RE: Can my 9 weeker drop the 3am feed?

[SJE]

Hi all

I have a 9 almost 10 week old bubs.

Every bubs is different and I will just live with it if I have to but I was wondering if anyone had any wisdom for dropping the night feed.

Her last feed is at 9pm. The next one is at 3am and then at 8am. Though if we are having a bad night she will wake me at 5 am but I manage to resettle her.

Some bubs are able to drop the 3am feed. Any suggestions how to do this?

The headaches from the broken sleep are getting a bit much.

[brooke]

Hi Breeannasmum...

There is no real way to "drop" a night feed! She will continue to wake for a night feed until SHE is ready to drop it... Bubs only have small tummies and thats a long time to go with out dinner for them... she is still very young...


If the broken sleep if affecting you can your partner not take over the night feeds? DH did the night feeds from day 1! Paige sleeps thru a lot of the time but still occasionally wakes for a 2.30am feed... she is really easy to re settle which is good...

Good luck and I hope that you find something that works for all 3 of you...
BTW She is so adorable! :D

[Ffrenchknickers]

I agree, she is too little to be expected to drop a feed:) Their tummies are so little as Brooke said and she probably also just needs to knnow you are there in the middle of the night:) This really wont last forever (although sometimes it feel like it....) I would suggest just bringing her into bed with you and letting her feed and sleep there until the morning so your sleep isnt so broken. Also, try to get at least one nap during the day when she does.

Good luck and take care:)

[rynosmum]

I agree, she is still very young. DS dropped his night feed at around 16 weeks I recall.

Oddly enough, I now kinda miss those quiet times at 1am, just myself and my beautiful little boy. He's almost 2 now and so grown up, the last thing he wants is a long cuddle on the couch :rolleyes:

[JorBai]

I know it seems like this is the rest of your life 3am feeds!!!

I thought that too! However 1 night maybe not that far away you will wake in the morning and realise you havent been up!

If your bottle feeding then maybe try giving extra during the day and last thing at night. My bub has 6 feeds. I feed him at 6am, 9am, 12pm, 3pm, 6pm and then he goes down for the night but i give him a dream feed at around 9pm and he wakes around 530-6am the next morning.

All bubs are different so good luck and hope you manage to catch up on sleep :sleeping: soon!

By memory my bub was around 10 weeks when he started sleeping through! PM me and let me know. Would love to hear when bub sleeps through!

[PinkBinkie]

Hi Breeanna's Mum

My baby girl Lucy started sleeping through about 12 weeks. She has always been bottle fed. Would go to sleep after a bottle at 9am and wake about 6am. One night I just decided to give it a try, see if she could sleep through. She woke at her usual time, about 2am I think!, had a little cry and went back to sleep. I didn't even go in to her.

Like you said, all bubs are different. Just do what works best for you and bub. When you are in the moment time seems to go so slow but once they are sleeping through time flies. I can't believe Lucy is 9 mths! And sometimes I to miss the quiet cuddles in the middle of the night , I never thought I'd say that! So try to remember the sleep deprivation isn't forever, well not until their teenagers I guess!

Good luck and good sleeping

Jodi

[veve]

If your bottle feeding then maybe try giving extra during the day and last thing at night. My bub has 6 feeds. I feed him at 6am, 9am, 12pm, 3pm, 6pm and then he goes down for the night but i give him a dream feed at around 9pm and he wakes around 530-6am the next morning.
All bubs are different so good luck and hope you manage to catch up on sleep :sleeping: soon!

wow!! all bubs are certainly different!! (it is INSANE to compare them!!!) Jack is only fed 4 times a day ... 250mls a time.. (about) .. his last feed is at 6pmish ... and he wakes at 6am for the next one..

Breeannasmum- she will drop the feed when she is ready - you will freak out one morning when you realise that you and bubs have slept through :) then the next night she will need it again ... until she settles into a different routine...

Jack was only about 5 weeks when he started to sleep through- really early - and I was a bit thrown by it!.... my nephews were WAYYYYY later... Jack just takes after his father and sleeps as much as humanly possible LOL .. :laughing:

good luck - and remember to have MANY power naps during the day - ALWAYS nap before the housework.. ignore the mess... sleep on top of it :D
xxx

[SJE]

Wow I think this is all I can say

There is such variation between babies routines.

Perhaps I will have to have a go at that dream feed for the next couple of nights and see how that goes.

