overreacting or not

[Aysha'sMummy]

Do you think i'm overreacting

my mother in law wants to buy a cot or pram for the baby and i don't want her too i think it' something me as a mother should do. They are only now starting to have something to do with us because they know i'm pg... and i hate it... it's apart of the reason i don't want them buying anything...

does that sound stupid or not

Kiralee

[KarleeH]

Absolutely not, she sounds just like my MIL, had nothing to do with me till DS was born. My mum bought us a car seat and MIL bought us the pram, that was okay by me, but WE bought the cot, changetable and so on. MIL even tried to keep buying us nappies and formula and I put a stop to that as like you, I think it's the mothers job and something you enjoy forking out the money for. She only buys nappies for her house now as we use cloth and my mum will use the clothies but she won't so I'm not paying for them.

Just let her know you don't need her to buy anything for you and if she wants to, she can keep it at her house. Mine buys a lot and sends it all back with us, so we have to store **** we don't even want or need.

[Maia's Mummy]

my parents have bought the pram for us. But they had always said they would buy the pram.

My MIL and FIL have nothing to do with us either, if when they find out that there first grandchild is on the way they start the big suck up. As i imagine they will. If they offer to buy stuff i will also refuse.

I think its also the thought that everytime you view that item you will think of them. You would much rather look at it and think of the baby.

Plus if they are anything like my MIL they will probably use it against you one day if you let them buy something!

[OJandMe]

If you can choose it.. let her buy it.

Saves u $$$

[samken]

If you can choose it.. let her buy it.

Saves u $$$

ditto

[~mia&ryan~]

If you can choose it.. let her buy it.

Saves u $$$
I agree, just take it as a kind gesture and maybe as a sign that they want to mend things with you...

[snapcracklepop]

Hey Kir, :iagree:. But if they dont like the idea of you choosing it, then just tell them thanks but no thanks as i want the cot that i want. You could also suggest them buying something else big, say a bouncer or the high chair. That way they are still included but not purchasing a major piece. IYKWIM

[Lollie86]

If they dont let you choose just say you are buying one that is a bit of $$$ and couldnt let them spend that much so you will get it.

[greengables]

i think make the most of any assistance/support that is available - you will need it when bub is born - unless it is really causing you so much stress. Try watching Everybbody loves Raymond for some tips.

[Aysha'sMummy]

Thanks guys my DH wants me to keep my mouth shut to keep the peace.... so i kind of am.... they will probably let me pick it as i told them i have everything picked out....

DH dragged me to coffs today so i have already had a cry because he knows how i feel about it yet wont stand up and say something.

Maybe it's not such a huge deal but i have been wanting this for years and i feel like we as parents should get everything not everyone else.... i wouldnt even let my parents buy big things because i don't feel it's their place... like we wanted the baby so we should be able to buy what we need etc...

I don't mind people buy small things like clothes etc but big things i feel we need to buy