I dont know whether to have another one..

[Indigosmum]

Hi Everyone,
I always imagined that I would have 2 kids.. I now have a gorgeous 1 year old son who is my world. I am a SAHM that studies 1 day per week at Uni. I am doing my degree part time for 3 years then fulltime over 2 years.. so I have it mostly mapped out in that respect. I had a plan to finish uni then do some relief teaching or part-time/contract work and thought my idea worked well. But over the past few weeks when explaining myself, people are like 'arent you going to have another baby' when I finish my degree I will be 31 and no offence to those over 30, but ideally I would have liked my children by 30, 32 at the eldest. I also have PCOS, so who is to say how long it will take me to concieve. But, in all honesty I think I would be better to have another baby within the next 2 years.. (ttc in about 6-12 months time) that way I could have another one whilst I am only parttime at uni and then by the time I am employable! lol, my first would be in school and my second would be in kindy. I know this is wishful thinking and lives cannot be mapped out down to the tee, because life has a funny way of screwing things up.. but it doesnt hurt to have a vague plan does it???/
lol

[madvoice]

Its a good idea to have a plan to work off. We all need goals and it looks like you have yours mapped out pretty well. If anyone else tries to tell you different don't listen ;) Good on you :)

[my babyemmy]

i think if you can have a plan then go for it:hugs: (sometimes i wish i could plan my life a bit more)

[mumma of 2]

i have already had 2 of the best children. but i have been down a long hard road. i'm only young to but i have been with my husband since we were 14 and then got married at 21 and then children at 23. i lost two before i had my daughter then two and a half years later i had my little baby boy 3 months early ( he is now 4 months and doing well) but any way my message is that my mum doesn't want me to have more cause i have been through enough but i have always wanted 3 children. so this is some thing i will have to think about. i will not let my mum make my mind up you need to do what is best for you and your family.
go with your plans don't get told what to do be others.
Hope sounds ok instead of sleeping after a restless night i'm typing instead and things aren't coming out quite right. :ecomcity: :ecomcity: :ecomcity:

Cheers
Sheridan 27
Husband 27
Brigette almost 3
Blair 4 months

[MustangMumma]

I think you should do what your heart tells you to do!! Follow your plan, it sounds like a great one to me!!!:D

[JnA]

I think having a plan is a good thing. We all must realise that our plans need to be flexible, but if you are the sort of person that likes to have a goal or two in mind, then plans are great.

Try not to listen to what others say about having kids.. the only person that really knows what's good for your family and situation is you.

Good luck with the study.

[SassyMummy]

I think having a plan is a brilliant idea. Of course, things might happen which prevent you from sticking to the plan...but things may travel smoothly...and your plan may very well be the best decision you could have made!

Screw what other people think you should do...and do what you will. If you want to have a baby...then why not? As I'm sure you know, the older you get, the more difficult it can become to conceive (as well as the more likely there will be problems)...so if you want a baby soon-ish...then make sure you tell everyone it's you're own choice...and then have as much sex as you can!

GOOD LUCK WITH EVERYTHING!

[Indigosmum]

Hey Guys,
I just got on here to post my predicament and realised I already had! lol. I am still wrestling with it in my own mind.. I think it is just nerves stopping me now plus timing, if I went ahead with another pg I would kinda like the baby to be born around November-December, that way I would be on uni holidays and wouldnt have to have the baby one day and be in lectures the next! lol. If we concieved this month, it would be a December baby, but I love xmas! So I dont know how I would cope if I landed in hospital on Xmas day and missed out on Indigos 2nd Xmas!! And If I concieve next Month it will be born around my birthday... I think I might just do what happened with Indigo, just let nature run its course, when it happens, it happens. I wont actively try, i will just leave it to chance and will be overjoyed and bloody scared when it does happen! lol

Me - Danielle - 13/01/81 (25) :sleeping:
He - Damien - 22/09/80 (25) :sleeping:
Cutie - Indigo - 14/02/05 :kiss:

[natasha]

Hey guys,

how do your hubbies feel about this? Do you think they are just going along with you?