My bubs takes between 90 and 140ml between each feed. Any more than this and she turns into a milk spewing machine aimimg for curtains, lounge, carpet and mum.:eek:

Wow 250mls I think I would be getting shares in Sanitarium. He'll need 10 weetbix for breakfast.:laughing:

I really appreciate you all responding. I feel like a fish out of water being a first time mum.

Any minute now there will be a knock at the front door and it will be Breeanna's real perfect mum who knows exactly what she wants, keeps the house perfect, her hubbie happy, has gained her pre baby figure and leaps out of bed full of energy every morning.

[reAllytee]

Any minute now there will be a knock at the front door and it will be Breeanna's real perfect mum who knows exactly what she wants, keeps the house perfect, her hubbie happy, has gained her pre baby figure and leaps out of bed full of energy every morning.

We have all felt like this dont worry :hugs:
Its very hard when its your first bubs as you basically have no idea what your doing !
They send you home with this gorgeous thing but your like " Ummm sorry what do i do now ???? " :o
It will all come good just go with what works for bubs & you.
Thats the best advice i can give you !
Stick with what makes you both happy & this will work absolute wonders !
Good luck :hugs:

[brooke]

Any minute now there will be a knock at the front door and it will be Breeanna's real perfect mum who knows exactly what she wants, keeps the house perfect, her hubbie happy, has gained her pre baby figure and leaps out of bed full of energy every morning.

Breeannasmum- Dont worry we all have felt like this... And I dont know any woman who is actually like that and if they are they are a super mum that all I can say! You are Breeannasmum and you are her "perfect mum"! You are prefect and special and wonderful to her! She couldnt live with out you! Just remember that! Ypu are doing a great job dont worry! :hugs: :thumbsup:

[Ffrenchknickers]

Lovely, Brooke and Ally!:kiss:

[veve]

awwww allyoo and brooke have summed it up perfectly - you ARE the perfect mum for your bubs!!!

- in reference to the clean house... I"m hoping to have it tidy by the time Jack goes to college!!! dont sweat the mess.. and if anyone comments- just hand them a broom!!!

:hugs:

[reAllytee]

- in reference to the clean house... I"m hoping to have it tidy by the time Jack goes to college!!! dont sweat the mess.. and if anyone comments- just hand them a broom!!!

:hugs:

Hahahahah id just be happy to have it tidy for an hour :rolleyes: :p

Oh yes & if anyone comments dont have them back again :p

[Pommy Mummy]

Hi Breeannasmum;
I love your avatar she is gorgeous. You'll find that she will start to drop feeds when she's ready. I thought I'd let you know that I tried the dream feed for a while but I found it made my little one wake even more. There is a bit of a pattern I think to which feeds babies drops and I think the 9pm one is one of the first to go. I found a good way to encourage a baby to sleep through is to have a bedtime routine and treat all the feeds between say 7pm and 7am as night feeds which means no playing etc and you don't necessarily have to change her nappy because if she slept through she would need it changing. You probably knew all that already but I thought I'd mention it anyway, just in case.
It does get easier but for now the sleep deprivation is a nightmare I found I was unable to sleep at all as I was constantly listening out for my DS to wake in case I didn't hear him while I was asleep - I was barking mad!

[kuz78au]

Hi Breeannasmum,
Awwww ((((HUGS)))) :hugs: It's soooo hard with the night feeds. I'm still feeding my boy through the night and I'm so sleep deprived it aint funny! Even if he does sleep through (from 8pm-5am), he is such a noisy sleeper and I'm so used to waking up in the night, I end up waking up from about 1-2am and pretty much can't sleep well after that. He is a very noisy sleeper too!

Have you tried feeding her more regularly during the day? Like 2 or 3 hours on the dot? Also do you have a routine for the night feed? Other than that, I don't have anymore suggestions, sorry!

Just remember it's only temporary, they will sleep through when they are ready I'm sure. You know the fact that she is sleeping from 8/3/8 is fantastic! Don't be too hard on yourself, you are doing a great job. No one is perfect, we are all stumbling our way through this madness called motherhood! It aint easy! You are a great mum, don't ever doubt that EVER! (((HUGS))) :p

[SJE]

Hi All

I just wanted to let you all know my bubby slept through the night.

I am just so excited about it:smiliedance: :smiliedance: :smiliedance:

Last feed was at 9pm last night and the next was 7:30am this morning.

She grunted a few times but I just prayed please don't cry for a feed and she didn't. I did have to check her at 5:30am because I thought there was something wrong but she was fine.

All I have to do now is train myself to sleep through. I am so used to waking.



Thankyou all for your kind words and encouragement.

You are all a bunch of very nice and special people.

Hugs for all:hugs: