Is there anyone you dont want to tell?

[Milk_Monkey]

This may seem like a strange question. and i know not everyone is telling people yet as they arent throught the first 12 weeks.
But is there anyone who you are dreading finding out about your pregnancy?

[M~T~J~M]

I was dreading telling my Dad. When we told him about DS1, he was excited. When we told him about DS2, his repsonse was "is this some sort of way to get you two back on track" (as we were seperated at the time). When we told him about DS3, he didn't utter a single word.

So, as you can imagine, I really wasn't looking forward to telling him about this one. I tried to hold off as long as I could, but seeing as though this is bub no. 4, and my tummy has decided to pop out there, I felt I had to tell him before we bumped into him down the street, iykwim?
When told him about this one, I was asked repeatedly "was I serious". He then went on to say "What do you want 4 children for?", etc, etc. Let me tell you, I couldn't get out of there fast enough!

[sk6]

Absolutely, DO NOT want to tel my MIL, why;

1. Even though we will ask her not to tell other family members, I know she will, just to "steal our thunder" so she can be the centre of attention.
2. Once we have told her I will have to put up with comments re she wants a boy to carry on the family name. She did this all through my last pregnancy, if she doe it this time I going to put her in her place. A normal grandmother would simply hope for a healthy baby, regardless of sex.

BTW, any ideas how I can let other family members on DH side know before I tell the MIL, without rocking the boat too much?

[mandiii20]

Well I really didnt want to tell my MIL and FIL. My DP and I werent going to to tell them till I was past the "safe period" but DP and FIL were down the pub one night having a few drinks and FIL said something to **** DP off so he said "how about this for news! Amanda's having a baby!" :eek: Did not go down well at all!!

[supermumof3]

sk6 have a bbq or a xmas party invite them all then tell them all at once at least then she cant beat u to it

[Lastcenturymum]

Sorry to pop into your thread, but sk6 if you have pics of your scan, mail them out to them with a 'guess what' letter!

MY BIL and SIL got married with just immediate family (like 5 people, not even us) and the next day mailed out a card with a nice pic they had taken previously of them saying Mr and Mrs. ***** married 1st day of Spring 2000 or whatever it was and took off on their honeymoon! He had been married before so they didn't want a fussy wedding. When their son arrived 8 months later, they waited till he was about 6 months old and had a baptism for him and a confirming their vows...sorry I digress but it did involve a pregnancy and a good way to annouce news to a family!

[Milk_Monkey]

sk6 have a bbq or a xmas party invite them all then tell them all at once at least then she cant beat u to it

[QUOTE=Lastcenturymum;2157171]Sorry to pop into your thread, but sk6 if you have pics of your scan, mail them out to them with a 'guess what' letter!
QUOTE]

i think they are both GREAT ideas!! Esp the BBQ, because then your MIL may be less likely to make a scene if she is upset that she didnt know first.

[mumofsamuel]

I feel wierd telling ANYONE that I am pregnant. From years and years of being told to wait until I am 30 for EVERYTHING (marriage, kids, etc), I felt wierd telling my parents. I will be 28 yrs old this month, have been married for 4 yrs in March but I still felt like I was 15 yrs old and was going to get my butt kicked! Of course everyone was happy but I think I still feel like I'm a teenager sometimes and maybe just forget I am nowhere NEAR a teenager anymore.

Does anyone else feel wierd saying the words "I am pregnant"?

[Milk_Monkey]

it depends on who you are telling i guess doesnt it, if it feels weird or not. Often its easier telling virtual strangers.

I told the person i didnt want to tell today. But it wasnt face to face so it wasnt too bad. But i did get the reaction i thought i would.
She seemed to think that she'd already guessed, which i knew she would say weather she had or not.

She's not really a close friend, but she makes out to other people that she is - i guess she feels that way. So i just dont like the fact that she'll be talking to others as though she knows all about it.

[talavoumama]

Heck yes I feel weird saying it!

When I was ttc I imagined myself gushing to everyone once I found out and DH certainly has been from the day we found out however I'm finding it similar to when I first got married and had trouble referring to him as my husband, it was more like h-h-h-husband.

I think I'm a bit nervous about telling some people as I have been working towards going to med school next year. Conceiving took longer than expected so I decided to go ahead with that plan and put ttc on hold until at least after my first year. Then...of course I got a slightly unexpected (but very welcome) :bfp:!!!

So I had a lot of people, like family and friends totally supportive of my study plans and now I'm all like surprise! It only means these plans go on hold for two years, but I feel a little bit like they may think I'll just never go back to school now. Although it is kinda silly as everyone has reacted with major enthusiasm...still getting used to it though.

Sorry to go on guys!

[DeeJay]

Yeah, I feel really wierd telling people too.

We have decided to tell everyone at the family xmas doo, but now I am having second thoughts about such an announcement in front of everyone.:o

I think I would rather tell someone who I know will just tell everyone, then everyone can come up to me and say "congratulations, I hear your pregnant"! :tongue:

[mumofsamuel]

Deejay - if you have friends and family like mine and you do it that way, you will have many people upset that you didn't tell them. Tell the people that matter to you in your life and then take it from there.

MilkMonkey - I think we ALL have friends like that one! Give her some wrong information or vaguely let her believe something incorrect and have fun telling friends you have no idea where she got that from! I am EVIL!!!

[Milk_Monkey]

MilkMonkey - I think we ALL have friends like that one! Give her some wrong information or vaguely let her believe something incorrect and have fun telling friends you have no idea where she got that from! I am EVIL!!!

:laughing: I've actually done that before with a different topic! Great minds think alike hey Noosa mum!

i'm actually glad she knows now, cause i dont have to make a consious effort to keep one eye over my shoulder if im discussing it with someone else.