can't decide...

[HollyHotLips]

I have a lovely DD, she is six months old now and good as gold. I think I would like another baby but I just can't decide.

Before I had DD I was very much in the "undecided" category about having kids at all. After a lot of thought we decided to TTC and see what happened, I was lucky enough to fall pg after only a couple of months and honestly now I couldnt imagine not being a mum.

Now I have the same feelings. I love being a mum and in one way I would like another, not wanting DD to be an only child is one factor, but on the other hand I'm pretty sure a second baby would not be as easy as DD is, plus I had a sister and all we did was fight and bicker throughout childhood - really dont want that!!!

PLus, although the pregnancy and the birth were OK afterwards I had a lot of bleeding and had to have a D&C to have a piece of placenta removed, plus the stitches were painful for weeks. Not sure if I want to go through all that again....

So, how do I make the decision? Or do we just TTC again and see what happens on the basis of "if it is meant to be it will happen..."

I am 35 in March so need to start thinking about TTC soon as I would like to be done with being pg before I turn 36.

Anyone else had this dilemma? And how did you resolve it, stick with one or go for another?

Thanks :flowerz:

[naiwen]

Hey there,
Do not feel as though you have to have another baby just because people normally have two. I think you should only TTC if you truly want another bub, do you feel that longing in your heart for more babies. Or could you see yourself in 10 years time with just one beautifull child.
Hope you find you awnsers.

[MumOf4Monsters]

Hey there,
Do not feel as though you have to have another baby just because people normally have two. I think you should only TTC if you truly want another bub, do you feel that longing in your heart for more babies. Or could you see yourself in 10 years time with just one beautifull child.
Hope you find you awnsers.


:iagree: with Naiwen! I think that if you are contemplating having another baby then obviously you do want another one. I felt just like you do before TTC all of my kids.
My 1st DS was 8 months when i started to long for another baby, and i had all of those thoughts running through my head.....oh gees the morning sickness, the labour, can i handle 2 kids, will it be healthy, what will people think, can we afforrd another...etc...etc
In the end i knew that i wanted another baby and we did have another, and another, and another :yelclap:LoL!!!

I think when you've had enough of having kids you "know":yes:

Sounds to me like you do want another baby but you're just trying to rationalise everything. I say if you know in your heart that you want another baby, then have another.

Good luck with your decision!:hugs:

[AnnaC]

I have heard people say you only ever regret the children you didnt have never the ones you did.

Good luck with your decision

[HollyHotLips]

Yes, I think I am trying to rationalise...

I will leave it a bit longer and see how I feel in a few months

Thanks for all your posts, they have helped :xmastree:

[tawk2006]

:iagree: with everyone else. Sounds as if you do want another baby but I wouldn't rush into it until you're 100% positive that you want another bub.

Good luck with your decision.

[mazzie]

Honestly I don't think you would have posted if you didn't want another baby somewhere in your heart.
Personally I would just TTC and if it happens, it happens. It took us 5 months to TTC Tia, and if you want to be done by the time you are 36 you should start soon ;)

[greengables]

ive just had my 2nd - i was worried my older dd would b jealous, worried it would b really hard managing 2, didnt want more pain....could i possibly love another child like i love my dd...?..my bro and i always fought...

i can only say that once i held them both in my arms 2gether for the first time it was a magical moment - like my heart is now 3 times the size....!

(so far at least) they adore each other....this is the cutest unexpected thing....they're a little 'gang'

[Everyday]

I know how you feel! I wasnt sure either but now i really want a second child in fact i cant stop thinking about it! te only thing is DH doesnt want another as he has 2 to prev relationship. :(
Your heart will tell you what to do.