Eating/ gym/ body image

[amyt878]

I just wanted to know if there is anyone else out there like me.
I have always been self conscious. I am 173cm and 70kg. I am athletic and I am in no way fat.
However, I look at myself in the mirror at the gym and just see a big girl, even though I am not "big", other times I see "thin". Why do I bounce from being fat to thin in a couple days?
I eat fairly healthy, but, at times I may eat a half block of chocolate or 2 donuts. (these are when I am pre menstrual). I will torture myself about it. I will tell myself I am a loser and have no control and re-adjust my gym routine so it is stricter. I go 5 times a week, sometimes 6.
I am just wondering if it is a sense of loss of control that leads me to feel this way?
I believe that if you eat healthy, then it is OK occasionally to have 2 donuts or whatever, I DO know this, but at the same time I hate myself in the mirror.
I wish I was just able to love myself.

[Mamalicious]

I don't really have much advice, just thought I'd let you know you're not alone :hugs:

I see the same thing when I look in the mirror, and I also go to the gym 5-6 days a week.

Have you thought about talking to someone?

[mazzie]

I am 170cm tall and weigh about 71kg atm. I look in the mirror and HATE my body shape. I don't go to the gym (I used to) and I dream about going for big walks and runs but I never seem to get off the couch :(

*Big Hugs* I feel the same.

[Ashleigh<3]

:hugs:

Big hugs Amy, I know it's something we need to accept on our own at our own pace, but if it's any consolation, I've seen pictures of you and I immediately thought, wow! She is very beautiful. (not in some obsessed-crazed-stalker type of way!).
:laughing:
You look very fit and healthy, you're a beautiful woman!

It's so hard for us to feel comfortable in our own skin. We are constantly running into other people and we do look at them and admire their beauty and we do think back to when we ever admired ourselves, then we start, self-evaluating ourselves. It's very normal but it can be aided.

I was comfortable for a time but then something happened and I just lost my comfort and I started to become very self-conscious. (Still working on it).
It made me realise that no matter how much people may say we look alright, it cannot make us really, truly, deeply feel alright.

I know a hubber was seeing a hypnotist specialist for a while and they really helped her accept herself for not only who she is on the inside but her outer self too. I love seeing her appreciate herself. She is too wonderful not to.

Wishing you all the best Amy. :hugs:

[amyt878]

Thanks Ashleigh, I have learned that it was not so much the outside, I was not happy in life and I did not know where to direct it, so I just didn't like myself.
I now am trying to accept myself and I am never going to be a size 6-8. I am 173cm and athletic, not rail thin.
Who said skinny is more beautiful, healthy is beautiful.
This is exactly why I am studying this year to be a counsellor, I want to tell other's the message I have learned. It has taken me a long time and is a work in progress.
I struggle with compliments, but I am trying...
:)

[Chookie84]

I have a fair idea how you feel, I am about 5 ft 2 and weigh 60kg, before I had my ds I was 55kg, also I know I am not fat and in the past I never had to watch my weight or what I ate and I never excersised like going to the gym, I use to ride race horses everyday so that was all the excersise I needed.
Even after 3 years of having my son I held my figure really well, went back to my original size 2 weeks after giving birth but after Christmas 2007 I noticed that I stacked on a bit of weight.


It can be depressing when your body changes, I too can look in the mirror different days and sometimes look thin, sometimes look pudgy but I think that has allot to do with what clothes you wear, if you shop right and buy clothes that compliment your figure rather than make you look bigger you'll look great all the time.
When I go shopping for clothes it can take me hours before I have finally decided and I am happy with 1 top!!!!
Then trying to find bottoms to match and look good is twice as hard hehe. For me I find that mostly V neck tops make me look slimmer than a full neck top does, and bottoms well thats tough depending on your shape, I have trouble finding pants or shorts that fit around my bottom as it does stick out a bit and is quite rounded so thats frustrating :banghead:

After last christmas I have gone right through my wardrobe and have thrown out so many clothes that I dont wear because they just dont look good on me and dont fit me anymore, then it gives you a great excuse to go out and splurge on lovely new outfits hehe.
Alternatively if your on a budget, try selling your old clothes on ebay or have a garage sale and use that money to buy new ones, hmmm probably way off topic now and may not even be the problem but just an idea! :ecomcity:

Hope everything gets better for you!!