going backwards with a new baby at home

[mumma of 2]

My daughters is almost three and has been toilet trained for the past 5 to 6 months and had been doing ok ( as most children do there are the one or 2 wet pants) but lately there are 10's to 20's of these wet pants. she has also taken to not putting new pants on and running around but naked. and doing poo's in the back yard in the garage and in the house has happening to much. i can understand that she may be taking a back step with a new baby brother at home and since he was prem (3month) so she had to deal with hospitals etc. but has any one got some tricks that they have tryed or know something i should try cause i'm sick of washing esp with all the rain i can't keep up.

Cheers
sheridan 27
Hub 27
Brigette almost 3
Blair 4months

[Baby Girl]

My 3yr old DD had a major setback for about 3 months but it wasn't until the new baby was about 6 months old so I don't think it had to do with that but...

I would ask her every morning if she wanted to wear knickers or a nappy and go with her choice without question. If she wanted knickers I would ask her 2 questions.... Where are you going to do wee? and Where are you going to do poo? It seemed that as long as I asked that 9 times out of 10 she would use the toilet for the day. If she had more than 3 accidents I put her back in nappies for the rest of the day, no questions asked (sounds harsh) but I would explain to her that she could try again tomorrow if she wanted to.

I let her know that if she needed to do a poo and she wanted a nappy on for it that was fine she just had to ask.

I explained to her that she was a big girl now and if she wants to go to 'big' school soon (preschool) then she needs to learn to use the toilet.

I explained to her that babies like her little sister needed to wear nappies but because she is growing up now she gets to start wearing knickers.


Basically back to the same type of things I did with her and told her when we first started TT.

It can be very frustrating but it is embarrassing for the littlies too!! As far as I can tell, they just want to make us happy when it comes to something like using the loo and it makes them feel bad if they have an accident especially if they see mum/dad upset about it. I tried even harder than when we first started TT to be extra happy when she used the toilet and not show any emotion at all about her having accidents, just clean it up and start again.

I gave her the choice of nappies for a little while just to give myself a break on the washing and she used to tell me when she needed to go even when she had her nappy on (I told her that was ok).

She is now back on top of things - it will happen.

Patience - patience - patience :thumbsup:

[Dan&2bubs]

I've actually just gotten on here to look for some help with this exact issue. I had a star chart going for a while, where Alexis (2.8years) would get an ice-cream after 5 toilet trips. This worked like an absolute dream for a while, but now we've got a bit slack with the chart (we just 'forget' to give her that star at night time if it's the fifth one and it would mean putting off bedtime and another round of teeth brushing). She's also taken to getting up at 5am and while she doesn't come into us, she goes a bit wild in the living room (wees on the floor, has torn up a book, has poured a water bottle out on the coffee table - at least, I hope it was water! I don't know whether to try and lock her into her room - is that cruel? And would that just mean she'll wee on her floor? I've tried putting the potty in the corner, so she can use it in the morning if she can't make it to the toilet, but she never has. But, I've also decided to try another chart, but this time with different rewards - a trip to the beach, some stickers, go swimming, etc. They aren't necessarily immediate rewards, so I don't know how it'll go but I think she's old enough to understand what's going on. If anyone has any help for me, I'd be extremely happy to hear it!