hardest to deal with?

[sara-jayne]

i have seen threads with this sort of info in it but i was interested to see a poll with the answers.

what did you find the hardest? going from no kids to a baby, 1 child to 2 children 2 to 3, 3 to 4? you get the picture.

poll coming

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I'm about to have #2, so once we've settled in I'll try and remember to come back and vote...

Though circumstances are different for us this time...

[Noah_and_Elijah]

I can't tell you as I haven't had number 2 yet but from what I've been told going from 1 to 2 is the hardest, emotionally anyway.

[punkbaby]

I think going from just having no children to one is more so life changing, if that makes sense, you have to learn how to be a mum, yes it comes natural but you also have to learn to make sacrifices etc.

I found going from 1 to 2 the hardest, i guess i had to multi task, share myself and i couldnt like sleep when i wanted too as they never sleep at the same time LOL going 2 to 3 didnt really phase me, number 4 well the only thing i notice thats a pain is the car factor i cant take anyone with me now

[sara-jayne]

i should have made the poll open to more thsn one answer as im sure every one on here will say that having the first is a hard as any subsequent babys, i found it hard to have one but it was alot harder when i had my second, getting katie to sleep was the worst because T would wait till katie was almost asleep then wake up for a feed so katie would crack it:hair: thank god those days are kind of over, well not really but i try not to thinka bout it cause it makes me want to run away:D

[forbetoel]

I haven't really found any hard, but I have found each one more enjoyable.

[pookiesossige]

Going from no children to our first baby was much more challenging...

IMO, nothing can prepare a parent for the heartbreak, stress and frustration of an inconsolable, crying, colicy newborn :gloomy:

The worry over every small detail... routines, diet, weight gain.. the list goes on.

Ariene was so much easier as a baby though, and not just because she was the second... We were so lucky, we were hoping we'd be cut a break with #2, and we were!! :D

I found that the identity change (childless, working young wife becomes SAHM with extra 10 kilos and no sleep) had already happened with bub #1 and less adjustment was required.

[3TinLids]

Going from 1 to 2 was the hardest. Learning to spread yourself amongst two when you had devoted yourself wholly to the one child previously. After 2 you become much more adept at looking after babies and children. You also don't stress the small things as much as you did with earlier children. I had No.4 10 weeks ago and she has just fitted in. The only hassle is getting everyone into the car and getting the kids to school on time.

Rebecca:wave:

[SassyMummy]

I really think it would depend on when you have your 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc, kids.

A bigger gap, or a smaller gap between babies could make all the difference in how "easy" it is. Then the babies themselves as well.

I predict that, emotionally, it will be easier for me when I have my next child, as DD will either be in school, or just about to start. I'll get to be a full-time parent to my newborn, and an "after school hours," parent of DD... instead of dealing with her AND a new baby all day every day like I would if I had one now.

[Hollywood]

None to one, definitely (well, I've only got one, but other parents have said that to me). It's a huge life changing event! With subsequent children your life has already changed, so I would imagine that it isn't such a shock like it is with the first.

[tawk2006]

I found it kind of easy with just one baby and now that I have 2 under 3yrs, there are definitely days where its harder and can be more than a tad frustrating. But it can't be that bad as I'm now yearning for #3!

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[Chelle123]

I found that going from none to one not that hard because all my attention was on him.
Going from 1-2 was extremely hard as I had to deal with DS1's emotions and spread my attention further. I'm sure that going from 2-3 will have its challenges to but my boys are at an age where I can reason with them now.

My biggest fear is how DS2 will cope as he's a real 'mummy's boy'.

[OJandMe]

Going from 2-3 was horrible for me.

But I have different cicumstances in that both my older children are going through the terrible 2's at the same time... so I don't have an older one I can reason with, or trust with the younger one... they are both that unreasonable, tantrum throwing, want my own way, need to be the centre of the universe age.

It's not 'VERY' hard all the time, only when trying to feed the baby... as you can't sit for 30 mins while your one older child plays and feed the baby... you have constant sibling rivalry on your hands... so it's never an uninterrupted feed, as your always sorting out fights.

That's just what I found though...

[lilpearl]

In my experience, becoming a mother for the first time was slightly challenging at times (just getting used to the night-waking), but pretty easy going.

Going from 1-2 children wasn't a big deal, just needed a double pram, etc, but my then 18-month old son loved his new baby sister, and I was used to night-waking.

Going from 2-3 has been quite full-on, it is a real juggling act, I find.

Mind you, my children are 3 1/2, 2, and six months respectively, so I would assume it would be easier with a larger time-gap between children. I've got two at tantrum age, and a baby, so it's all a bit crazy around here at times! :laughing:

[Areca]

0-1 for me cause I had to learn how to become a mother.

1-2, at 11 weeks in has been easy (and I have 2 under 2 so not a big age gap and DD1 doesn't go to daycare or anything). I was told to brace myself and prepare for the nightmare by so many people but I'm still braced and I'm still waiting.

[Wantonemore]

2-3 was harder than 1-2.

But yiou get used to everything.

Cass:idea: