do you use a dummy?

[lizzymcfizzy]

we've just started a weak version of CC, I'm soft and so far have ended up patting her to sleep but I intend to try and go the distance and get her to sleep on her own.

I can't bear to take her dummy away from her but she spits it out the whole time she's trying to settle. When she gets me to pat her to sleep she has to have her dummy. When I rocked her to sleep she had to have it too. She's also a refluxer so I think it helps ther too.

Just wondering if you use a dummy or have gotten rid of it as it is a "sleep aid" and I'm told babies might need mummy to put it back in in the middle of the night. Mine doesn't, she just spits it out when she's finished with it and does fine for the rest of the night.

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[georgiesmum]

we've just started a weak version of CC, I'm soft and so far have ended up patting her to sleep but I intend to try and go the distance and get her to sleep on her own.

I can't bear to take her dummy away from her but she spits it out the whole time she's trying to settle. When she gets me to pat her to sleep she has to have her dummy. When I rocked her to sleep she had to have it too. She's also a refluxer so I think it helps ther too.

Just wondering if you use a dummy or have gotten rid of it as it is a "sleep aid" and I'm told babies might need mummy to put it back in in the middle of the night. Mine doesn't, she just spits it out when she's finished with it and does fine for the rest of the night.

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Hi there,
My little one had a dummy for the first 6 weeks and as a result had terrible sleep problems. The thing with dummies is that if a baby uses it to go to sleep they will wake up after their first sleep cycle and expect the dummy to be there. When it isn't there they will cry and often wake up too much to go back to sleep. Their first sleep cycle is usually around 40 minutes. If you notice that your little one wakes up after about this much time during the day then you might need to think about throwing the dummy away.

I went cold turkey and threw her dummies out one morning - it was a horrible day that day and she cried a lot but the next day and ever since she has been fine. It was the bes thing I've ever done!!!

[newmumanderson]

Hi Georgiesmum
How did you go about getting rid of the dummy and settling your baby? Did you comfort them, then walk out etc? Trying to work out if I should do it.

Here is some details, any advice would be appreciated. My daughter is 12 week sold and when going to sleep requires the dummy for settling. During the day I do not mind this (she normally wakes after 45min and I go and pop the dummy back in and she re-settles), but at night it is a different story. She gets put down at 7pm with the dummy and settles herself and sleeps really well. We then give her a dreamfeed at 10.30pm and she goes down without the dummy and then she has been waking at approx 3.30am, in which I go in and put the dummy back in (as I know she isn't hungry) and she settles again but only for 45 minutes and then I am back in there again until about 6-6.30 when she requires a feed.

[SalTheGal]

Hi, we did a modified version on CC and got rid of the dummy at the same time. THe dummy ended up causing more problems than it solved so we did it all at once.

I will PM you my instructions on what we did!

[metalhead713]

:geek:Im having simular troubles with my almost 5 month old dd at the moment, she used to have a dummy ALL the time, but now she doesnt care too much for it at all during the day.. except for sleeps and bedtime. She doesnt wake up too much, she sleeps from about 8pm - 7am, with a wake up or 2 around 10pm (looking for dummy:hair:) then at around 5am (looking for dummy:hair:) I just dont know if i should take it away or not.. because other than that there isnt much problem, I think the wakeups might have alot to do with her just getting older also and more aware of her surroundings..
im hoping if i dont take the dummy away she leaqrns to re-plug herself LOL shes learnt a new trick where she can take her dummy out and look at it, but %50 of the time she cant put it back in.

[toni796]

shes learnt a new trick where she can take her dummy out and look at it, but %50 of the time she cant put it back in.

lol That is what DS2 is doing at the moment as well and gets really frustrated at himself when he can't get it back in his mouth.

[metalhead713]

lol That is what DS2 is doing at the moment as well and gets really frustrated at himself when he can't get it back in his mouth.
LOL yeah its anoying isnt it. Often at sleeps i have to put socks over her hands so she cant take it out :hair:

[nayasmum]

my dd has had a dummy since birth!! she is now 15months! i dont think theres anything wrong with using a dummy its better than them sucking their thumb! you can take a dummy away but you cant take their thumb away!

[metalhead713]

my dd has had a dummy since birth!! she is now 15months! i dont think theres anything wrong with using a dummy its better than them sucking their thumb! you can take a dummy away but you cant take their thumb away!
yes but the issue is that when they wake up and want to suck a thumb, its there and they dont need mum or dad to come in and give it to them. If they loose their dummy theres the issue of them crying cause they cant find it. and waking themselves up.

[Natalie77]

I used the dummy for my daughter for about the first three months or so until one day she found her thumb and now uses that to settle herself. I have used control crying also but only after she found her thumb and can put that in herself.

[tiptoes]

My 15 month old has sucked her thumb since birth (actually she was sucking her thumb in the last ultrasound I had at around 30 weeks). I don't see any problem with it...why would I want to stop her doing something that soothes her sleep? :confused: I only ever wrapped her with one arm in so she was able to self-soothe. She started sleeping 12 hr nights since 3 months old, so I'm quite happy.

Lizzy - I know from my mums group that some babies start off needing a dummy but after a short time are able to self-settle without it. Maybe just take it away after she spits it and goes to sleep, and on occasion just try her without it and see what happens.

[lizzymcfizzy]

thanks guys. She is still wrapped with both arms so maybe I will leave one arm out and give her a cuddle blanket or something because at the moment she snuggles up to my hand while I pat her bum.