Need advice!! I don't want a repeat of last night!

[Jeclipse]

Ok, I do not want a repeat of last night, so if any of you wonderful ladies have ANY tips, it would be greatly appreciated.

well last night Heath would fall asleep in my arms and then when I put him in his cot he would wake up and cry his lil head off, then I would just let him settle in my arms, then placed him in his cot again and the crying happened again.

This went on for 2 hours, on and off.
FINALLY he fell asleep in his cot, as he was REALLY tired and I was nearly in tears, thats how frustrated I was.:(

He is now in his pram asleep, and I may just let him sleep in that tonight, because he seems to settle in there better than his cot.

WHAT CAN I DO TO SETTLE HIM IN HIS COT?

please, any tips/advice would be sooo helpful!:)

[sweetsugardumplin']

Honey, if you can, try to get him to sleep in his cot. Maybe a warm bath and some soothing music, a feed and this will help you feel relaxed too.

Sleeping in a pram overnight is not recommended - it has links to SIDS.

Have you tried co-sleeping ?

Good Luck darlin' :hugs:

[Jeclipse]

Thanks for that, I'll try giving him a bath and trying to settle him again.

I didn't know it was a sids risk:eek: eek!
will definately NOT be letting him sleep in there all night:no:

:hugs:Thanks

[KapowSchazam]

He'd probably be ok in there overnight - he's not rolling yet is he? Is he able to wriggle up the top and get into harm? My pram has nowhere B get get hurt up the top, so Bianca would be ok, but her old pram would have been no good...

Do you wrap him? If not, maybe try that? A shirt of yours to sleep with?

[subaruforestermum]

Do you have one of those music and light things for the cot! Like the Fisher Price Auquarium???? Or even a basic musical mobile, I found these to help alot, as with the Aquarium, the light fades in and out, has ocean sounds, and makes me sleepy just watching it....and worked wonders with DS!

Other than that, maybe just stand with him while he is in his cot, and rub his tummy, or something he likes, sing to him, until he starts to nod off to sleep, then take a step back, so you are still there if he wakes again, (you know how sometimes they start to nod off, then open their eyes to look to see if your still there), and do that until he is asleep!

We also done the bath thing too, and that worked too, with a massage after his bath!

Just some things that worked for me.....not any 'RIGHT' advice, just experience fuelled suggestions!

Good luck

[Jeclipse]

Thanks, yeh well he pram idea has failed:thumbsdown:
Hes now awake and playing with his blanket!

Im seriously dreading going through all of this again... :no:

[Jeclipse]

Do you have one of those music and light things for the cot! Like the Fisher Price Auquarium???? Or even a basic musical mobile, I found these to help alot, as with the Aquarium, the light fades in and out, has ocean sounds, and makes me sleepy just watching it....and worked wonders with DS!

Other than that, maybe just stand with him while he is in his cot, and rub his tummy, or something he likes, sing to him, until he starts to nod off to sleep, then take a step back, so you are still there if he wakes again, (you know how sometimes they start to nod off, then open their eyes to look to see if your still there), and do that until he is asleep!

We also done the bath thing too, and that worked too, with a massage after his bath!

Just some things that worked for me.....not any 'RIGHT' advice, just experience fuelled suggestions!

Good luck

Thank you for that advice!:hugs:

I'm gunna go and try bathing him then settling him in his cot and singing to him..

I have no idea why I didnt think of that before! :(I think Im still learning about being a mum, its all getting abit overwhelming though and I thought he wouldnt be this hard to settle to sleep:no:

[KapowSchazam]

It is hard Cath, our bubs change what they need and want so often in the first year, it can often leave our heads spinning!

Have you read Tizzie Hall's book on getting babies to sleep? I can't remember the name of it, but lots of people recommend it!

[subaruforestermum]

Thank you for that advice!:hugs:

I'm gunna go and try bathing him then settling him in his cot and singing to him..

I have no idea why I didnt think of that before! :(I think Im still learning about being a mum, its all getting abit overwhelming though and I thought he wouldnt be this hard to settle to sleep:no:

Thats ok, and hey guess what, my son is 28months old, and I am still learning how to be a mum.... so dont worry if you need to ask for help! Thats what this place is here for anyways!

Goodluck, you will both work each other out soon enough, and settle into things!:hugs:

[Littleyorkshirepudding]

Hi,

You poor thing it is so hard isn't it - My tip would be to establish a bedtime routine early, play, bath, quiet time, feed then bed and try not to settle Heath asleep in your arms, put him in his cot and gently settle him.

I found after Ruby stopped being wrapped around 12 weeks we used a grobag for her to sleep in and still do and this became part of the bedtime routine, it's like as soon as she is in it she knows it is sleep time and for a long time now I have followed the same bed routine almost every night and Ruby settles very easily I basically put her in the grobag kiss her goodnight and walk out the door and don't hear from her until the morning its fab.

But I know all babies aren't the same and don't settle the same but this worked for us. How old is Heath?

Good luck anyway I'm sure you'll get lots of tips of mums here as we've all been through it or going through it and all have our own little ways - so take what you need and I hope it works

Thinking of you

LYP

[neostudded]

Julius has done this for months :sleeping::hissy: :sleeping::hissy:

Different thing work for us some nights but the only constant thing that ALWAYS works is wearing him until I go to bed, then co-sleeping.Sometimes I use a mix of dummy/bfing, egro and vacume noise.

I found our vacume (sp?) to be a life saver.
other things is
Patting, dummy, boob, wrapping...

But I found wearing him in an egro was the best thing, I can now take him out very easly without waking him up.Hes way more settled.

