE to see a woman such as yourself Sandra, and my 39 yo friend who is having trouble, have a child.

anyway, i have an important question...... is it true that as a negative blood type (I am O-), I would only be able to donate to a woman who is also negative and whose sperm donor or partner is also negative???

Rachel :p

[Sandra/Paul]

Hi Rachel,

I think that its great that you want to help someone acheive their dream. Good on you :yelclap: .

As for your question on blood type ... I am unsure on that. There is probably someone who may know the answer to that question, but its not me. Sorry.

Hope all ges well with your pregnancy, good luck. :fingerscrossed:

[provencein3]

Hi cindy

I was going to say I'm old, single, already have a child and on top of that looking for a -ive donor so what are my chances but then read Toni's post and did a google on Asian donors and apparently they are in extremely short supply.

[sarahstarfish]

Oh Kim....at least you've still got that dry sense of humour!!

Love

Cindy

[provencein3]

I hope noone gets offended at me saying old in my forties. Women have always had children in their 40's its just that they used to be #10 and not #2.

Poor Sandra, her posts always get shanghaied

[xkwzit]

Actually I was just thinking, it'd be good to move all these blood type posts to their own thread, so that ppl who are researching can find them more easily - anyone object to that?

Cheers

[sarahstarfish]

Great idea X...will also force us to get some proper answers rather than 'Um, I think..'.

Have started new thread..

http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?p=236213#post236213

Love

Cindy

[jason lovett]

hi i hope you have some luck here finding your egg donor,
it must be so frustrating when you have to advertise when their are willing people out their who will donate eggs and sperm but with the laws they can not leave similar adverts even though these kind people are not looking to gain in anyway financialy except gain in being less selfish and more caring towards others by helping others who need that little help.

[Sandra/Paul]

Thankyou to all of the kind ladies that have replied to my story wishing me luck etc.

I am proud to announce that at the moment I have just started cycling with my previous donor and if all goes well EPU and the transfer will be in the week starting 7th August. As this is the case I am closing this thread.

Thankyou again to all that have offered support.