How close is too close??

[liah]

Hi everyone how are we going?

My issue is how close is too close when it comes to the age gap between children? My DS is nearly 10 months old but lately i have found myself itching for another baby. I am a sahm and i absolutely love my job. I have mentioned it to DF but he keeps brushing it off and saying wait until the end of the year but i guess i am just impatient :shame: I CAN"T WAIT!! LOL. I never thought that i wanted my children close in age but for some reason i have changed my mind.

What are your opnions when it comes to age gaps and should i pressure DF a little more or be patient and wait (even though i really dont think i can :) )

Thanks everyone,
Liah

[jarrahsmumma]

Dunno really - it depends on your ability to cope, your relationship with your partner, your child, health, finances, blah blah. I know a couple who have children 15 months apart and she is a wreck most of the time. But I know of another couplw ho had their first child in January and the next in the December of that year!!:eek: She copes beautifully, but aparently she is a very chilled out relaxed mama. She BF both kids for ages too. It really is up to you.

[Oscar's mum]

What are your opnions when it comes to age gaps and should i pressure DF a little more or be patient and wait (even though i really dont think i can :) )




That baby itch is hard to ignore isn't it! I have the same problem, I have been clucky from about 6 months ago and DH says not until August! Eeek:eek:

[moonblossom]

I think it just depends if your a layed back, chilled person or one that stresses easy. I'm a gemini so when it comes to child rearing, I'm totally unstressed LOL

Having the last two close together was a challenge, being so much older. but I'm enjoying this pregnancy, because there is a six year age gap, and will have lots of time to spend without fussing over another.

Saying that tho, I've had them close and have no regrets.

I don't think it has any bearing on how it affects the children, just you and your partner.

[Jamily]

I am having the same dilemma totally. Hubby has said he is happy to go for it now (Emily is 9 months old on the 16th) so I don't know what to do! I would love another bubby close in age to Emily but maybe waiting a few months would make all of our lives a bit easier, but .......... :confused:

[bronny-jane]

my dd's are 15 months apart, it was hard for the first month, but now it couldnt be any easier, they just amuse each other, with an occassinal wrestle in between.

[Kells]

My ds and dd are 19 mths apart and it is FANTASTIC!!!

Sure, there were challenging days (hey..who am I kidding - there still is!!:D ) but on the whole I love it. Especially once the youngest hit about 20 months, they have just played together so well. They love each other immensely and are each others best friends. :)

I am currently TTC #3 and if successful have decided to go for a fourth:eek: close to the third to allow that 'playmate' thing again.

The only thing I think you miss is the 'baby' time with both of them. My DD didn't really get it cos I had a toddler to look after, and my DS, although only 19mths old, was treated much older (not that this was a bad thing) as he was the 'big one'. Looking back at the photos now though he was still a babe...:(

But I would fully recommend it to you.

[HoopDeeDoo]

I was going to wait until #1 was at least 12 months old, but got impatient LOL
We started trying a month early, and I was pregnant by Noah's first birthday! :smiliedance:

I'll let you know how I go........

[HoopDeeDoo]

I must say though it is hard being pregnant with a toddler. The days he doesn't sleep are very hard, as I don't get a rest. My DH is fantastic, and has been doing a lot more to help me out, he cooks most nights, and has taken over bath duty, as lifting a wet wriggling monster who weighs more than 12 kgs out of the bath is getting really hard :laughing:

[Jamily]

ok ladies you have persuaded me! I think we'll start trying now - wow how exciting :smiliedance: it might take a while as my cycle is a bit strange as I have just weaned, but fingers x'ed. The strange thing is that I can't imagine loving another baby as much as Emily, but of course I know I will. Is that normal?

Cx

[kate_perth_10]

i had my two 13 months apart and i have to say i was permanetly exhausted for a year!!! Now that they are older (2and3) its alot easier they amuse each other although there are alot of squabbles.
Next time i'm hoping for a 3 year gap so we're trying now!!!:fingerscrossed: