2yr old waking from 3am til 5am

[b&bsmummy]

My 2 yr old daughter is driving me in sane. She has just started waking up from 3am and wont go back to sleep on her own till around 5am. During this time, she cries and just repeatedly calls "mummy, mummy". she is making up every excuse under the sun, like, "i need my nappy changed", "Im sick".....she is even making herself dry reach for my attention, just so I will come into her... she is a child that won't stop crying. I could leave her in there for 2 hours solid and she wouldnt stop.

I usually go in her room and try to settle her, quickly, she stops for about 1 minute, usually as I am getting comfortable back in my bed, she starts again. I am really getting tired and loosing my patience.

Also it is starting to cause problems with my husband, because he has to get up early to work the next day.

If my husband tries to help me and go into her room, she won't let him in the room, she screams at him and throws a huge tantrum....its so frustrating.

Once I tried to put her in my bed, that was great, straight to sleep, but i had no room to sleep and she then expected every night when she woke up to come to my bed, it took me 3 weeks to break the pattern....

someone please help......have you had a similiar situation.. I need advice....

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[SilverStarfish]

Oh dear :hugs: you poor thing. I hope it's just a phase and it passes quickly.

[SEA]

I don't really have any advice but our 22 month old was doing the same plus she sleeps late, the only difference is she co-sleeps with us, in her cot in our room. She started waking up when we had the new baby and we figured out she was feeling either left out or just missing her mummy, so everytime she woke up we bring her to our bed and when she falls back to sleep we put her back in her cot again. She has improved somewhat over the past 2 weeks, she doesn;t wake up every night now, I think she must be getting used to the new baby. I try to give her as much attention as possible during the day (a bit hard with a new baby) and when her dad gets home she gets 100% attention from him.
So :fingerscrossed:, hope mine and yours will go back to their normal sleeping pattern.

[MissEdwards]

Im so having the same problem with my DS! at 3am he will wake screaming and i will give him his bottle n normally would go back to sleep but now we are expecting our 2nd child in just over 3 weeks and his expecting to be in our bed every night when he wakes. I cant keep this going as his been kicking my belly and lower back. Esp cuz at the moment im in early labour and not sure if it is just that he knows the baby is coming at any moment! We give him plenty of attention during the day and i try to take him with me wherever i go. But its just getting harder as im starting to really lose my patience with him as im only having about 3hrs sleep.
The other night i let him scream for 45mins but i couldnt stand it anymore and told my DP to bring him into bed as i was so exhausted from hearing him cry and scream.

Please help if anyone can!

Thanks Silla

[b&bsmummy]

thanks for your replies.

things asre a bit better at the moment, still waking but is going back to sleep.

I spoke to a child pyschologist and she helped me. I need to let her cry, as long as it takes. I can go in, and softly say, go to sleep and leave immediately. It works... no giving in to them because they will keep doing it.....:wave:

[reAllytee]

Ummmmm i dunno if i would be willing to follow that advice because it may mean when she is sick at another time she wont call for you as she thinks you will ignore her. But thats me.

We just let DS1 come into our bed its a drama with DP's spinal injury but heck he needs the comfort & needs his mum so he gets that comfort.

Kids go through stages of being scared etc being alone & also having terrors as well as nightmares at this age. DS1 often says something is scary when he comes in at 3am so i would never let him cry or scream especially when he is scared.

[KapowSchazam]

I've been having similar probs with my 17month old for about 2.5months now, but her time is from about 12-2am. It's been most nights (maybe 80% of the week) and as she goes to sleep by herself, and refuses to let me help her with cuddles, pats etc and simply won't go to sleep in my bed (but I get heaps of kisses!) I've just had to leave her in her room and just call out to her to comfort her if she starts crying. She doesn't cry most of the time, she just kinda mutters to herself or her dolls, or teddy, or the bed....

I'm thinking that it's because of the heat. Her bedroom is pretty stuffy at night, especially since the blind and curtains are closed at 6ish when she goes to bed, so it's still hot at that time, with the blind blocking the cool breeze later on at night. I found that opening the blind and curtains back up once it's dark and letting the breeze in has reduced it a lot, also leaving a pedestal fan blowing all night :rolleyes:

[Issey]

my advice would be to let your DD cry it out, (yes i realise there are people against this but for sanity sometimes it is the only thing that works) maybe it will take a few nights for her to realise you are not going to go to her. tell her firmly that she is a big girl and can stay in her bed with teddy. once she realises she isn't getting a reaction she should hopefully stop as she knows you will eventually give in.

also if she is scared as someone suggested you could try giving her one of those egglites that you buy from Big W that she can hold in her hands and it changes colour, her special light.

my DS wakes up at 5am everyday :hair: and will not go back to sleep. sometimes he wakes at 4am and i give him a bottle (even tho i want to stop this habbit) and tell him it is night time he must go into his bed. he often crys etc (only a few min now as he knows) but i am firm and he will stay in his bed, if it is 5am tho i have no chance of getting him to sleep longer, doens't matter that he goes to sleep at 7pm if i keep him up later makes no difference.

[Komine05]

:sleeping:I cant give you any advice, coz my 26mth old DH1 is still going through that!! All i can say is that if she is your first baby - they tend to be sensitive alot and with my son, he is over sensitive all the time - especially when it me with no more patience anymore.

My #2 son and my first born are just 13mths different and they are 2 different baby all up.
#2, he usual go to sleep himself and sleep through.
my #1 son - I will always have to be sleeping next to him in the room, its no that he would fall alseep when i am there! he tossed and turn ova and ova - this usually goes on for like 2 hrs, if he drinks coke or anything with caffine- its even more tossed and turn for longer. The fact that if i get out of the room, there will be tantrum and cry and cry for a very long time and dont know how to stop.

My partner and I usually get into arguments that would turns into like cats and dogs because of this situation.

it is very hard those moments, I get very angry and so tired as, i have things to do around the house 24/7, while i still have to be in the room while he tossed and turn, for myself i do end up sleeping or have dream after dream when i am with him that i get so angry! most night end up being with him sleeping after a cried and both of us would be like enemies in the morning. Or sometimes at 12 -1 am when this situation i cannot bare anymore, my husband usually and with a force take him for a drive. HE most night do fall alseep by this. ( I know that this is not a great habit) there is No other choices i have try everything and i Mean EVERYTHING!!!
to be totally honest - he been a bad sleeper from the day he was born and i thinks that he is going to contiuned this.

I really do know how you feel, but remembered that sometimes it just who they are, plus my husband is believe to be exactly the same when he was this age - as my MIL say to me.

[Mellymoo]

You poor thing, you must be so tired !:sleeping:

I had a similar situation with DD#1 a few years back. So instead of continously going in there all the time, we were lucky we had a spare bedroom right opposite hers. So I slept in there and left her door open and mine. When she started crying out for me, I would just say "It's okay, mummy's here, go back to sleep". I would just keep saying that over and over again, and she eventually went back to sleep. it didn;t take long, just so she knew I was there. It took maybe half an hour each night for a week, and then it tapered off to eventually not needing to do it at all.

The other option is to buy a baby monitor and put the receiver in her room, so when she starts crying out for you, you can talk into the other bit (not sure what it's called!!) and then she can hear your voice on the baby monitor talking to her. At least that way you can talk into it from anywhere in the house.

I hope this gets sorted out soon. Good luck !!