Little Dude

[lukaelmo]

Hello everyone,

I have been in two minds as to whether to share this or not, but as much as I adore DP, he is a dad, not a mum, and I can't get what I need from him in this situation.

Next month little dude is going to have surgery to bring down one of his little berries (testicles, I like to give them a nice name :D ). Three months after that, he will have a second surgery to first of all find the other berry, then, if found, to bring it down.

The dude is only 7 months old, and so little and innocent. For both operations he will be under a general anaesthetic, and during the second they will go through his belly button with a camera to find his berry.

I found all this out today, the details that is, I knew the operations would most likely go ahead. For some reason, what upsets me most, and what I keep focussing on is the camera in his belly button :( .

I know that no bubba deserves any kind of illness, and I feel so guilty that the dude has to go through this. Today he was so happy with the surgeons examining him, and all I could think of was that poor little dude has got no idea what's going to happen to him.

That's all, it's a bit long I'm sorry. I guess I am sharing this because I need a little empathy.

Thanks for reading,

Alison.

[draught]

Oh Ali - sorry to hear that he has to have the operations. If it is any comfort I believe that they make sure that mummies are around to comfort little dudes after such things - but a big cyber :hugs: to you and the dude in the meantime.

[MammaMia]

Alison

It is normal to feel this way about anything that impacts on your little man. We always long to give them a life without hurting, disappointments or sorrow.

Take heart that you are making a decision for his ultimate wellbeing. Know that he will wake to your loving face and warm, open arms.

And steal as many cuddles and kisses on those soft cheeks as gives your heart some peace.

Wishing you, little one and DH well in the road ahead.

[veve]

awww ali ... I'm all sad now ... :hugs:

I cant say I understand how you feel... as that wouldn't be fair..... but I'm here full of hugs whenever you need them!

Luka is a gorgeous young man - I"m sure he is as tough as his adoring mummy ... and I"m almost certain that he will surprise you with his determination and ability to recover.

I'll be praying for you and your little dude... and that you get wonderful hospital staff too... :hugs:

xxx

[the_queen]

Oh luvvey.... :hugs: :hugs: hang on, I think you deserve more hugs :hugs:

Do NOT feel guilty, you are a great mummy and he will be fine. It must be very scary to imagine the camera-in-the-belly-button thing, but in little bubba's they tend to do things like this in the least invasive way possible.

Vally had surgery as a little bub too, and I know exactly what you're going through. Babies shouldn't have to go through this stuff. But the one positive thing is that because he's not fully aware of what's happening, he will not stress out about it (that's what us mummy's are for - we stress out enough for everyone!!).

You guys are in my prayers :thumbsup: and please don't keep all your feelings inside, everything you are feeling is completely valid and you should vent as much as you need to. I am a firm believer that God doesn't give us more than we can handle, and that means you are strong enough to get through this.

(((((((hugs)))))))) (damn 4 emoticon limit :-p)

[jonesso]

hey lukaelmo

i am sorry to hear about little dude's procedure, but i am positive he will be fine and will come through it all ok. it doesn't sound very nice at all though {{{{{hugs}}}}}

i went through a different situation with nathan but it was still awful... when he was 1 month old he had suspected internal bleeding and the drs and specialists couldn't work out where the blood was coming from. As Part of their diagnostic tests Nathan had to have a colonoscopy and an endoscopy - camera up the bum and one down his throat. All this to a 1 month old.. he had a general anaesthetic too... I was beside myself, but was constantly reassured that this has to be done to help bub. Bubs also have a v. short pain memory, even at 7 months, so better to do these things now then later... I was distraught watching him having needles and seeing him lying in the cot on the ward... but he came out fine and little dude will too...

we're all thinking of you, and i am really glad you shared. we're all here for you.

x Sonia

[Pixie]

Aww dear I hope his berries end up on down near the branch :D

I am sure he will be fine, I worked in an OR for 7 years and while it wasn't with kiddies the fact it's a camera indicates it will only be a minor op despite the general anaes still it must be very daunting to see your little man go through it :(

it's good to share things sometimes when we just can't seek empathy from those around us, we have to look everywhere!

so good on you for sharing keep us up to date on the little guy ;)

[Kells]

Well, as the Queen said, it is a good thing that he is having the surgery so young, and will not be in the hospital kicking and screaming cos he knows whats gonna happen. IYKWIM.

My DS had heart problems as a bub, and has undergone about 7 or 8 surgeries now, and the ones from when he was under 1 year old were definitely the best (if you can classify ops as best or worst,:confused: ) cos there were no questions from him, and no fear. The doctors should let you be with him until after he goes under the anaesthetic (be warned - REALLY yucky to see your bub like that, but they need you there so you get through it for the love of bub) and then they call you as soon as he wakes up and you are there then, so he will honestly not be traumatised by it that much.

But you, on the other hand........ it's hard, very hard, but you will get through it. Just keep thinking that it's for the best, and he cant go on without having it done, and all those other thoughts that get you through.

