Are they all the same??

[Smurfette]

My dh is great with Olivia. The only problem is, he only likes to do the fun stuff. Olivia has been a really bad sleeper for about 3 months now, so I'm constantly getting up throughout the night. My dh very rarely gets up and when he does, he complains how tired he is the next day. How does he think I feel? I usually just prefer to do it myself otherwise I get huffs and puffs throughout the night and complaints the next day.
Is anyone else in the same situation. I would just love for him to really appreciate how tired and frustrated I get and to help me out sometimes without complaining.

[samuelboy]

Hmm, same problem here. When I was breastfeeding it wasn't so bad as obviously I didn't have a choice but once we switched to bottle it was still me that got up at all hours. And yes, on the very odd occasion he did venture in there, which was usually after I had tried numerous times to settle bub with no success, he would be exhausted the next day and I would hear about it.

They think one night is hard, they don't realise how hard it is to do it night after night on end. Men!!

[kyeaj]

I do MOST things for our ds! My dp admits this though and always tells me what a great job I'm doing (only because he feels guilty I figure). I usually say that he doesn't need to tell me I'm doing a great job because I know this by how good my ds is :laughing:

He even brings him in to me to tell me that he's done a poo!!! This morning I was doing the dishes and he came in with him in his arms saying "Ooohhh Mummy, we stink..." and handed him over to me saying "Mummy does a great job at changing the yucky ones" laughing whilst saying it! Bloody bugger!!!! I guess it's my fault for ALWAYS doing everything myself!

Geez how they complain :banghead: But I always tell him that at least our ds will know who did everything for him when he gets older BECAUSE I'LL TELL HIM!!!:laughing:

[babycrazy]

SAME HERE!!!

My DH is useless at getting up at night - although I am sure he could if he wanted to. He even does this pathetic little wobbly walk if you make him get up - like he will cark it because it is 3 am! LOL
Then he complains all day the next day of headaches and a sore back and how he is so tired. :sleeping: He uses the excuse that he works all day. And I could just sleep and watch Oprah. (We have 6 KIDS!!! Who is sleeping in the day HUH????)
He is pretty good with the nappies though - We have this rule "You discover it - You change it!" I am a bit sneaky in that I have been known to not discover it immediatly so as to avoid changing the 2 year old bum - it is DISGUSTING. I have also trained her to go to Daddy and say "Its Daddy's job" LOL:D
She is getting the toilet training thing now though - so hopefully those stinkies will be few and far between.

So you are definately not alone there! It is worse now we have the twins though - because I am up almost all night. :mad:

Still - they are only little for such a short time and even though it is really hard - it does get better.:o

[Jem]

ahh babycrazy. My dp has decided to use the same rule as you "you discover it, you change it :laughing:
And i must admit, even when i have discovered it, i pretend that i cant smell a thing :D

[~Chick79~]

My DH is great!!!! :yelclap:

Has always been there to share the waking duties and the nappies! He couldn't be more supportive!

Now with his new job though it takes him away from home for 5 days straight but on the 3 days he has off he attends to Ryan during the night (if he stirs that is - he has always been a good sleeper!) and gets up with him in the morning so i can have some much needed sleep in time! And he always does the nappy changes! Mind you he once said that he would rather change a pooey bum then do his bottles.... I say that is a fair swap!!! :p

I couldn't have married a better man! :smiliedance:

[melfunction]

We share all of child-rearing here. We discussed when I was pregnant that we would both do equal share of getting up at night even though P has to work the next day..

I certainly don't think it is fair on any one person to shoulder the responsibility of getting up at night. Sure atm, we are both very tired and I especially, am not at all a 'good tired person'. But we get through it - together. We created this child together, so therefore we both do our share.

[Smurfette]

We share all of child-rearing here. We discussed when I was pregnant that we would both do equal share of getting up at night even though P has to work the next day..

I certainly don't think it is fair on any one person to shoulder the responsibility of getting up at night. Sure atm, we are both very tired and I especially, am not at all a 'good tired person'. But we get through it - together. We created this child together, so therefore we both do our share.

And thats the way it should be. Good on you both for being so fair and equal.
I don't normally mind getting up, I just find it frustrating that I don't even get the offer of help.

[ThomasMum]

No they are not all the same lol , my DH does pretty much 50-50 of houseworks and parenting from changing Thomas's nappies, cleaning the bottles, unload the dishwasher to getting up in the middle of the nights at any days (he works 5 days/week 8-5pm) :thumbsup:

[SassyMummy]

My DP can be helpful...but isn't always.

I love watching him change a dirty nappy - he gags and coughs and sputters...it's hilarious! One thing he refuses to do, is apply nappy cream (he thinks it's a disgusting feeling of having only cream between him and his daughter's bum).

I don't usually make him change nappies...because I know he hates it. If I'm tired though, and just "sick of it", I'll let him know if there's a poo and tell him it's his turn. It happens only once or twice a week, so he doesn't have the right to complain IMO.

DP will normally help, providing I tell him he has to do it. I'll say, "I want to go have a nap...you watch Chanel". If I go out...I have to write him a list of when and what to feed her...he just never learns! (I guess he doesn't spend all day doing it so I'll forgive him).

Sometimes I feel really angry that I am Chanel's slave, and he just gets to do little bits and pieces when I whinge...but then I realise that he works all week...5 days a week in 12-hour shifts. Surely he deserves a break. My job is demanding, but I am not at the risk of being fired. I can do a lot more than he can during the day (like watch tv whilst feeding Chanel or whatever), so I think it's only fair he gets time off with his beloved PS2 occassionally. lol.

...Next week I'm having my first night off ever! (It's my b-day on Wed...so on Sat I'm going out with the girls!)

[ButterflyKisses]

My dh very rarely gets up and when he does, he complains how tired he is the next day. How does he think I feel? I usually just prefer to do it myself otherwise I get huffs and puffs throughout the night and complaints the next day.
Is anyone else in the same situation. I would just love for him to really appreciate how tired and frustrated I get and to help me out sometimes without complaining.it's call selective hearing....:laughing: :laughing:

I really can't complain because my DH helps out with DS so much when he gets home from work so it evens itself out in our household.