I need some input on how to deal with kids and separation.

[Jacks Mummy]

Hi everyone.

I need some input as to how to handle my two older kids and my youngest child with there outbursts of anger and frustration. They are doing it tough with their father leaving us and I just want some input as to what is the best discipline to use at this time. I know alot of it is venting for them but I need them to learn that they cannot do it at each other.

My four year old has become very willful and stubborn and I do not want to break those qualities as for a girl they are good qualities as I do not see her getting pushed around when she gets older. I just want to curb or control them a bit better.

The ten year old has become a recluse and can get very upset and angry at his sister. The next child is very caring but is very whinny and also disobedient at present with being told to do certaiin things. Also likes to talk back.

The older kids have been giving me what I call attitude and I have tried to make them see that I am not going to accept that but I am finding it hard.

Any thoughts would be appreciated.

[Emcee]

hi, i dont have the answers but i think instead of using discipline show love to all of them and talk to them in a caring way about what is happening and that they cant behave in this way because you all need each other and can still experiance joy and happiness but only by treating each other nicely etc i think they need to feel loved right now and not disciplined as such. Good luck xxx

[mumkc]

Hi there. I think there is a single parents forum on here somewhere. Why don't you make a post there, as I am sure more than one sp has dealt with a similar situation.

Good luck!