And then, when its all over, and he's fine, go have the biggest cry ever. You will need it by then. :D

Hugs to you. :hugs:

[Nickster]

Sorry to hear your little man needs to go through an op, Ali.

There's nothing I can really say that everyone else hasn't already so eloquently said, and I've never been through that - well, Libby had an IV line for the first 2 days after birth, but that's about it - but can I just send you big :hugs: :hugs: .

I'm sure he will be just fine, and it sounds like your doc is really thorough. Hang in there! Your little dude will bounce back in no time....:) especially with lots of special mummy cuddles and attention.

[lukaelmo]

Thank you all so much, I knew I would get what I needed here :). Devon Mouse, I didn't know this about camera procedures and it is fantastic to hear this, thank you.

Jonesso thank you for sharing what your little Nathan had to go through, I can't imagine how I would have felt if the dude had gone through all this at just one month old... why is it that the older they become the better is seems? Teehee, does that mean by the time he is 18 I'd just drop him off at the hospital :D .

Queenie, thank you, you always reply to my threads and in my books that makes you fanatbulous... thank you for sharing your stories of little Vallerie...

Kells, the doctors did tell me I could be there for the dude when he goes under, thanks for confirming my decision to be there for him.

The rest of you lovelies, I have met/spoken to you all only a few times, what wonderful friends you are becoming already :hugs: .

ps There were lots of little kids at that hospital today with things that a simple operation would never fix. Why is the world made this way?

[Rell]

I know what you are going through my little man had surgery to fix a blockage in his stomach at 3 weeks old. The hardest bit is handing your little one over before the op. Nathan's surgery was key hole and as a result he now has what looks like a little smiley mouth under his belly button:) (and 2 scars under his ribs)
Your little man is a strong boy and I'm sure he will get through this just fine. He might also get a special smile too!
Hope all goes well for you and little dude

[LittleBoysRock]

Poor little guy!!

Hope everything works out well.

Something to keep in mind is that Dr's are getting so clever these days, he should be recovered in no time at all.

Keep smiling for your DS.

[Rockett]

Hi Alison
I'm sorry to hear the little dude has to have an op :( ,I'm sure everything will go ok, good luck and give him a :hugs: for me,oh and one for you too :hugs:
Take care.:)

[rynosmum]

Hi Ali,

I can't begin to know what you're going through but can certainly imagine how stressed you must be.

Our babies are so precious so we try and control their environment and care so much. An operation seems out of our control as we won't be there. That said, the support of the other ladies here is certainly reassurance that all will go well.

You're a great Mummy and I'm sure he loves you dearly. He'll be thanking you in a few years when he has his two berries ! I used to know a guy at Uni who had one MIA and it really affected him - well, only because he told a few people and the boys gave him naughty nicknames...:rolleyes:

Best of luck - we'll be thinking of you both !:hugs:

[elissas]

Hi lukaelmo

I know how you feel, coz our DS has the same problem. Except he already has one testicle down, the other one's gonna need a bit of help.

But they did an ultrasound to find his... can't they do that? Or is the camera because they couldn't find it that way?

Don't know when Will is gonna have the surgery, he's only 2mths, and we have the specialists appt in April. Can you keep us posted so I know how he goes re recovery etc...

Good luck and take care. :)

[DB&O]

I hope all goes well & your family esp Luka will be in my thoughts & prayers. I know that nothing we say will heal the hurt for you but please remember that we are all here for support & comfort & I'm sure that your little man will come through this with flying colours, kids are so resilient (sp?).
Good luck & let us know how things go.

[Peaceangels]

Goodluck little dude here's :hugs: and a :kiss: from us!

Ali, get yourself some Rescue Remedy from the chemist, this may help your nerves and anxiety leading up to and during the operation.

It's a pretty common procedure, so I'm sure all will be fine!
BTW, my DH had the same op when he was a bub and has had no problems whatsoever.

Take care, will be thinking of you all! :hugs:

[xkwzit]

Hi Ali

I'm so sorry that you are going through this right now. I think it is prb alot worse when you have all the details (instead if just thinking about it in general terms).

Try to be strong for him and we'll all be here if you need to decompress.

:hugs:

[Tea Lady]

I only just saw this thread Ali - I hope all goes really well for the little bloke. You poor thing - it's so hard when we can't protect them from all of life's knocks isnt' it? Let us know how you go, won't you? :hugs:

[Refresh]

OH *hugs * to you Ali, and to your little dude:)

[SuperWoman]

It is unfair that little babies and kids have to go through things like this. Im sure you little dude will be fine. Its more harder on the mums though!! Big :hugs: to you and your liitle boy!!!

[reAllytee]

Oh Ali :hugs:
Plus one for little dude :hugs:
I know this must be hard for you but try to remain positive that this is something that will make his life better.
My thoughts & prays are with both of you through all of this :)