Good luck

[Ashleigh<3]

I used to do the naughty thing by feeding her on a pillow, then when she looked very asleep, I'd slowly lower her down with the pillow into her bassinette, I had the bass right beside my bed and I had a night light so I'd read a book and wait for an hour or so then I would try and be sneaky and move the pillow from beneath her, (By that point she was so asleep it was too easy), I know every baby is different but I just thought I'd share one of the tricks we tried and it always worked.
It isn't needed now cause the gal just drops where she lays. lol She won't even let me cuddle her to sleep or I get a slap to the face. :( :laughing:

[Littleyorkshirepudding]

Sorry Jeclispe I just realised that Heath is nearly 3 months old - I think at that age it is normal for them to be a bit unsettled in their cots.

As I rightly remember Ruby slept in with us until about 14 weeks old then we moved her into her own room and I remember she was hard to settle at first and I use to settle her in my arms until she fell asleep and I did the same as you until I realised very quickly it didn't work and started the bedtime routine which worked for getting her to sleep and I swear by the grobag, but obviously at that age she was still waking for breastfeeds through the night, but at 9 months she finally dropped the middle of the night feed and has slept through ever since as per my other post.

Good luck once again

LYP

[RmumR]

hey i can sympathise with you. I still put Chelsea to sleep in my arms then do the transfer to the cot, sometimes i do it once and it works and other times i have to pick her up and start again a few times.
I also remember not all that long ago like when she was 2mths i was letting her go to sleep in her pram and once i was sure she was properly asleep (with her letting the dummy drop out was a sure sign of deep sleep) i would then transfer her to the cot, not an easy feat as had to navigate the stairs but easier than listening to her scream in her cot.
i'm also a supporter of a good bedtime routine, we do bath, quiet play where we read her a story or two then wrap her up and give her a bottle then pat her to sleep in my arms before putting her in the cot...

sorry for such a long story but i figure if any of it is helpful info for you then its worth writing.
good luck

[Tabby]

Katie was just like that! Slept pram better and the sleeping in my arms but waking as soon as put down... I found that my mistake was that as it was hot jan/feb I was trying to put her down unwrapped. I had to start doing it again, she also slept better in the pram when unwrapped and I think thats because there is that feeling of security with its close sides. Try a very thin wrap, wrap securely but not too tight and with just a nappy and a singlet on so he doesnt get too hot, let him settle in your arms to start with and transfer to the cot and see if that helps.
Worth a try..If it works you can then work on getting him to settle in there wrapped up and falling asleep on his own. It worked for us, After a week of wrapping and in my arms to settle and to the cot, I then concentrated on putting her down awake and about a week later she did! Soon as it cooled I changed to a light sleeping bag. She has slept well ever since.
Oh and for extremely hot day naps I had a fan in her room, over in the corner well away from her but keeping a bit of air on her so she didnt get too hot being wrapped.
Also the bath before bed has always been our routine, makes for a better sleep imo.

Hope you find a solution soon :hugs:

[Jeclipse]

Do you think it would be ok to let him sleep on his tummy?

Ive just got him asleep in his cot on his belly and he seems soooo much happier..

[OJandMe]

does he sleep in the same room as you?

I've let Gabby sleep on his tummy when he was in the same room... I don't now though.

[Jeclipse]

Yeh his cot is right next to my bed.

[mm85]

maybe wait till hes into a deep sleep and slowly and gently roll him over,

[mm85]

sorry for double posting, or try just slowly turning him bit by bit how long ago did he fall asleep??

[FunkyMonkey]

TJ is a tummy sleeper and has been since he was able to roll. If he goes to sleep on his back he'll wake up in under an hour every time.
If you can get Heath to sleep on his tummy maybe roll him on his back after a while, when your sure he's really asleep, just to be safe.

DS still sometimes sleeps with us at 19 months. I remember the unsettled period at about 3 months and wrapping did help too.
Whatever happens try to relax and not to focus on him not sleeping. If he has to sleep with you, so be it. At least then you'll both be well rested.

[Jeclipse]

I'll try turning him later on, I dont feel safe leaving him to sleep all night on his tummy though, as he cant roll yet

[sweetsugardumplin']

How did you go last night ? :hugs:

[subaruforestermum]

Do you think it would be ok to let him sleep on his tummy?

Ive just got him asleep in his cot on his belly and he seems soooo much happier..

My son has always slept on his tummy since he could roll, and we never had a problem. I had a monitor though, and would check on him often.....I would put him to bed on his back, but he wouldnt stay there!

And he still does now. Prefers to sleep on his tummy!

Hope it went well!

[Jeclipse]

He slept sooo much better last night!
Thanks for all the helpful tips!:hugs:

I bathed him and then fed/burped him. He started sleeping so I placed him on his tummy and he fell fast asleep. I left him there for an hour (checking him regularly) and then turned him back over before I went to bed. He slept in until 5 oclock which was HEAPS better than the other night:yelclap::thumbsup:
Im going to let him sleep on his tummy once hes able to roll over by himself...

Thanks again everyone:)

[reAllytee]

What about using a sleep positioner ( i know not recommended due to SIDs risks but can honestly save a mums sanity ) this way he can lay on his side to sleep without a risk of him getting onto his tummy.

Both of mine sleep/slept on their sides this is the only way they would sleep at this age. But then they also have/had reflux so its better for them.

I always found with Boof that he liked me patting him off to sleep & then when i put him in the cot he would get patted for a little while after & he was happy. If i didnt pat him he would scream. With Squeak its a whole new kettle of fish with him basically spending most of the early nite in his cot till he wakes when he then comes into bed with me.

Try a few different things & then work out what suits him each baby is different ... Wouldnt it be nice if they came with a manual !

[Jeclipse]

haha, a baby manual would be sooo handy:laughing:

Yeh I've tried him on his side before and some nights he does fall asleep on his side. Its annoying because some nights on the side works and others it doesnt.

It is really just trial and error:yes: