5 minute warnings.

[Seekrit]

I know this is probably one of those "duh" topics... but it's something that I've only just started with Cobes... unsure if he'd respond as he's so young.
But I give him 5 minute warnings... and the change is amazing!

Previously I'd pick him up at 7 and say "Ni ni's time, say ni ni to Aunty becca/daddy/dogs/moth" and he'd start wriggling and crying and carrying on...
Now I say "5 minutes before Ni ni." then after 5 minutes, I pick him up and he's more than happy to say ni ni to every spot on the wall..
TODAY I told him 5 minutes... then I said "right, ni ni's" and I went towards him and he turned around, waved to his daddy, then walked to bed himself
:eek:

He's responded so well simply at this time to these 5 minute warnings :D I'm so happily surprised.

[xkwzit]

I do it all the time...(except I'm less patient, it's two minutes).

At the playground, when they climb on those stupid rides at the shop, for bed, breakfast, dinner (I just a walking alarm clock, let's face it :p). But hey, it does work.

Cheers

[biscotti]

then after 5 minutes, I pick him up and he's more than happy to say ni ni to every spot on the wall..


Ahh yes, my 15 mth old is the same, she will happily say ni ni to inanimate objects once given the cue :) I use the five minute thing for my 7 yr old and my 10 yr old too - works just as well, although they don't say good night to the inanimate objects :D

[Alekay]

:yes: i use it as well with my 3 year old and it does work really well.

She now looks at me and says "just 5 more mins mum" holding her hand in the air.....its really cute:)

[Jenko]

Isn't great when you find something that works. :)

I use this for a lot of things too, like xkwzit. Bath time, leaving the park/beach, playground, bed, dinner, nap time, getting dressed...gosh I didn't actually realise how much I must say it :eek: :laughing:

I don't say think I say it all the time every time (well I hope I don't) but DD seems to respond much better after I've given her a heads up on what's going to happen next. I guess it helps their little minds get into gear.

[biscotti]

but DD seems to respond much better after I've given her a heads up on what's going to happen next. I guess it helps their little minds get into gear.

You see as an EC teacher, that's what I think is the key, toddlers, preschoolers need to know what is going to happen next....

[veve]

yup - I do it .. its something with ALWAYS do with children who have autism (helps them prepare and cope with change) .. so I just naturally do it with Jack ..

I also tend to try to do a two minute warning - and occasionally a one minute warning ... its natural for me .. so I dont usually have to 'think' about doing it .. - but yes .. it does work :) and minimise behaviour ..

the other thing that I do with Jack (makes some people giggle - but works a TREAT with one of the girls in my class .. so I do it with Jack) - used to do it more when he was younger- is get him to say 'bye' to objects :laughing: last Christmas he was only about 1 .. so we would say bye to the tree .. it helped him move to the next thing :yes: ..

Jack still says bye to the water in the bath :laughing: but now HE pulls the plug - not me ..

xx
Jen

[Roxy]

Depending on where we are and what we are doing, I give staggered time warnings, starting out as "soon, we will be/it will be time for", to "10/5/1 more minutes".

My most favourite moment ever was telling DS he had 5 more minutes for something or other, and him standing there saying "no mummy...2 more minutes!" holding 2 fingers up very proudly. All right then son, 2 mins it is :laughing: .. took him a while to cotton on to the art of negotiation!!

It works a treat here too - because it means that they have warning about when things are going to change, rather than just being taken away from whatever it was they were right in the middle of doing...

[xkwzit]

Actually, we use "good bye" too. "say bye to the Bob the Builder ride", "bye Bob!"

It really does seem to help.

[Pippi Longstocking]

Actually, we use "good bye" too. "say bye to the Bob the Builder ride", "bye Bob!"

It really does seem to help.

Shine says "bye bye booby" :laughing:

And we do the 5 minute warning thing too with heaps of success. I've found the kids are far more compliant if you give them a bit of warning. :yes:

[Queen]

:yes: I use them too.
You sound like a walking clock *at the third tone it will be three o'clock*:laughing: but its great, I do it for everything, bath, bed, going inside, playing, cleaning up etc

[KatiesMum]

Shine says "bye bye booby" :laughing:




:laughing: :laughing: :laughing: that is so cute

[tanni_83]

Ive never even thought of doing this...i shall give it a try and see how it goes.

How long does it usually take for it to 'sink in' though?