EskimoMumma
06-03-2006, 08:38
Ok this is the first time starting a new thread so i really hope ive put it in the right spot..
I am in some desperate need of some advice..i dont want to sound like a b***h but i cannot stand my son's stepmother! She is so immature and arrogant and grr!:banghead: :banghead:
For my sons sake if i ever do see her i will be civil and nice but i will tell you somethings about her..(if shes reading..now you know!)
I have no judgements for young mothers, i am one myself, 2 and 21yrs old..shes..3 and barely 21 :S (and all are VERY difficult pregnancies)
Her and Alex's father are always sleeping in till about 10-11am, and they have a 3 year old son, a 7 month old daughter, my son as well and she is 6 months pregnant.. i find that REALLY hard to beleive, ive got the two and i can barely sleep int ill 7!!
I also dont think they are supervising very well. Alex is always coming to my house with bumps and bruises and scratches..i know a few , yea you cant control! But i mean we are talking about 10 bruises all u[p and absolutely covered in what appears to be mozzie bites , he is also telling me about how he got in trouble that day and what his father had done (, pulled his hair, smacked his hands and sat him down on the tiles, and of course my favourite, yelled and screamed at him). Also their daughter , she and alex were having breakfast outside on the front porch, mother was asleep, obviously, and father was in getting breakfast, my son was saying how she was kicking him or something and then wham bam the baby falls out of the high chair (NOT strapped in) rolls down the few stairs and grazes her head very badly (like the size of a kettle bottom) and they just give her some panadol and put her to sleep:shame:
I have spoken to alex's father in regards to this like how are you going to cope with another child, its pretty obvious you guys are struggling now and he reassures me its all fine when in reality it isnt, but i dont want it to seem like im taking the word of a 4 year old over him, but then again my son has never ever lied, i didnt raise him like that.
Speaking of lieing. when alex was in kindsergarten room(before moving to preschool) his stepmother advised me that they have been having problems with alex being very aggressive and pushing and shoving other children and picking on her son (which is b*******, ive seen how her son is and hes trhe devil) well i spoke to the kindgarten and they advised me that it just wasnt so! they even showed me his reports that they do and he has always been very kind and helpful and generous! never even shown any signs of violence or aggression, so that was odd..
Basically i really awnt ot know with what i should do. We share custody of our son 60/40 percent , i do want more time with him but i know my son is use to the shared arrangement and i dont want to disrupt him but how should i talk to him? Should i really confront him or just sit back and let it happen?!?! It really p***** me off!:banghead: i feel so helpless and i hate it.
I am in some desperate need of some advice..i dont want to sound like a b***h but i cannot stand my son's stepmother! She is so immature and arrogant and grr!:banghead: :banghead:
For my sons sake if i ever do see her i will be civil and nice but i will tell you somethings about her..(if shes reading..now you know!)
I have no judgements for young mothers, i am one myself, 2 and 21yrs old..shes..3 and barely 21 :S (and all are VERY difficult pregnancies)
Her and Alex's father are always sleeping in till about 10-11am, and they have a 3 year old son, a 7 month old daughter, my son as well and she is 6 months pregnant.. i find that REALLY hard to beleive, ive got the two and i can barely sleep int ill 7!!
I also dont think they are supervising very well. Alex is always coming to my house with bumps and bruises and scratches..i know a few , yea you cant control! But i mean we are talking about 10 bruises all u[p and absolutely covered in what appears to be mozzie bites , he is also telling me about how he got in trouble that day and what his father had done (, pulled his hair, smacked his hands and sat him down on the tiles, and of course my favourite, yelled and screamed at him). Also their daughter , she and alex were having breakfast outside on the front porch, mother was asleep, obviously, and father was in getting breakfast, my son was saying how she was kicking him or something and then wham bam the baby falls out of the high chair (NOT strapped in) rolls down the few stairs and grazes her head very badly (like the size of a kettle bottom) and they just give her some panadol and put her to sleep:shame:
I have spoken to alex's father in regards to this like how are you going to cope with another child, its pretty obvious you guys are struggling now and he reassures me its all fine when in reality it isnt, but i dont want it to seem like im taking the word of a 4 year old over him, but then again my son has never ever lied, i didnt raise him like that.
Speaking of lieing. when alex was in kindsergarten room(before moving to preschool) his stepmother advised me that they have been having problems with alex being very aggressive and pushing and shoving other children and picking on her son (which is b*******, ive seen how her son is and hes trhe devil) well i spoke to the kindgarten and they advised me that it just wasnt so! they even showed me his reports that they do and he has always been very kind and helpful and generous! never even shown any signs of violence or aggression, so that was odd..
Basically i really awnt ot know with what i should do. We share custody of our son 60/40 percent , i do want more time with him but i know my son is use to the shared arrangement and i dont want to disrupt him but how should i talk to him? Should i really confront him or just sit back and let it happen?!?! It really p***** me off!:banghead: i feel so helpless and i hate it.